50+ community Check-in July 29-August 1, 2019
Hi lovely 50+ people, how was your weekend? 
We all know - life goes up and down and that there can be times in our lives when we are the only people talking good to ourselves. So it makes sense to stop saying negative things and start nurturing ourselves like telling ourselves for example:
Believe you can do it
Believe you deserve it
Believe you will get it
How are you nurturing yourself with words?
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I'm having a negative day today, so I appreciate the reminder that I need to be kinder to myself.
@MissPen
MissPen, hope today is better, sorry though for the bad day. Good self talk is needed even more when we feel low.
@MissPen
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I have 5 immediate goals that I keep track of every day: 1) exercise, 2) be social, 3) be happy, 4) breathe, and 5) say "yes."
Been doing pretty good about all 5. Messaged some friends I haven't talked to in months. Been conscious of counting my breaths throughout the day. Exercising everyday.
And, in general, I've been happy!
@Kavajava
That's an awesome routine Kava. Keep it up!
@amiablePeace77 I am encouraging myself by doing what I need to do and not worry about the outcome. It will work out somehow. It always does.
It
@mooboxer
Susie, it's nice to hear that you got some good surprises, sometimes it seems hard to believe that they happen, particularly if they did not for a longer time, but they do, we never know what the future brings.
@soulsings
That is a really positive attitude and shows faith in yourself and the future.
Thanks @amiablePeace77 . You are an inspiration the way you live your life.
@soulsings
Yes it does!!!!!
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Hello everyone. I'm new here to 7Cups and this community. I hope to make new friends and get support from ones who have depression/anxiety and "grandkids!" I need some uplift in my life. Hoping everyone has a blessed day.
Hi Snowflake,welcome I
@Snowflake57
Hi Snowflake, it's awesome that you joined our community, you're very welcome here . Sorry to hear that you struggling with depression and anxiety, both can make the day very hard to cope with. I like to give you some links which might be helpful to you:
★ You can explore the community forums here: https://www.7cups.com/forum/
★ You can try a mindfulness Exercise here: https://www.7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness/?showlist=1
★ You may view the 7 Cups Self Help Guides here: https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php
★ community calendar to see planned activities tinyurl.com/mscgjak
how to get started
https://www.7cups.com/forum/NewbieHub_27/Informationaboutusing7Cups_792/FAQforMembersandGuests_7357/1/
and never forget you can always connect with a listener https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/ if you like to talk.
I been resting more and thinking more about what I want my life to be like at 50. Im trying to come up with more ways to be able to do my work around the house without having to exert to much physical force because my body cannot respond the same to the same physical work around the house.
@Favor2020
Hi Favor, I find when getting older our energy levels drop and things which were once easy take a lot more energy now, so it's good to have some rests and maybe also think about how work can be arranged differently.
I found for myself that the 50s or change of life bring up deep questions about what we want, where we are rn and meaning. Do you have any particular goals in life or something youre passionate about ?
@Favor2020
Hello,
I have some suggestions for you!!!
I will send you a PM message. Later on!!!!
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@GuardianAngel77
Hello, folks.
My weekend was pretty good -- my wife was doing well enough for us to go out to our favorite local restaurant for lunch.
My self-talk is often pretty negative; I have a couple of stock responses like "That was in the past" or "That's just an intrusive thought", but sometimes the best way to deal with it is a song like "The Mary Ellen Carter" for encouragement, or "Julian of Norwich" for hope.
@stressBear Great that your wife felt well enough to go out. Great news!
To avoid my negative self-talk, I count my breaths: count 1 on the first inhale and 1 on the exhale and continue up until 10, then start over again. It gives me something else to focus on.
@Kavajava Thanks! That sounds like it could be good for lots of problems - stress, anxiety, depression... Sometimes I can get myself centered with a couple of really deep breaths.
@stressBear sounds like fun. I went out for Chinese food on Friday .
@soulsings
Oh!!! I know that you enjoy that. I went out to eat
At a Chinese restaurant a couple weeks ago. 🥣🥣🍲🍲🍤🍤🍤🍣🍣 🥡🥢🥢🍵🍵
@GuardianAngel77 nice glad to hear that
@soulsings I love Chinese food. Also Indian and Mexican. Unfortunately there aren't any good Chinese restaurants nearby.
@stressBear I make my own. Take boneless chicken tenders, soak or sprinkle soy sauce, ginger, garlic, onion powder (cayenne if you like em hot) then pan sear 5 minutes on side and then turn 5 minutes on the other.
If interested PM me and I give you egg foo yong recipe. Just like making an omelet with no cheese.
