35+ check-in, week of March 27th 2023
Hello, 35+ folks! This is the community check-in post for the week of March 27-April 1.
Spring is here! The weather is getting warmer! (at least, it is where I’m from :) )
And with a new season upon us, sometimes it is a good idea to stop and reflect for a moment.
Are you focused, or unfocused?
Do you have any goals in mind? Are you taking steps towards those goals?
How are you doing at self-care these days?
Remember, taking care of yourself is one of the most kind things you can do!
Speaking of self-care, here are some ideas….
So… How do you feel like you are doing? Please let us know in the comments! We appreciate YOU, and we’re glad that you are here!
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I'm unfocused most of the time it seems but over focused on the things that I can't control or don't have any meaning. For my self care I am going to my recovery meetings again being honest with myself and others.the weight isn't such a load on my shoulders
@PFord79It is so nice to hear that you are going to recovery meetings and being honest with yourself, AND others! Those are excellent habits! I hope that as you build up those "good" habits, that you will be able to focus a little less on those things that you cant control.
That reminds me - are you familiar with the serenity prayer?
@PFord79
@purplelady568 I love this meme, it is something I try and remember when things get difficult.
Listening - One Step At A Time!
It's a late Spring where I'm at. The sun comes out every other day, otherwise it's raining. Temperatures haven't quite warmed up yet, it still feels chilly in the shade. We've got more snow/rain mix the coming weekend.
Speaking of self-care, I feel like going for a nap now, before dinner. I only got 5 hours of sleep last night, was awake at 6am, because as usual, I was feeling anxious for my doctor's appointment around noon. When I got into the clinic, the receptionist said they were running late, I ended up waiting another 1 hour and 15 minutes after my scheduled time. But that's okay, I've got the patience for it. Didn't feel like rearranging another date/time for it. So, I made used of my time with the doctor. Asked her a couple of more questions before we did the check-up procedure.
I'm always working towards my goals, little by little. This week, I need to start making more progress, had been busy the past weekend. Brother re-painted our bathroom walls, while I re-painted the grout of 2 areas of our house. Which meant I was sitting on the floor. Of course, it took the whole day, because I had to first clean/scrub it first. Then, wait for it to dry before re-painting it with a pen. I'm right-handed, but my left arm was tired the next day. Probably because I used it to prop myself up when I was half-lying on the floor.
April will be a busy month. I'll be working for 3 weeks straight. So, I have another 2 weeks off, and will start my working weeks on April 11th, after Easter Monday.
@purplelady568
@Jaeteuk - Hey, I love that you are working on your goals, little by little. Progress is the best way to move forward. Even baby steps are better than taking no steps at all! It sounds like you've been busy doing some cleaning and fixing-up at your place, too!
I really like how you were able to be patient and wait over an hour past the time for your appointment. Patience is a virtue for a reason! Because it is not always easy! Also, I can relate to being tired and needing more rest some days. A nap sounds lovely. If you want/need a nap, I say, go for it!!!
In my family, only my dad and brother don't have much patience. I always like taking my time and really don't mind waiting.
Instead of being able to fall asleep with my nap, I ended up just laying in bed. I was planning to actually sleep, but brother had dinner cooked. So, couldn't stay in bed as long. I might sleep a bit earlier tonight though, since I'm quite sleepy from being awake so early!
@purplelady568
@purplelady568
I am doing ok, hanging in there. I could be kinder to myself. Thanks for the ideas.
@BlueWaters48 Hi, you are most welcome!
So… How do you feel like you are doing? Please let us know in the comments! We appreciate YOU, and we’re glad that you are here!
Great post!
Right now I feel very focused and strong. I put myself on a walking and napping schedule which works out great for me. (could not walk for a short while because of an injury so being back is awesome).
@amiablePeace77 You are very welcome! I Love when people can relate to other's words/posts.
That is a very healthy habit you've got going on, of scheduled walks and naps. I hope that it id working out well for you and that you can continue to schedule your time in the best way possible, in order to be functioning and productive.
HOORAY for being able to exercise again! It sounds like you are taking healthy steps to staying active, and you should be applauded for it!
I just have felt blah this wk
@generouscat0001 - that is ok! Thank you for admitting that you are not feeling 110%. It is ok to not be "on" all the time. We all need breaks and downtime and to give ourselves grace.
I am doing much better than I have been in the past. I am coming to the room, was ation of my different issues, and the things that I need to work on. I’m also gaining more confidence in talking with my husband regarding these issues. I’ve always been afraid of asking for help, and afraid of talking about my thoughts and opinions, for fear of being judged, especially by him. But this past weekend we had a big heart to heart, and we are looking into getting me into therapy to figure out all of my underlying issues so that we can get them fixed. He has been super supportive of this which scared me at first, but I’m just glad he’s there to support me and help me in anyway is that I need
Thank you for sharing.
I guess 35 is an age where our life has a direction atleast. But what that’s not the case for someone….who is emotionally and professionally still unstable?
I'm 36, and still professionally unstable too. Been at my job for almost 5 years (June, after Father's Day), and still not in a permanent position. Being in this state, also affects me emotionally. While everyone else I know of the same age, are happily married, and in stable careers. And here I am, the odd-one-out, maybe that's why it's difficult for me to make friends of my age, because we have nothing in common.
@Emptyheart19