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What are some alternatives to self-harm?

Profile: ThereAndBackAgain
ThereAndBackAgain on Sep 26, 2014
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Writing positive words on your skin, drinking warm flavorful liquids like tea or coffees, drinking cool flavorful liquids, popping balloons, playing with clay or playdough, listening to good music, dancing around your house, buying plates on ebay/at garage sales and breaking them, silly string fights, popping bubble wrap, tearing up paper, writing
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Profile: KendallNichole
KendallNichole on Nov 14, 2014
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If you're feeling angry, do something very physical and violent that's not directed at a living thing. Ex, hit a punching bag, sketch a photo of yourself and mark what you wanna do then rip it, break sticks, throw ice at a brick, etc. If you're feeling sad, or depressed, do something slow and soothing. Ex, taking a hot bath If you're feeling numb, or just want to feel a sensation from self harm, do something that creates a physical sensation that doesn't harm you! Ex, bite into a hot pepper, slap your wrist with a rubber band, etc. I'd also recommend taking a look at the self help guide on self harm that 7 cups provides, it might help! https://www.7cups.com/self-harm/
Profile: positiveWhisper24
positiveWhisper24 on Apr 12, 2015
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Doing something else with your hands, like playing with silly putty or a tangle...there are lots of great options. Exercise will give you that adrenaline rush you are looking for that is released with pain. Other ways to get that adrenaline rush are horror movies, amusement parks, etc.
Profile: musicalDreamer71
musicalDreamer71 on Nov 3, 2014
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The best way to avoid self-harm is to replace it with a healthy habit. These can include arts and crafts, physical activity, or spending time with friends.
Profile: KingaLaura
KingaLaura on Mar 1, 2016
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You could draw on your arms, legs, stomach or any other place that you would self harm. Maybe draw an animal, a good one can be a butterfly. Then when you think about self harming, you could look at that picture, if you harm yourself, you are harming the thing portrayed in the image, if you purposely wash off the image you are also harming it. If the image washes off naturally for example in showers or baths, you have succeeded. Continue using this method until you no longer have the desire to harm yourself.
Profile: optimisticHeart11
optimisticHeart11 on Nov 3, 2014
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You can draw on yourself with a red pen to simulate blood, snap rubber bands, rub an ice cube where you want to harm, rip up paper, punch a punching bag, watch a really good movie, talk to someone you love, eat an ice cream sundae, the possibilities are endless.
Profile: WeWillFall
WeWillFall on Sep 18, 2014
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listening to music will help you trough a lot of things you just have to find the right music for your self
Profile: Gemma8483
Gemma8483 on Oct 25, 2014
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There are lots of alternatives that you can try. The first step is to figure out what part of self harm helps you, then you can find alternatives for that. For example, if seeing blood helps you, you can try warming up some red food colouring and using that on your skin. If it is the pain then you can replace that with sensation, such as biting into a lemon or holding an ice cube. If it is a distraction then there a lots of things you can try instead, such as expressing your feelings creatively. The best known alternative is snapping a rubber band, I'd say to use this as a last resort only to ween yourself away from breaking skin, because you are still using pain to deal with your problems and it can leave bruises.
Profile: LuxBAnne
LuxBAnne on Oct 31, 2014
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Drawing on your skin, screaming in a pillow, crying, singing, writing, talking ... Keep your mind busy. Try, you'll be surprised.
Profile: Langkustr
Langkustr on Nov 2, 2014
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I used to self-harm to feel like I was in control of my life and as a way to express all the emotions I was feeling. The best alternative is to go to a therapist in order to express everything you are feeling in a different way. I also found that putting my energy into my hobbies and exercising made me feel better.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 3, 2014
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When I engaged in self-harm, it was an effort to change the way I felt. And of course there are much healthier ways to do this! I could do some challenging exercises, escape into the world of a great book or show, talk to another person, or get out of my own head by helping someone else.
Profile: Spiderman93
Spiderman93 on Nov 18, 2014
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Journaling, Exercise, reading, any activities that make you feel happy about yourself. Everyone is different. Find as many alternatives as you can.
Profile: Pandette
Pandette on Nov 18, 2014
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Well, you can always do things that make you feel better. For instance, working out brings up your levels of serotonin, which inevitably brings you to a better mood. I think it is still important to find out what is causing you to self-harm in the first place and tackling that problem head on. That way, the problem disappears altogether!
Profile: faintlyglowing
faintlyglowing on Jun 5, 2015
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Get an ice cube and run it over the place you're wanting to cut. It will give you the feeling of coolness and pain without really hurting you. You can also get a soft tip pen and draw on the place you want to cut. Scribble on it until the feeling subsides.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 17, 2015
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Snapping a rubber band around your list. Drawing a butterfly and if you self harm before the butterfly is washed away it dies.
Profile: Splodge29
Splodge29 on Oct 1, 2015
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The one I love, which is often advised by psychiatrists, is called the Butterfly Project. Originally, this meant that if you ever wanted to harm yourself then instead you just drew a butterfly in the spot you wanted to hurt (NOT in a biro or similar pen - they can hurt!) But its grown and expanded and now the advice is to draw on yourself - draw anything you want - wherever you want to harm. This can be as big as you want, so if you want to doodle over your entire stomach then do it! A lot of people like to leave all the ink on as a reminder not to do it, but if you want to hide it then you can just wash it off later.
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A good place to start is journalism, writing down how you feel and what happened. If you feel like you cant control the urge, grab a marker to replace the object of harm. A hard workout can help, you still might feel pain, but this time it will be for the best.
Profile: anonymous9irl
anonymous9irl on Aug 31, 2016
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Holding an ice cube on your skin, wearing an elastic band around your wrist and ping it at your wrist, taking either a hot shower or a cold bath, chewing on a piece of chilli/ginger root. That's all I could think of for now but I hope it's of some help!
Profile: iLikeToHelpzYou
iLikeToHelpzYou on Oct 5, 2014
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Go on a walk, Read a book, Rearange your room. going on walks is peaceful reading is calming thanks.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 6, 2014
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i follow a lot of depressed accounts on social media because sometimes, looking at the pictures or posts i can somehow relate and it calms me down and most of the accounts are in recovery so they post sad pictures but then they say how much better they feel not cutting and are really supportive.
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