I'm scared if I tell someone I self harm, they'll think I want to commit suicide and send me to the hospital. Could this happen?
kokako
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Apr 24, 2015
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I don't self-injure ("cut") but I am an admin of a board which supports people who do.
My over-riding impression from that experience is that if you tell a health professional that you self-injure s/he will not send you to a hospital against your wishes.
Suicidal and self-injury are very different things. A health professional should be able to listen to you and offer you suggestions about self-injury but will not compel you to go to hospital unless s/he judges that you at risk of suicide.
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jennimarie
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Oct 24, 2014
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It has definitely happened to me before, so you can plan out what you are going to say before you tell them. Make sure to include that you are not suicidal, and try your best to explain why you are self harming. Communication is key.
Aoi
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Oct 17, 2014
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It would be normal for the person to be worried, especially if they love you. Usually people don't know much about self-harm, mainly because it's still something that's not being openly discussed enough. Because of this they may misunderstand. Remember also that they feel involved and are worried about loosing you, which does not really help to stay calm and lucid. What is important is that you reassure them and talk thoroughly about your problem. Stay calm and make them understand that you are telling them this because you want to be helped. Also, if you think they don't know much about self-harm, consider giving them something - a book, a website, etc - that explains well what it is and why people act that way.
lavendersilk
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Oct 26, 2014
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It could. You have to be clear about it and explain it. Not all self-harmers want to commit suicide, it's really just a way for them to cope with feelings. You just have to explain it to them.
Anonymous
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Oct 29, 2014
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It shouldn't. Self harming and suicide are very different things thats too often get linked together. People use self harm as a coping mechanism, they just need to be led in a better direction.
Anonymous
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Nov 13, 2014
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It can happen, but most of the time, people will ask questions first. If they think you're suicidal, then they might ask you. If they think so, and don't ask, then they might...
Anonymous
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Oct 31, 2014
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By telling someone what you're going through, you're showing you know it's a problem and that means you'll be able to get better
Pandette
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Nov 10, 2014
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Honestly, it could happen. That is because they are unsure as to how to deal with the situation at hand and are just worried about your well-being. I feel like the reason behind self-harm is never a positive one, so getting some help could be very beneficial.
HereForYou990
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Oct 3, 2014
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You could see a school counsellor about it or your parents, they could always help and supports you.
JMabbs
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Oct 5, 2014
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Yes, it could happen. However you have to think of it in their perspective. If they are scared your safe being they will. It really just depends on how you bring it up. After, ask yourself why it is you need to self harm
Lillian17
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Oct 19, 2014
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There is a possibility. You should tell someone that you trust such as a doctor so they can get you the help ypu need. :)
Thereforyou
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Oct 24, 2014
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Actually! it is possible if the person we are speaking to doesn't understand what the difference is... and the situation we are into.....
redwhispers
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Oct 25, 2014
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If you self harm, we strongly suggest telling someone. Some people may take things radically, and it could happen, but on a very rare chance. The best thing to do is talking to a counselor.
Anonymous
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Nov 2, 2014
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not at all. it's just their first reaction out of a good place in their hearts. they want to see you get better and not see you be hurt. do not be scared. and don't be so defensive, everyone is there to genuinely help you. :)
Anonymous
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Nov 8, 2014
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Self harm is a very serious thing to deal with & alot of people take it very seriously. Self harm is in the same category as suicide. Yes, it could happen.
Savana13
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Nov 19, 2014
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Most likely not, some can think you will and want to be careful, but assure them you will not. It's good to consider reaching out and I assure you the sooner you do the sooner you get help.
NyxCain
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Apr 12, 2015
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This scenario could happen, but in all actuality it probably won't. Many people know at least one person who self harms, and they see that while it is dangerous behavior, it's not entirely a life or death situation. It always helped me to send them to a resource which explains self harm in a manner which presents itself for what it is to you. Make sure to put it in a way they understand.
MegEliza
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Jul 28, 2015
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Oftentimes, people who don't understand or have experience with those who self-harm, will tend to automatically link self-harm with suicidal thoughts. I think to avoid an extreme reaction to telling someone, it's important to think about who you're telling and what the best way to tell them would be. You could tell them face-to-face, write a letter, or have a trusted friend/counselor tell them, and those are just some of your options.
Anonymous
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Aug 25, 2015
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Never be scared to tell someone that you self harm :) If you want me to give you some helpful sources for self harm, then I can do that :)
Kuluu
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Sep 20, 2014
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This could happen but that is not a problem because they just want to help you and are showing you that they are there for you