Struggles faced in your 30s - share them here

my biggest struggle in my 30s (i am 37 years old) is my battle with depression.

on the positive side, psychiatry and advancements in medicine leave me with little to no problems.

once you believe in psychiatry, therapy and medicine, your problems are little to none.

depression is not a lonely path, but many who have it refuse to seek help.

When I was a kid I thought the adults would get it together and by the time I was an adult we would have health care, equality, equity, we'd take care of each other, the government would be there for the people and not for the profit. The worst thing about my 30's is struggling with being sane in an insane society.

Been reading this article and what it sounds like is a midlife crisis. I connected so much with it, i thought I would share it.

https://medium.com/the-apeiron-blog/the-dark-night-of-the-soul-understanding-amidst-the-absence-of-meaning-3494cb193bc2

I think this is where my depression comes from. Feelings of being stuck.

The 30's have proven to be tough on me healthwise. I didn't think 30 was the new 60. LOL.

A big struggle I have in my 30s is that I never had self-discipline enough to work out every day before. Now I do, and I work out every day, but my hormones are changing and my body wants to gain weight because I'm getting older. So even though I'm putting in the effort, I'm fighting the totally normal and natural changes of my body. My kid can eat a mountain of food and lay around doing nothing all day and still be "skinny fat" and I can count calories and work out every day and still be overweight. It is a daily struggle.

Hi,

I'd say getting rosacea on my face and being informed it's hormonal and typical to get in my thirties. I have it for life, have treatments and medication. It's a bit irksome at times, is all.

I am ridden with fear that I will not be able to deal with life. That I will loose everything. I am on edge and cannot enjoy the blessings. I wish I had money, was well known, valued, loved, have a spouse and kids, all these expectations. But not only expectation, I actually want some of them. I remember when I was in my 20s, the idea of finding a man, you know the kind that will listen, be kind, respectful, help you meet financial security, will cuddle you and tell you everything will be okay. Then in my 30s, realized, that description is of a Mom and that getting married is actually a lot worse than you can imagine. Society glamorizes it, so that people continue to stress shop whrn they have fights with their spouse.

I took ketamine infusion treatments at the hospital for depression, 3 infusions a week for a month, then 2 per week for another month, then once a week for another month.

After that, my hair started falling out rapidly. I now have lost 90%of my hair and it still is falling out. I do not see anything growing back. I can see my scalp and loosing your hair in your 30s as a woman is the end of hope at finding the love of my life. No man dreams of a balding woman.

It is currently 3 a.m. as I write this. It is my 32nd birthday. The last five years have been an uphill battle where the hill sometimes seems to be growing taller.

However, I made it here to today.

I could have made good on my plan 3 years ago, I could have pulled the trigger.

I'm always humbled when I look back on that day, despite that I had to witness the end of my own father's life, despite being homeless twice, despite having my heart broken many times over, despite it all... I am still here...

I still have hope, not for a good life, instead I hope to continue to move forward into an unknown destiny with curiosity, determination, patience, and a pure and honest love.

And I hope for all of you who may be going through something similar know that it is all finite and fleeting, and thus, except the moment and allow it to pass.

sensations may linger, some thoughts may persist and they always will, but I assure you and guarantee you that you have the right to whether or not you are consumed by it.

For my solution; meditation was and still is an extremely significant factor. It helped me to organize my thoughts and emotions; to simply observe them rather than judge them.

this doesn't mean that medication from psychiatry and therapy from psychology are not tools I have used. all I can say about that is that they work better for some than others.

Whatever you're means, the only thing that matters is that you don't give up!

Hello Everyone that posted to this thread. I need everyone’s weigh in on this one.

It just hit me, that I might be in love with a married man...... and........ he might like me. All this time i kept saying, we are just good friends but where is the line? Neither of us will ever let anything happen, no, never! First question; where is the line? Because if it is more than friends then I just have to cut him out of my life completely and that is going to hurt. Need some guidelines to be certain.

I read this below, what do you think?

"If a married man’s feelings are genuine for you he wouldn’t come chasing you from the word go. He will be fighting his feelings for you because he has a wife, a family to think about. Also if you are single he wouldn’t really want you to get entangled in a relationship that has no future and if you are married he is thinking of the hurt an affair would cause both the spouses.

Looking away when he sees you, not answering your texts, ignoring you in front of others could be signs that a married man is fighting his feelings for you but he loves you secretly. "

Second question: Is any of the above quote true?

Third question: is there any way to be friends with him and nothing more. He makes me feel so safe, actually listens to me, we have good conversations, he always has time for me. He is funny as heck. It is really weird, the guy is like 23 years older.

It sucks as I am really in a low point in life, no idea what direction I should go with my career or if it’s time to abandon ship and reinvent. Several people close to me have passed away, no significant person of my own and recovering from the trauma of being stalked by someone for a few years, as well as depression issues. It is nice to just have at least one person in my life who understands and encourages, to be by your side while life is still sorting itself out. But I know.. life is meant to be dealt with on our own.

Fourth question: How to move on? When will the pain of separation go away?

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