50+ community Check-in June 7-10, 2021
Hi lovely people in the Mindfulness Community, how are you doing? 
If you were asked by a child to tell about the most important thing you have learned in your life, what would you say?
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@amiablePeace77 If you were asked by a child to tell about the most important thing you have learned in your life, what would you say?
Be kind and compassionate to everyone, not for their benefit, but for your own peace of mind and serenity. By holding onto the traumas of the past we relive them in our minds. That was a terrible tragedy for sure, but the more we focus on what has gone right, the easier it is to be content. Dwelling on the past is like the farmer who closed the barn door after the horse had already run away. We cannot change the past so let us devote our energy to live life fully now.
@soulsings
It is so true what you said, we can't undo what happened but make sure we live as good as possible in the now!
Well said @soulsings
1 what I learned from having a disability .
Things might. Be hard but all the. Hard work will pay off at. End. You have to Believe in yourself before for things to happen.
2 on cups
I can do. Things even if some people say I can not. It ok to ask for help. Right now I. Learning it's ok to go out of Comfort zone to try news things like trying to go new rooms on cups. 50+ and mindfulness.
@ColorfuldogsofParadise
Nice to hear that you decided to do things which are out of your comfort zone. It's not an easy thing to do but it can pay off well, same as hard work. Be proud of what you're doing! 
One thing I have learned is that I don't even remember the reason why I argued or fought with my partner. Whatever instigated the conflict or clash is totally forgotten. What's not forgotten is the way it made us feel, nor are the words uttered in anger easily forgotten.
In retrospect, it's just not worth the energy expended, even though at the time, it felt "right" or "justified." Now it's just stupid.
@InquireWithin I hear you. I am working on anger management and my number one rule is no matter how right I am and how ridiculous the other person is is to not let anger rule me. I try and get away from the situation or change the inner story. It does not always work but I am making slow progress.
At least you are trying and making progress, just remember the next time someone makes you angry, remove yourself from it and know you can’t change what it is that makes that person who they are, how they think, you only have control over you, b well🙏
@placidPlum3193 great idea. Thanks for that.
@amiablePeace77
things will get rought, but always keep your life focused on God
@Amelia2324
Once we have an anchor whether it is spiritual or something else life gets easier to me. Glad you found your anchor.
@amiablePeace77
If you were asked by a child to tell about the most important thing you have learned in your life, what would you say?
The opinions of others don't matter. Be strong and love yourself and succeed because you're amazing and because you CAN.
@thoughtfulmomma
That is a great reassurance and encouragement for a child!
@amiablePeace77
Hi Ami, 
There are problems on the discussion calendar---where you gave us the nice link to it up top of this 50+ community room.
Thanks so much for the link and the calendar so we can see what relates to us and be easily able to find it. If it were not even there, I/we would be so lost and never able to figure out when to go to find anything with you all. I/we so much appreciate the link and what it must have taken to get all that calendar info together and posted.
But, it lists, for example, dates for days that do not exist with that date. Ex. today, 6-8-21. It lists an open discussion at 4 pm. Maybe that is meant for tomorrow, 6-9-21, as I/we have looked and the pop-up room is definitely not open now, 4 pm. Below that lists Thurdsay the 9th. Same thing.....tomorrow is Wednesday and it is the 9th. I have not gone down the whole calendar and do not know anymore than this. Sorry.
Sorry to bother you with this, but, I/we are just confused and had looked forward to the group today.
@Amelia2324
Thank you so much for taking care of this, I will correct the dates and check about the Tuesdays discussion.
@amiablePeace77, You are so valuable and worthy.
@purpleTree4652
Thank you purpleTree, so are you, so is everyone here . I really mean this.
I have learned that its not my job to keep anyone happy, we are all
responsible for our own happiness !
@jr50 I hear you. It can be a big burden to spend our lives trying to make others happy and not taking care of ourselves.
That you should, always, look forward and plan your future. And enjoy your life cause you only get one shot at life.
@Equinox56
That is so true Equinox, stop and smell the roses makes our lives so much better.
If you were asked by a child to tell about the most important thing you have learned in your life, what would you say?
If you have a problem, have been hurt by someone, or are hurting, don't be afraid to ask for help.
@WharfRat
I agree with what you said, learning to ask for help is important.
