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How can I avoid crying or losing it in public?

Profile: Mirai
Mirai on Oct 23, 2014
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Try to relax and distract yourself. I usually start crying when I'm deep in thoughts about something that makes me sad, but I'm often able to control my feelings when I don't bother too much about these thoughts. However, I don't find it embarrassing to cry in public. Even though I'm male, I cried a couple of times in public.
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Profile: HollySnowflake
HollySnowflake on Sep 17, 2014
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Personally, I bite down on my tongue or lip, or scratch my arm with my nails. This redirects attention to a sudden sharp physical pain rather than focusing on what's upsetting you. Also, I find that putting a conscious effort into relaxing my jaw and throat really helps, though I'm not entirely sure on this one.
Profile: SalemAtMind
SalemAtMind on Sep 11, 2014
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i personally count to ten and take deep breath and think what can i do? can i change anything? if no then i worry less and if yes i act to change
Profile: Harshyourfriend
Harshyourfriend on Nov 14, 2014
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Find a private area(toilet or something),put a cloth/bag or something at you mouth,scream your lungs out!
Profile: PeacefulFruit
PeacefulFruit on Nov 2, 2014
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Become fully aware of the surge of emotion as it comes over you. Embrace the surge and let it wash over you. Don't do any justifying in your head, don't think about it, feel it. Try not to fear the outcome of letting it all out in Public, sometimes we have to cry, but if you can accept that fact it will most likely subside before it gets out of your control. Accept the emotion, no matter how uncomfortable or negative and fully experience, it won't be able to build if you watch it.
Profile: patzy
patzy on Nov 3, 2014
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Focus on your breathing, move your eyes to control your tears, distract yourself with a physical movement, take a sip of water, and think about something that will need your absolute focus.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 28, 2015
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Take a deep breath, avoid eye contact, count to ten, close your eyes. Re-open, forget and move on until you're home where you can face it.
Profile: Steph4nie
Steph4nie on Sep 27, 2014
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I think it is very hard to avoid crying or breaking down in public, one sometimes can't control it. First we gotta remember it is not a sign of weakness. However, i would go to the toilet and then come back.
Profile: Apple74
Apple74 on Nov 6, 2014
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If you feel a surge of emotion try looking out for an isolated place or a friend who can support you at that time. If you are in a meeting, excuse yourself for a while and come back when you feel you can face them again. Try having control over your emotions and maintain boundaries with others so that no one tries to hurt you again.
Profile: fromthesea
fromthesea on Nov 9, 2014
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First, it's okay to cry in public sometime. I understand you don't want to though. You can excuse yourself and go to the bathroom to cry there, if you really feel like you have to and it will help you, or you'll just stay there for a little while to calm yourself. I think that's the best option.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 3, 2017
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Actually using the same techniques that I use to help with panic attacks, which are: to look for 5 trees, 4 cars, 3 buildings, 2 lamps and 1 flag( it doesn't necessarily have to be these things, these are just examples: just that same order), deep breathing( breathing in 7 seconds, holding 8 seconds, breathing out 7 seconds, holding 8 seconds, and repeating) and finally, like the first method, finding 5 things to focus, only this time things like focusing on what it feels like under your feet, finding anywhere on your body that feels hot or cold, what your hands feel like, just sensory things like that.
Profile: monokoii
monokoii on Sep 11, 2014
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Try to disctract yourself. Start thinking positively - about something that makes you really happy.
Profile: sofia17
sofia17 on Nov 15, 2014
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clench your fists and think happy thoughts to make you think less about crying, but its completely okay to lose it too, if you do just run to the nearest bathroom
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 24, 2015
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I try focusing on an object. I'll stare at it with wide opened eyes. If the tears are still coming I'll laugh it off while looking at my phone so people think those are tears of joy.
Profile: talaraejean
talaraejean on Sep 17, 2014
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I've always taken deep breaths and stepping away from the situation that makes you feel that way. There are many other ways but this is what I do!
Profile: lavendersilk
lavendersilk on Oct 26, 2014
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You can try to think of some happy thoughts or distract yourself if possible, like talking to someone, etc. If that becomes to difficult, then you could go somewhere private and let it all out. Everyone has their days.
Profile: MendingByMuisc2
MendingByMuisc2 on May 8, 2015
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Take a deep breathe and tell yourself it's okay, or try to find a secluded space to let it all out, tell yourself its okay, sometimes we need to
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 27, 2015
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It is important to keep your mind strong wherever you go. Think of the things that make you happy and always move on with a purpose!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 8, 2018
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Have something to fidget with at all times. This helps take your mind of the situation. Alternatively, think of something happy to distract you. (the patronus rule :) )
Profile: Alexxx107
Alexxx107 on Oct 9, 2014
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Just think happy thoughts. If your walking around with postiveness you wont even think about breaking down.
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