@soulsings I make my own, too; often it's fried rice for breakfast -- saute ginger, garlic, crushed red pepper, anything else you want to throw in, then add left-over rice, then break a couple of eggs into the pan and scramble. I also do several variations on stir-fry, usually with onions, fresh ginger, mushrooms, and broccoli. (I use other veggies too, but broccoli is always available and everyone in the household likes it.)
My cooking does tend to be on the spicy side.
Glad you had a good meal out Beat, it helps Strangely I don
@mooboxer Julian was a 14th century anchoress at the Church of St. Julian - actually nobody knows her real name. She wrote the first book in English known to have been written by a woman, and is best known for writing "All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well."
The song in question was written by Sidney Carter some time in the 1960s. The chorus is
Ring out, bells of Norwich, and
let the winter come and go.
All shall be well again, I know.
Ah thanks for that xx@stressBear
@stressBear
Bear you both surely deserved to get outside and relax after all the trouble you went through.
Good you have some things to counteract your negative thoughts, hope that they will be much less in future. It takes sometime to reprogramme our mind but there will be a day positive thinking will become natural.
@amiablePeace77
Thanks! We'll see how that goes. Our troubles are rather chronic at this point.
@stressBear
Bear, very sorry to hear that. I read that listening to a relaxation video on a daily basis can help with chronic pain/troubles by calming the mind. Maybe you find something that can helps a little to destress in the mindfulness library.
https://www.7cups.com/forum/MindfulnessCenter_106/ResourceLibrary_1062/
@amiablePeace77 Thanks, Ami.
Fortunately, chronic pain isn't a major problem. I have recurring back pain, but it's not constant and usually manageable. My main chronic problems are depression (mostly managed by drugs) and stress -- which mindfulness does help with. I'm only now starting to realize that my main problem is stress -- 7cups has been very helpful in helping me sort that out.
My wife's problems are worse -- she has a combination of Crohn's disease, greatly reduced mobility, and more recently recurring kidney problems. A lot of my stress comes from being her primary caregiver. I do get some help in that direction.
@stressBear
It takes a lot of strength to cope with all of this and I am glad you find support on this site. Being the primary caregiver and having to make sure everything goes as good as possible and still taking care of yourself is a lot.
How are you nurturing yourself with words? Nor very well. I do a bit of writing, put down the things I have been thinking of, but I still feel depressed every morning. NOt about anything in particular, just feeling worthless.
So sorry you are suffering at the mo, it does help to write it down. Hope the
Thanks, @mooboxer. I appreciate that.
@Offmytrack
Hugs Offmytrack. Depression shows up in so many ways and it can make it particularly difficult to leave the bed in the morning and get motivated. I find it helps me a lot in the morning to watch a motivational video and to set goals for the day.
Win the morning, Win the day: https://youtu.be/irBqtdVM-LU
You are amazing: https://youtu.be/kpxXFxSNCF8
@amiablePeace77, You and many other people here are amazing. You make me feel better.
@Offmytrack
Offmytrack, you just warmed my heart, thank you 🧡
Im not good at that yet. ButI have started a gratitude journal. 1 thing everyday right now. Thanks
@Lauren63
Lauren, not yet but I hope in future . Awesome that you started a gratitude journal!
@Lauren63 I don't have a gratitude journal but I do think of 3 things that have happened in the last 24 hours that I can be thankful for. Just little things like: "Today I ate ice cream." "I had a nice lunch with friends." "My favorite TV show was on tonight."
@Kavajava
Nice Kava!
I love your reply, today I went for a walk with a friend who was feeling low but half way round I was bitten by mosquitoes!! Just my luck hopefully she felt better anyway, shes a truly lovely person who doesnt deserve whats happening to her x@Kavajava
HI glad to meet other people who are 50plus.
Nice to meet you and love the namexx@adventurousBranch3786
@adventurousBranch3786 nice to meet you too! We are having a discussion at 4PM EDT in 85 minutes in Group Chat Fifty Plus room. All are invited 18 and older.
@adventurousBranch3786
You are in the right place and very welcome , hope you can make it for the discussion 50+ in 20 min.
@adventurousBranch3786 Hi there! Welcome!
Trying to get myself to deal with my depression and exhaustion and not shut down. I could not sleep last night my nerves are terrible with the financial and pain issues I am struggling with at the moment.
So sorry you have got lots of troubles, hope you can get some good advice to ease them and that they resolve themselves quickly xx
sending supportive hugs to you x@bgdave
@bgdave
Dave, I find when I do not sleep properly it feels like my head is constantly spinning, so sorry you are still going through this rough time 🧡. This is a meditation I find quite usefull, hope it will help you too.
Here is also a link to a self-help-guide for sleeping https://www.7cups.com/sleeping-well/
