How can I make illogical feelings go away?
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Moderated by Sarah Robb, LICDC (Licenced Chemical Dependency Counselor)
Updated: May 11, 2021
Isabella97
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Sep 14, 2014
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In my experience all feelings have some sort of logic to them. We may not always understand them or even want to have them but there is usually a reason for why we feel the way we do. The best way to make these feelings go away is to reflect and try and figure out what is causing them. This can be fairly difficult to do on our own so it helps to talk things out with a friend or maybe even a Listener from this site. There are other methods such as keeping yourself busy to distract yourself or to listen to music when you're feeling those illogical feelings in order to try and evoke a different emotion, but none of them are going to work as well as figuring out what is causing those emotions and deciding on a course of action that is best for you. But just as a side note, all of your emotions are valid and real, just because you don't understand them or want them that doesn't make them illogical. You are entitled to feel however you want, and you shouldn't feel like your emotions are ever irrational or wrong. Sometimes they're really hard to deal with, but that's where we come in and help to support you while you navigate through them.
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Anonymous
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Nov 5, 2014
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Think about illogical feelings as an adversary. A challenge. They exist, no doubt about it, but they aren't necessarily all you think they are. With help, you can see who your adversary really is, and you may be surprised about how easy it is to gain a victory over him. Chat it through with a listener... they'll help you take control of those feelings.
JasmineBloom
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Sep 24, 2014
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I used to have a very similar problem. Sometimes in certain situations I would feel stressed or scared when there was really no reason for me to. For me, what helped best was to face my feelings. Trying to reject some feelings would only make them loop around stronger, but facing them without resisting would help me come to terms with who I was. Being comfortable with myself was an important factor in finally letting the anxiety go peacefully.
Stag
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Oct 11, 2014
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Acknowledge them for what they are and accept their validity, but also try to engage them in a rational frame of mind. Look for the evidence, look for the reasoning, and if it doesn't exist, use that to mitigate the feeling.
SomeGamerGirl
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Oct 15, 2014
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I find that listening to positive music or doing something I enjoy can help me to make illogical feelings go away :}
zaatarHoney
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Jun 17, 2015
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I find simple affirmations to keep reminding myself to help subside the illogical feelings - and there is no permanent fix, but I keep reminding myself as many times as I need... the moments of peace I receive in-between these thoughts get me by until I finally let go. "You cannot go into the past to fix it. What will be, will be." -- "Yes you did ____, but at least you didn't ____. So, it could be worse. You're good." -- "You're overthinking." -- and other simple phrases along those lines.
lexi714
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Sep 19, 2014
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Personally, I have looked up techniques online on how to help yourself differ real feelings from fears and anxieties. Try relaxing yourself and doing breathing techniques and telling yourself that what you're feeling is unrealistic and perhaps write down logical feelings to replace those illogical ones.
HerforU2580
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Oct 23, 2014
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you can try to to occupy your mind with other activities that can work for some people or try talking to someone
Anonymous
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Nov 16, 2014
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feelings don't go away easily but i am actually in CBT which is cognitive behavioral therapy. CBT's whole purpose is try to logic out the illogical thoughts. on of the strategies i have used in the pass is pretending i am onlooker of the situation and try to give myself advice if i was another person going through the same thing and same thoughts
hope that helps :)
Lovethehurt
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Nov 19, 2014
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The best way is to stop and think. Try focus your mind on something different, maybe try to look at it from somebody elses point of view.
LondonLostGirl
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Apr 10, 2015
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Feelings are often illogical. Don't let it bother you much. Focus on doing something you like. The feelings will fade away with time.
CuriousOne
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Jul 28, 2015
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No feeling is an "illogical" one per say. Feelings are a part of us, and the more you struggle to ignore them or change them, you probably will feel worse about the situation at hand, and about yourself overall. Trying to accept what you are, and what you feel is a great start to resolving your problems, because by accepting your feelings, you will begin to understand the "How´s" and the "Why´s", which will help you on your journey to finding the answers you've been looking for!
gentleBeauty54
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Sep 7, 2015
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I think for me to get rid of the illogical feelings to go away are to write down in my journal the illogical thoughts and then write the logical thoughts beside them it sure helps me to do that
JenTink
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Oct 28, 2014
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Write them down and try and give reasons for them. If they're illogical, you won't have a reason. If you have a reason, you can start to work on it.
Anonymous
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Oct 29, 2014
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Take some time think about what are you feeling and why are you feeling that way. It helps to write out your thoughts or say them out loud. Sometimes when you speak out loud, even if it is to yourself, you can see how illogical you are thinking.
Yahantei
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Nov 2, 2014
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It is important to acknowledge these feelings as normal. Even though they can be intrusive, they have no power over you, and don't mean anything about you. It is helpful to take a few slow breaths and say "hello" to these feelings with a smile.
nehssa
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Nov 4, 2014
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I would write down these illogical feelings, and possible outcomes because of these feelings. Writing this down will make it so I can make some logical conclusions based on different outcomes, etc.
fromthesea
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Nov 9, 2014
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I think you just have to wait until they go away. You can't control feelings or emotions, even when they're illogical. You're human and it's okay to feel how you feel.
Anonymous
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Nov 10, 2014
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What I do is constantly tell myself that the seemingly rational feelings are truly irrational, then I analyze the situation, label my emotions, and look at the correlation as well as the outcome.
Anonymous
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Nov 15, 2014
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Emotion is something that is vey hard to control, you just have an emotion, you don't choose to be happy or sad, you just are. So if you are having illogical feelings its hard to control them, we understand.
