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Profile: MonBon
MonBon on Apr 22, 2015
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It sort of depends on their views/knowledge of LGBTQ. Some people know a lot about it and recognize it as a completely okay facet of someone, and those individuals you can probably just casually mention it and they'll be okay. Unfortunately there are others you cannot do that with either because they know very little about LGBTQ or they have been taught it's bad. With those individual I think it's very important to reiterate that nothing about you is changing and you are still the friend and confidant to them you've always been, and let them know that they are important to you and thought they should know what you know about yourself. Good luck!
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 1, 2015
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When i came out, instead of having that "deep" talk with my friends I just blurted it out, it really seemed to work.
Profile: LeonMcLion
LeonMcLion on Sep 4, 2016
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There are no right or wrong methods to come out to your friends. Calling someone a friend means you trust them and you are comfortable with them. Having to tell your friends what you really are could be very challenging especially if you fear their reaction. If they accept you for you are then that's great! you should be friends with those kind of people. If they don't accept you for who you are then you just found out that you should find better people to hang out with. Good luck!
Profile: Tg119340
Tg119340 on Sep 26, 2016
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That's an extremely hard question. What I suggest is leave little hints here and there to see what they might feel or think about people who are gay. That way you can test the water and be sure they are safe to enter. That's what I did, that way when I told them I was not surprised to see they accepted me for who I was; most of them. There are those who I'm friends with that don't know because I know they have a strong beliefs against gays and I'd rather not create conflict. Not sure if that's the best decision because if my friends love me for who I am, their opinion of a gay person of color wouldn't matter.
Profile: BradyHero
BradyHero on Jan 9, 2017
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When you come out to friends, it might feel like there's a lot of pressure; however, sometimes the best way to do it is nonchalantly. Consider just sitting them down and having a casual conversation. Some of your friends might have trouble understanding your sexuality/gender; if so, be patient and explain it to them. If a friend rejects you or makes you feel bad about who you are, remember that you don't have to continue to be around someone if they don't respect you. Most of all, be cool-headed and confident. If there is no danger, coming out is a good thing. You should be proud of who you are, and hopefully, your friends will be too.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 11, 2017
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There isn't one specific way to do it, I don't think. I briefly mentioned it to one friend when I came out, and another I had to sit him down and tell him. Another I made a joke and that was how I came out. It's different for everyone! Try to figure out their stance beforehand to know how to tell them, and don't ever come out to them if the two of you are fighting. It's a bad idea. Good luck!
Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Sep 24, 2019
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You can wait for a quiet moment and then just tell them you've always wanted to share something with them, and go on explaining how you feel, how you found it out, what it means for you to have this identity. Be open, be yourself: those who really love you will stay by your side no matter what! You can try to come out first with the ones closest to you, or the ones who have already expressed LGBT inclusive views. This way, you'll face your coming outs little by little, starting with those who make you more comfortable, making sure you'll have them by your side as you face the next coming outs.
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Hey, coming out can be a difficult experience if people around us are not supportive and accepting, I hear it's a big decision and you're wondering how to come out to your friends , maybe asking some questions may help , how do you feel about coming out to them ? What do you think could their possible reactions be ? What makes it important for you to come out to them ? If a friend were to come out to you, how would you react? What may help you to be more accepting of the news ? Etc , personally I feel friends should be supportive of us, and accept us in every form , we still are the same and the friendship should stay intact , then probably making them aware about different gender orientations and sexualities, gently telling them about yourself and assuring you'd really appreciate if they be supportive and treat you like they did before. I hope it goes well . Best wishes, in all cases remember you're not alone and you certainly don't need to bother about other's opinions so long you accept yourself . Much love ❤
Profile: 8imhereforyou8
8imhereforyou8 on Jan 27, 2015
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Make sure you have one friend who you know will be supportive then gradually tell more friends, once you have a good support system of friends it will get easier every time :)
Profile: heavenPurple92
heavenPurple92 on May 26, 2015
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As long as you feel 100% comfortable and ready to do so then you can speak to them when you're all alone. Just say you really trust them and feel like you want to tell them because you trust them. Then take it from there :) Good Luck and congrats on doing so!!! :)
Profile: Funnylemonevil
Funnylemonevil on Aug 3, 2015
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Well, first you need to know how they will react, talk a little bit about the sexuality. Example: "did you hear that gay marriage is legal in the U.S.?" That will give you an idea of what they think. If you don't feel comfortable with how they reacted then don't tell them. If you are comfortable with telling them, just flat out say it.
Profile: Eloquentgraffiti10
Eloquentgraffiti10 on Sep 21, 2015
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Make sure they are friends you trust! Just remember how good and free you will feel after you tell them. :)
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on May 9, 2016
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They are your friends and they will want to know. Be honest and tell them, just explain more in detail of why u told them and why you made the choice. Tell them also how you feel about the whole thing so they will understand better.
Profile: brokengirl1
brokengirl1 on May 20, 2016
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Just be yourself!
Profile: Mia1
Mia1 on Jul 5, 2016
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Congratulations on considering coming out! It's a big deal, and there are many different ways you can go about doing it. It's ultimately up to you. Some people choose to say it outright, while others decide to be a little more subtle, or even humorous with it. Make sure that you're coming out in a way that makes YOU feel comfortable.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 11, 2016
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Be open and honest with them. If they are truly your friends, they will accept you as you are. If they do not, then even though it might be difficult, it's best for you to move on and find people who will love you for who you are.
Profile: HelpingHand315
HelpingHand315 on Aug 23, 2016
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Make sure you're safe first! Being in a safe environment it really important when coming out. Prepare yourself for the worst and hope for the best.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 9, 2018
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Do it at a time that feels right. Maybe start by telling friends you really trust. They might be a bit confused at first but after you explain it I am sure they will be supportive.
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