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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 26, 2014
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Does it matter if you are? What matters most is how you feel about yourself. We all project an image of ourselves to other people. The question is: do you feel like you have to pretend to be someone you're not in order to win the affection or respect of others? If you do, then people are not really respecting you, just the person you are pretending to be. It may be easier and better to be yourself. People who hide and pretend strongly fear rejection, but rejection is a normal part of life. It won't kill you, trust me. Know yourself, love yourself, be yourself--and you will be happy and secure.
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Profile: EternalFlashlight
EternalFlashlight on Oct 27, 2015
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No, You are not. Never think it and never let anyone tell you that. We all do what we want to do. We are in this world for ourselves, not for anyone. Then why do you care what someone thinks of you. What people think of you is none of your business. Stick to being you, because you have chosen to be this way. Be yourself! Be Happy!
Profile: BookwormBeauty91
BookwormBeauty91 on Nov 26, 2014
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The official definition of a poser is "a person who acts in an affected manner in order to impress others." In other words, one who acts like something they are not. In order to be a poser you have to lie to yourself to make others happy. synonym for poser is "show-off".
Profile: Arkelight
Arkelight on Dec 27, 2014
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Everyone is a poser in some way or form, it's how we function as humans. We have a need to adapt to our surrounding environment and this is usually the way in which we do it.
Profile: loooolita
loooolita on Dec 28, 2015
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Based on a theory of symbolic interactionism in sociology, we are all posers, and so, no one is!!!!!
Profile: Minh
Minh on Dec 20, 2014
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Do not worry about how other people see you. Worry about what you feel and picture yourself as. You are in control of your own life, you can be anything you want to be.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 3, 2014
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Why would you say that you are? The question suggests insecurity, which is something that most of us have to face. And sometimes that requires living by the idea of "fake it 'till you make it."
Profile: everydayisanewday
everydayisanewday on Jan 6, 2015
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Let me answer this question with a favorite quote of mine “If you spent your life concentrating on what everyone else thought of you, would you forget who you really were? What if the face you showed the world turned out to be a mask... with nothing beneath it?” Are you projecting to the outside world the same image you have on the inside?
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 8, 2015
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I feel like that is something you need to evaluate yourself. Like all those corny quotes we have heard all of our life, why be anyone else, but you?
Profile: puppylover420
puppylover420 on Nov 20, 2017
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What is a poser? Someone who assumes a particular attitude or stance, especially with the hope of impressing others. Everyone does that! Whether it is to impress your teachers, your boss or even your crush. Think of yourself as an evolving human being who changes themself to provide themself the best chance to survive- or in this case, to be liked and accepted! Hope I helped.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 29, 2014
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Being a poser depends on your own perception of your own Self. To have an outsider assign the label "poser" is irrelevant unless you, yourself, think of yourself as a poser. Descartes said, "I think therefore I am." Do you think you are a poser? If so, then yes. If not, then no.
Profile: Vilechylde
Vilechylde on Dec 17, 2014
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It's the majority that decides what's "in" and what's "out". A lot of people try different social groups to figure out who they are. Sometimes you have to play some hopscotch to see what fits you and you alone. The moment someone states that you are too low for their standards is when you have to believe that you are worth more than that. I firmly believe in the walk of the individual over the masses. True, every individual should have a circle of friends, but that circle is also for your individual needs. The process of seeking "you" is a tough one. Sometimes you have to take a little from a lot of groups to find something that resonates in your heart. So long as you seek yourself instead of the praise of others, then you are never a poser.
Profile: DouglasListens
DouglasListens on Nov 26, 2014
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Everyone has their own interests, hobbies, struggles, and strengths. What would you be posing as? You are who you are. :)
Profile: NotDownYet
NotDownYet on Jul 14, 2015
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Are you? It's really your decision. Look at how you act. Do you act that way just to impress other people, while on the inside, you aren't happy? If yes, then you are probably a poser. Try to do what you want to do, as long as it doesn't involve hurting others.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 15, 2015
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In high school, the last thing myself or anyone else wanted to be called was a poser. I struggled with this same question. What it meant for me wa, Am I acting in a way that is inauthentic? Am I putting on heirs? Am I trying too hard to be cool? The answer I came to is this; I can only be me. Anything and everything I or anyone else ever does will always be infused with who we are at our core. For that is the lens and perspective all is filtered through. I had to realize this and own it, and in doing so, it gave me great freedoms and permission to actually be more authentically me. Who we are, our personality, our psyche, is far greater than any trend or band, fad or craze. I will always be me, no matter what I "try on."
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 28, 2015
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Not if you truly believe in and enjoy doing the things you're doing! You're the only one who can judge yourself like that.
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Anonymous on Nov 16, 2015
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No I try to be as real and as giving as I can. As the quote says, "you were born an original, don't die a copy."
Profile: dancingTurtle59
dancingTurtle59 on Nov 17, 2015
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i am a poser i try to b what i think others want me to b i am so filled with anzietys and fears that i feel i cant b me
Profile: HelpfulHands01
HelpfulHands01 on Dec 8, 2015
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No of course not. Though it would help to have more information.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 4, 2016
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I think that everyone is a poser to some extent. Acting in a way to get attention is something that everyone does to some degree. If you feel that you aren't acting the way your true self would, then try and let that little you out a little.
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