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I want to stop thinking about my ex. What should I do?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 17, 2016
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FOLLOW THE 4 STEPS 1. TIME I think everyone knows how much time a relation eats up. We were in college so I honestly couldn't manage time for my interests. So decided that i would concentrate on my interests atleast for a brief period of 6 months and get back to my job again... 2. KILLING THE SOURCES I thought if i can stay away from the sources of my pain i think that would help me to some extent (Like the movies we watched together, the restraunts, the books, the gifts etc...) and I strictly managed to stick to this for the coming months. 3. NOT GIVING MYSELF A CHANCE i deprived my self of chances to contact her i told my best friend to change my fb, g-mail password(to which he cannot remember). trust me this was the defining move, once i felt so DAMN GOOD! A huge pressure of temptation was gone. I was no longer worried that one day I would have see her status message as "Had a lovely date after long time" (You know i had sleepless nights because of this worries) 4. CONCENTRATING ON MY CAREER My dad is decently rich but i know i cannot shamelessly sit at home forever. So I decided to i will use this time to explore as much as possible to make one final and serious decision about my career, and this motto really pushed me to explore a lot of things like, Neuroscience, philosophy, History, Design etc..
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Profile: courageousHand17
courageousHand17 on Mar 4, 2016
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The more effort we put into focusing on ourselves, the easier it is to move on from previous relationships. There is no easy answer or quick fix here, you will think about your ex from time to time...that's okay. The real focus area isn't so much the fact that you think about them, but rather what you feel when you think about them. It is normal to think about someone who at one point meant something to you and you don't need to fight it. Rather, you want to make sure that thoughts of your ex don't necessarily have a negative effect on your mood. Depending on the exact issues you feel, you can try focusing on self-care, talking things out with people, surrounding yourself with others, picking up a new hobby...pretty much anything that helps you progress as an individual.
Profile: lavieestbelle95
lavieestbelle95 on Apr 15, 2016
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The firsts months are the hardest. But, it's getting better. If he's not the one for you, then you need to stop thinking about him. You'll need your closest friends, relatives to do some activities together. Be happy. Be you. And oh, don't listen to sad songs. Believe me, a year from now you'll become a person you never thought you could be.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 30, 2016
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Cut off any communication you have with your ex. Delete them from any social media. Do things that will help you get your mind off of them such as going out with friends or playing a sport.
Profile: Ritch87
Ritch87 on Feb 5, 2016
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spend time with those people you care about and do what you enjoy. Get a new hobby and be yourself. soon you will stop thinking
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Not thinking about someone who played an important part in your life is hard but it gets easier. It can be helpful to find something new to experience. take up a sport, start a new hobby, hang out with new people. With time you will find your mind doesn't think about him/her as often.
Profile: CallmeP
CallmeP on Feb 17, 2016
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You can distract yourself by watching movies, I recommend comedy and horror. You can read a book, you can play some video games to let your mind focus on the game instead of anything else
Profile: CptWexell
CptWexell on Feb 21, 2016
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One thing you can do is to find something to keep yourself busy with other thoughts, like a hobby or discover a new hobby. Surround yourself with things or/and people that makes you happy.
Profile: shiningVision47
shiningVision47 on Mar 9, 2016
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When I went through my divorce, I found it helpful to do thing I loved and just for me. I have always enjoyed hiking and the outdoors, so I took a 5 mile hike by myself and loved it. Sometimes it is just good to spoil yourself.
Profile: zaix
zaix on Mar 13, 2016
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Try to move on with life and do things that you enjoy, theres no reason to be hung up on someone who isn't present in your life anymore, it is probably for the best.
Profile: Staystrong17
Staystrong17 on Mar 21, 2016
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Delete everything you had to do with them. Looking back on those things will not help you, Try to put yourself out there and be social. Who knows maybe you will find someone new!
Profile: AshcoSensei
AshcoSensei on Apr 7, 2016
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That isnt something that'll just go away. It takes time. Surround yourself with loved ones and take the time to build on yourself as a person. Stay positive! You're awesome (: Take it easy and discuss this with a member if you feel it is bothering you too much.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 13, 2016
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The memories of that person will never go away but value the good times you had with them. In time, and one you move on, the thoughts will fade away. These things take some time though]
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 14, 2016
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Try to break communication with them, remove things that would remind you of them and get involved in something new.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 16, 2016
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it takes time to forget someone .. but just fill your time to the maximum .. stay with positive friends .. and don't give yourself time to think about it .. once you start thinking .. call someone or clean the house or something
Profile: SenpaiXD
SenpaiXD on Jan 17, 2016
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Keep yourself busy. Do things you love to do and have a passion doing so. If you love music, find some new music to listen to. If you love sports, go out and play some basketball or soccer. If you love drawing or writing, write a story about how you feel or anything at all. Keeping yourself busy will prevent you from thinking about the scenario regarding about your ex.
Profile: Glace19
Glace19 on Jan 17, 2016
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You should begin to think of you first. I love most, wonder more. just think about you and your life.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 20, 2016
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Try to do all those things that you avoided when you were with your ex. When you realize that you're having fun without any restriction or hurdle, it will help you stop thinking about your ex.
Profile: truefrend
truefrend on Jan 21, 2016
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Shift your focus , read books watch movies , peruse hobby keep way from any thing that related to your ex.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 23, 2016
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Let your mind think about him/her, so you can release the feelings, and be more peaceful.
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