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What have you learned from some of your mistakes and missteps and how did they help you in self-improvement? My biggest mistake was not talking much. I have corrected that, and it has really helped a lot.
@Offmytrack
I agree that getting along with people is much better when I communicate.
What have you learned from some of your mistakes and missteps and how did they help you in self-improvement? - I learned that boy oh boy I can be dumb, lol But I also learned that I needed some of those lessons to be where I am now! I neeeded to fail to grow!
@Goldcherry2113 I think we all have our feel dumb moments.
I learned I have to be gentle with myself when my emotions override good judgment.
What have you learned from some of your mistakes and missteps and how did they help you in self-improvement?
I learned that sometimes you have to keep your mouth shut, and sometimes you have to open it. And you really need to learn when to do each.
@thoughtfulmomma I find the ratios that work for me are 90% keep mouth closed and 10% say something.
@soulsings
Yeah, I think when I was younger my mouth opened a lot more. I guess with age comes wisdom. Eventually I might just stop talking all together! :)
@thoughtfulmomma I try to selectively edit what I say based on how others may perceive it
Hmmm, The man I married/ divorced. I know that can sound harsh, but its so true. What I learned from that mistake was is i now know what I will not ignore is my gut instinct. However I do have children with him and it taught them to never stay in a relationship thats toxic.
@neverendingTime23 to me relationships are the most difficult thing. By the time I learned my mistakes I was already much older.
@amiablePeace77 what I learned is not to repeat the same mistakes over again. Then this is not such a hard experience to cope with.
What have you learned from some of your mistakes and missteps and how did they help you in self-improvement?
I have to be more careful when it comes to trusting people and opening up to people. Not everyone is dependable and not everyone can deal with the story of my trauma.
@WharfRat I find the only way to not have to get into the past is not to talk about it except with a therapist or support group.
@soulsings
I want to tell people what happened to me, so they will understand me and so they will understand the seriousness of sexual abuse of children. I'm also trying to find people who can be a support group for me.
@WharfRat I applaud you for wanting to help others avoid the sufferning you went through.
I still shocked from firing me in a sudden and insulting way since 6/1/1992 and not getting my last salary, so I can't find out what was my mistake to learn from.
@DinaElwy I am sorry you have had such a bad experience. In most countries there are laws that employers must pay employees wages they owe them. Perhaps you could inquire.
@amiablePeace77
my whole life is a series of mistakes. I guess I just try to move on.
@HappyDucky8 I hear you.
Sometimes people say to me: "How did you learn so much about life?"
I reply "I made a lot of mistakes. And I try to not repeat the same mistakes over again."
@amiablePeace77 I have learned and am learning that conversations that you have with someone you can't consider "confidential or private" because those conversations can then be used as "amuniton" against you or in future arguments with others without your consent. So don't say something to someone that don't want repeated. Nothing you say is sacred.
@amiablePeace77
What have you learned from some of your mistakes and missteps and how did they help you in self-improvement?
I’ve learned never to do drugs again unless they are prescribed AND not addictive.I’ve also learned to stay away from alcohol.
I am a much better person and far more in control without drugs and alcohol.
@purpleTree4652 way to go. You sound like you have your life in control.