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Profile: DHawks
DHawks on Aug 29, 2015
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To be honest, there is no easy answer to this, I think your son must be struggling with this question as well, it must have kept the pair of you up nights and I'm sorry about that. Truly speaking, being gay is not a choice, he is just programmed differently than straight people, he's a unicorn. When he sees a person of the opposite sex, he feels no sparks, nothing, nada. I hope with time this isn't a question anymore and you reach a stage of acceptance where you can proudly tell people, "my son is gay."
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Profile: Alwaysherexoxx
Alwaysherexoxx on Sep 6, 2015
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Because that's who he is, love is love regardless of the Gender he likes! Being gay isn't a choice it's just the way he is! It's like him asking why are you straight?! It's not a choice it just you and you are attracted to the opposite gender just like he's attracted to the sane gender! Just support him and let him know you still love him! It will be a very tough time for him! And he needs as much support as he can get
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 19, 2015
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Because he was born this way. Why do you question something your child cannot help? Support him. Love him. Put any prejudices you have aside and learn to be a good parent
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 20, 2015
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This is often a question for parents with LGBT youth. It is also a tough question because there is not always a right answer for the parent. My answer would be a simple one. Your son is gay because of biological factors, not psychological factors, something that your son cannot ever change. It was not something that was influenced by parenting or anything that happened when he was raised.
Profile: kindRiver
kindRiver on Sep 2, 2015
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There isn't really a concrete reason that your son is gay. It's just who he is. In my experience, I just knew that I was bisexual, nothing caused it, it's just part of my personality - part of what makes me 'me'. If there's any way that I can offer you support, please just drop me a message.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 2, 2015
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Because it's his choice. ......... his preference. because he likes men more than women.............
Profile: JordanBlake
JordanBlake on Sep 12, 2015
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I've gotten this question quite a few times. A lot of the thoughts that go through a parents head when their children come out are thoughts of blame and guilt, and are very often internalized and not brought forth to their child or even their spouse. I'll say, as a gay teenager, when I came out, I was worried about my father. He had always been weary of homosexuals and thought that we were just bad in general. Then, to think that his son was gay. I was afraid he would blame himself for my sexuality. So, here's what I let my father know, and what I want all the parents of LGBTQ+ children to know: It is nobody's fault that people are gay. All LGBTQ+ people, including myself, are born into it. It is not because of any traumatic experience. It is not because of poor childhood care. It just is. So, parents; don't blame yourself, because being gay isn't a bad thing. And, to my fellow LGBTQ+ people; stay proud, and live life to the fullest.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 6, 2015
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He is gay because his physical and emotional attraction goes out to those with the same, (male) genitalia. I once asked someone why they were straight and they answered, "because i like guys?" (she was a female) so the same goes for your son.
Profile: ZoeS96
ZoeS96 on Aug 19, 2015
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People cannot control their sexual orientations and attractions. Sexuality is a diverse thing, think of it as a kinsey scale. Everyone fits somewhere on that scale, but not everyone fits in the same place. Assuming you're heterosexual, ask yourself why you are straight? There's no right or wrong answer to that question. You can research sexuality more online to better understand it but there's nothing that makes someone gay.
Profile: BunnyKiss
BunnyKiss on Oct 23, 2015
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He's gay because thats how he was born, and nothing to do with parental or how he was brought up, or the things he does, being gay is not a choice, that I can safely say from personal experience. If you need someone to chat to about it, feel free to message me, or contact an organisation like the trevor project, who will be able to help explain what is happening, and help guide you to appropriate local organisations
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 21, 2017
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There are no answers for this, just like there isnt an answer for why people are straight. We are who we are and that's okay. Were all different. There isn't anything anyone can do to turn someone straight or gay. We just are :)
Profile: JuliaAnn
JuliaAnn on Aug 19, 2015
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people are born that way. all you can do is support and love him unconditionally. he really needs it at a time of unacceptable like nowadays.
Profile: enlightenedJoy76
enlightenedJoy76 on Aug 20, 2015
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If I will ask you why are you straight. What will be your answer. Let me guess. You may say I am like that only, God made me like this, this is natural. Same is the answer for your son. Person doesn't choose to be gay or straight. It is something which comes naturally to them. Its nature. And you don't want to play with nature. Just go with nature. Give support and love to your son so that he will not feel embarrassment and will not go into any kind of depression
Profile: SammyB
SammyB on Aug 21, 2015
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Your son could be gay for any number of reasons. What's important is that you love and support him no matter what. That's what's going to really matter to him.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 26, 2015
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Your son is not gay because he want to be gay. You cannot chose to be gay. Trust me one would not just decide to be gay because of all the hate and criticism there is towards someone who is part of the LGBQ community. Love is love and there should not be any restriction on who you want to spend your life with and marry.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 16, 2015
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Your son is gay because that is how he was born. Though it might be tough to understand now, it will get easier. Talk with him, learn about what he has today. And most importantly love him the same as always.
Profile: greenJOHN1971
greenJOHN1971 on Nov 25, 2015
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He was born gay, I don't know. I don't want to be gay, but I am. I want to have children, but I can't. However, I know that if I didn't deal with being gay, I would have made a real mess of my life and someone elses. Someday, I will have a child, and for all parents that must be the biggest fear. That your children won't go on to cary on your family. If your son is gay, and you handle it well, you should have some grandchildren one way or another.
Profile: Loveforthewin
Loveforthewin on Dec 29, 2015
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The only answer to this question is your son is gay because he likes boys
Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Aug 5, 2019
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Because he was born like this, and there's nothing wrong. Homosexuality has been scientifically recognized to be natural and normal, the only issue about it is that, sadly, they still need to face social stigmas. But they're not different, they just love people of the same gender, and there's nothing wrong about that. Your son can be as happy and loved as anyone else, he can live and love just as well as anyone, it's not his orientation that defines him as a good or bad person. And I'm sure your support will mean a lot to him. You can talk about it with him, and give him a chance to be listened and understood. That's all he needs, that and the pure, unconditioned love and support of family.
Profile: YourImaginaryFriendBob
YourImaginaryFriendBob on Aug 20, 2015
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there isn't always a reason why someone becomes a homosexual. According to some statistics, one in every ten people in this country and around the world is gay. Therefore, approximately one in four families has an immediate family member who is gay, lesbian or bisexual, and most families have at least one gay, lesbian or bisexual member in their extended family circle. That means that there are plenty of people out there you can talk to. Being gay just means he loves the same sex rather than the opposite he is still the same person.
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