50+ community Weekend Check-in January 17-19, 2020
Hi beautiful people in the 50+ community. 
How did the first days in the new year go for you, what were your best experiences?
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Its been up and down. Down is work . Have been having difficulties with 1 of my coworkers. Up is I was able to try something new to meet new people. In between just meh, but believing it will get better.
@Lauren63 I am glad that you have tried to meet new people.I hope that you are able to meet some nice people.
@Lauren63
Lauren, thats awesome, I think meeting new people, hearing different stories and ideas enriches our lives. Sorry though about your coworker, hope things get settled soon.
Hi Peace. I did something interesting this week. I attended a self healing breathing camp. It was tiring to sit for a long time but I feel lighter and have a better understanding of my body .
@faithlove1111
Wow, sounds you had a great experience at the camp. Was it a one day exercise or over several days?
I get what you mean with sitting for a long time, it's soooo hard for me too 
With the new year hell has knocked on my door. I presumed like an idiot it was bad but getting better. I could NOT have been more wrong. Delete , delete , delete. So mad I cant just send what I type. Trying. Better luck tomorrow......ugh
@95969
Sorry to hear that things turned out to be so differently than expected, hugs, hope it will get better.
How did the first days in the new year go for you, what were your best experiences? The first days and weeks of the new year went very well for me. The best experience was staying with my girlfriend all that time.
@Offmytrack
I am happy for you guys and hope that most of the years will continue like this.
I was born and raised in Paradise California.I was married there. I raised my 3 beautiful children there. I worked at Feather River Hospital , St. Thomas More Church , also worked 20 hours a week at the charter schools when my children attended. I was completely steeped in my gorgeous wonderful community. Than November 8th , 2018 happened to all of us. I can go on and on and on about that morning but the pain is more than emotional it is SURREAL. I hope you all bear with me as I try to even comprehend what has happened to me besides the obvious of losing everything including my brother to this incident. Yes , incident is most of us say because that is as far as we get. I have typed so much in at 7 cups only to delete because if I type it ......it makes it too real. I am so lost....I am proud I think I will actually post this. I am just trying to comprehend , stay alive , help my children for they saw burned bodies etc.... I am sooooo having issues with talking about it. I know I have to for it has been 435 days but who is counting.
@95969 I'm very sorry about the loss of your brother and the very difficult time that you and your family have had to pass thru. You were very brave to write about your experiance.
@adventurousBranch3786
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@95969- so brave to share your heartache and loss. I hope you get support through this site - you deserve so much after unfathonable trauma. THe trauma site may also be of assistance. Please know we are here for you.
@barncat
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@95969
So sorry to hear about your losses hugs. I can only imagine the severe impact of this incident on your life and how terrible it must have been for you to pull through and still taking care of your children as well. I am glad you found 7cups and hope coming here will help you. Do you have anyone in your life that can support you through this?
Here are some links which might be helpful. Please also never forget we are here for you if you like to chat 1:1 
https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/
Heard about 7 cups on NPR and thought I'd give it a try. I have belonged to many online groups over the years, but not sure where I belong now. It seems that I become very involved with the group, even for years, but once the situations have resolved, there is little reason to go back and post. Three of these groups helped me though some very trying and emotional times in my life.
Now that those times have passed, I feel a little lost. Anyway, I should be thrilled I have little reason for going back, but the feeling is more alone.
I swear, I finally called a community support line for Paradise Campfire victims...........what do you type when you miss your community so so desperately and they tell you that since you moved ( absolutely, definitely, infinitely not by chose ) out of state the law states they cannot talk with you. No words here.
@95969 I have no words either.
@95969 I sorry to hear that you had to go thru that too. It doesn't seem to make sense. I hope that you can find support with us here.
@adventurousBranch3786
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I am doing well with my goal of spending on actual needs only, in order to save money, and then pay off debt. The hardest challenge has been not spending money on my classroom. Those little things here and there really add up. So many things. Also, I will be filing for divorce soon. I need to be financially ready to take over an expense that he currently pays. It will be a long awkward transition, but better in the long run.
@Gardenyarn
You're dealing with a lot of challenges at one time, I hope coming here will help you to find some relief. Going through a divorce is a major life change. We are here for you if you like to talk.
I am doing well with my goal of spending on actual needs only, in order to save money, and then pay off debt. The hardest challenge has been not spending money on my classroom. Those little things here and there really add up. So many things. Also, I will be filing for divorce soon. I need to be financially ready to take over an expense that he currently pays. It will be a long awkward transition, but better in the long run.
Arguing with my husband a bit more lately. It seems like the more mental strength I gain, the more we fight. I tried to explain to him why I feel anxious but he doesn't understand, which is not the end of the world. What really hurts is how judgemental he is. He's thinks I'm either weak or controlling...I can never just me, be just right. He's really not a very nice person and it makes being his wife very difficult.
@Lifer
Living such a life must be hard on you, we all want to be understood and accepted for what we are particularly by the people closest to us. Often it is difficult and uncomfortable for others to see our challenges, hope you find some support here and also created ways to still enjoy yourself.
@amiablePeace77
Thank you Ami. I do find great comfort here. I am learning the importance of self appreciation through the many open chats I've attended. It's still a difficult concept for me to completely wrap my head around, but I'm trying. Thank you for your ongoing support!
@Lifer
Lifer, I am glad that the chats help you to appreciate yourself more.
@Lifer
I feel the same way sometimes. Like we fight when I have the strength to stick up for myself. He gets upset whenever I have any expectations of him, or express being upset at something he said or did that hurt my feelings. We are adults. We shuld expect that people, especially people we are in relationships with, will have grown up expectations of us!