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Can my sexual orientation change?

Profile: Elliott13
Elliott13 on Jan 19, 2015
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Absolutely! Sexual orientation can, and does, change. Feeling changes in your sexuality does not invalidate what ever you previously identified as, and it is very natural to have your sexual orientation evolve with time. Getting to know yourself is a long process, and humans evolve as they grow in a variety of ways. It is possible for your identity to develop rapidly, or slowly over time. It's important to give yourself room to grow and explore, and supportive friends and family will understand that you have every right to identify differently than you did a few years ago, or even a few months ago. In the same way that someone might change their aesthetic or fashion sends, you can expect to see some changes in your sexuality and sexual orientation as you grow. It can be scary to find that a label you were comfortable with no longer fits, but if you need someone to talk to, you can always reach out to me.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 27, 2015
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One of life's little known facts is that many peoples' orientation changes several times in their lives! In fact, it's pretty normal all things considered! Many things influence your orientation, and as you change as a person and come to appreciate different perspectives and values in your life, your orientation can change according to that, whether it's to include or exclude something, shift or change forms in other ways. Does that mean you weren't ever really X, Y or Z? No--you were and are what you were and are in those stages of your life, and having that shift doesn't devalue what you did and are currently identifying as. You can go through a number of different changes in short or long succession, and even revisit different orientations during different stages in your life according to what's going on and how you perceive the world.
Profile: Emily619
Emily619 on Oct 27, 2015
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Your sexual orientation can surely change! It is completely normal, do not worry or fear. Mine has almost switched at times, and many other people I know have had the same experience, so don't worry about it.
Profile: rose1novocaine
rose1novocaine on Jul 21, 2015
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It can't really "change" but sometimes the realization that you're sexually attracted to the same sex/other genders can feel like your sexuality has changed because you realize that you're not heterosexual,otherwise,there's sexual fluidity ,which is like gender fluidity but the only difference is that sexualfluidity is about sexual attraction ,it's where you some days feel like you're attracted to men,sometimes to women,sometimes to both ,sometimes to neither etc,it can change depending on the person,sometimes it switches by days,sometimes by weeks,sometimes by month,maybe even years but that's not very common,but if you're sexuality fluid,your sexual orientation doesn't "change" because sexualityfluidity is a sexual orientation of its own.
Profile: RizanarB
RizanarB on Mar 21, 2016
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Your sexual orientation can change just as quick as 1 second or as slow as 100 years! But either way, it's okay.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 19, 2015
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Many people acknowledge the fact that sexual orientation is fluid. That means that a person who has lived their life only being attracted to girls MAY, at some point in their life, begin to like boys, too/ instead. You hear it all the time - people coming out as being a lesbian and marrying a man, a married, straight man suddenly being attracted to another gender. In my opinion, there's always a chance that your sexual orientation can change, and people should embrace it instead of fear it.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 1, 2015
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No, you can't change who you are. you may discover more about yourself/your sexual orientation but you can't change it. You may find that it is different then what you originally thought it to be.
Profile: Noah88
Noah88 on Mar 31, 2015
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Sexual attraction is a part of general attraction, and what you find interesting may change as you develop yourself and grow as a person. This means that sometimes, your orientation may change a little and labels may become ill-fitting. If you find that it changes, there's nothing to worry about: your feelings were not a phase and they're not declared invalid because they changed, you're just in another period of your life right now and that's okay. If you find that it doesn't change, there's of course nothing to worry about either.
Profile: HealingLotus
HealingLotus on May 6, 2015
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Sure it can, anything can change. Life is a process of self-discovery. I once thought I was straight, turns out I'm bi.
Profile: comfortableCand26
comfortableCand26 on Mar 12, 2018
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There are a various range of sexualities out there, many people are unsure of their sexual orientation. It can change; it takes time to figure out who you are.
Profile: listeningandcaring
listeningandcaring on Mar 14, 2015
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Of course! Sexual orientation (has well as gender identity) is fluid, meaning it can change at any time and that is perfectly normal.
Profile: Fairy
Fairy on Aug 25, 2015
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Sexual orientations can certainly change many, many times. This may be just due to realisation or experimentation, but whatever it is- be comfortable be with yourself and don't be afraid to change orientation if you aren't comfortable. It can change drastically, too! One day my best friend was bisexual, now she's aromantic/asexual. It's completely normal - it just takes time to realise what you're into, especially in the teen years ^.^
Profile: BreezySunshine
BreezySunshine on Jun 7, 2016
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Of course! Sexuality is fluid, so don't feel pigeonholed into one specific orientation if you're not sure. Of course, some people may never change, and might always identify one way, and that's perfectly fine too.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 31, 2015
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Of course! We all are growing and changing every day and discovering new parts of ourselves, but if you tend to see yourself changing from liking girls, to boys very often you may be bisexual
Profile: DonnieHarth
DonnieHarth on Nov 23, 2015
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Yes, it can! It can also very on different things. Example, a genderfluid person may feel attracted to mostly males, but when they feel more masculine, take a preference to female. This will happen a lot with people going through puberty, but can keep happening though a persons life.
Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Aug 12, 2019
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Your orientation is something innate, you were born with it. It cannot change, but you could start discovering things about yourself you didn't know before. Bisexuality for instance can be very confusing in this sense, because bi people may have a strong preference for one gender that makes them doubt who they really are.
Profile: TheUnusalInk
TheUnusalInk on Nov 3, 2015
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depending on the situation, the way you feel or if you are just plain unsure of course it can change
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 30, 2016
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Sexual orientation can definitely change along with sexual desires and feelings; they all change in some form!
Profile: GivingstonTreegull
GivingstonTreegull on Nov 10, 2015
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Human sexuality is fluid and given the right circumstances people may find themselves interested in things they had never considered. Specifically if you are an open minded individual. But that doesn't mean that all people change their minds about their sexual preferences.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 22, 2015
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Absolutely. You are entitled to your own opinion and sexual orientation. I have known several people who have changed their sexual orientation and are very proud of it. You are who you are, don't let anyone get you down for that!
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