Is it ok to not want to come out right now?
KendallNichole
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Feb 25, 2015
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Of course! You should only come out whenever you feel is the right time! It's your life, your decision! When and who you choose to tell is up to you.
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Anonymous
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Mar 1, 2015
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That is totally okay and totally normal! There is no time as too when is the right time to come out. so do it when you are ready and when you feel comfortable.
GentleMom
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May 11, 2015
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Part of claiming the power of your coming out process is respecting your own timetable for telling people. It's YOUR life and YOUR sexuality so you deserve to make those choices when you want to.
Anonymous
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Jun 1, 2015
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yes it's fine. Take your time. You don't have to do anything unless you want to. When you feel it's the right time, then come out.
Sewyn
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Jun 11, 2015
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Of course, you don't have to do it if you don't feel it or if you think it's not a good idead you don't have to do anything for anyone other than you.
dreamVision89
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Jun 29, 2015
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Of course it is. Coming out is one of the most personal things you can do. Do it when you're ready. That being said - it's very unhealthy to keep things bottled up. Take this opportunity to evaluate your coming out
Dylannerdy15
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Oct 24, 2015
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Of course that's okay! You come out when you want to and when you are ready, don't come out when you think you should, come out when you know you should and it will be so much easier and better, trust me. It's completely normal to want to wait and I don't blame you, it's a scary thought telling people you love that you're different to the way they think you are, so wait. Wait as long as you want. :)
rxgdxll
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Apr 30, 2019
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It is totally okay to not want to come out as soon as you figure something out about yourself. You don’t ever have to come out until you feel comfortable with it. Your sexuality and or gender are not something you have to tell to everyone. Tell who you feel comfortable about telling. Never do you have to tell anyone that kind of stuff unless you feel comfortable about it. Just like it is okay not to tell about it if you don’t know 100% for sure if you are what it is. As we all grow, we can change and learn different things about ourself.
Anonymous
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Apr 7, 2015
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You don't need to come out until you feel like you want to. Take your time and decide who you want to tell IF you want to tell anyone at all.
Quakey
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Jul 28, 2015
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Of course. Coming out is something special that has to be saved for the right time. Once you're out, it's difficult to go back. From personal experience, I came out as exclusively gay to all of my friends, but now I have a girlfriend and that was quite difficult to explain to everyone. Coming out is a special thing that takes a LOT of courage to accomplish, but once you do it's most definitely worth it.
TanithBlack
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Jul 28, 2015
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Coming out is a very personal experience, and it's important that you find the time that's right for you. If you've only just come to terms with it yourself, you may find that you want to wait a while before letting others know.
trisjlistens
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Aug 3, 2015
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It is okay if you feel like it's not the right time. Coming out is best when the time is right and when you feel comfortable to.
silverware
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Sep 19, 2015
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Of course it is. No one, absolutely no one is entitled to knowing about your orientation or your gender identity. You can keep that to yourself for every possible reason: you don't feel entirely comfortable telling anyone; or you don't think it's the right time; or you feel like your environment won't be accepting of you. You're not being a bad person by not telling someone. You have every right to decide something so personal for yourself.
amazingHeart17
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Oct 8, 2015
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Of course it is! If you are not comfortable, you should not have to feel forced to do something you do not want to do, you should be able to come out when you are ready.
warmowl89
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Oct 18, 2015
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That is up to you. If you feel that there is no point or gain from coming out right now, it is normal. A lot of people fear the worst about coming out but reflect on the good too when thinking about the timing. You could be your true self without hiding after coming out, there might be consequences but I'd like to think in the modern society we live in there shouldn't be too much trouble
YourFutureBestFriend
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Oct 21, 2015
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It's perfectly fine. I am straight, but most of my friends feel strongly about LGBTQ+. Tell others when you ARE ready.
Shikoba12
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Oct 21, 2015
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your body, your sexuality, your life. you come out whenever you feel like it you don't owe anything to anyone .you are a beautiful, amazing person and as long as you accept yourself for who you are, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks :)
Anonymous
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Oct 22, 2015
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Yes! It;s perfectly fine to not want to come out now, or later, or even ever! It's your personal information, and if you don't want to share it, don't feel pressured to.
Emma16
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Dec 11, 2015
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That is very very ok. Wait until you feel ready. I can guarantee that you will be happier if you make these decisions on your own terms instead of because you feel pressure to come out. Good luck to you.
Anonymous
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Jan 25, 2016
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It is 100% okay to not want to come out. It takes a while to gather up the strength and courage, and sometimes, when you think you've got it, you go up to the person and realize "Oh no! I don't think I'm ready!" And all of that is okay. Only come out if you are ready!
