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How do you handle change, especially when it’s unexpected?

User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 November 13th, 2025

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP November 13th, 2025

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User Profile: kala
kala November 13th, 2025

@amiablePeace77 I handle it very bad. I dont't like if something is suddenly changing.

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amiablePeace77 OP November 13th, 2025

@kala

I hear you kala. It's good to have some time to prepare for the change!

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User Profile: eternalHero77
eternalHero77 November 14th, 2025

@amiablePeace77 It depends on what the change was. If its somethin’ I wanted/needed then I don’t handle it well at all. 

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amiablePeace77 OP November 17th, 2025

@eternalHero77

Adjusting to change is not always easy. What is something that makes you feel safe?

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User Profile: eternalHero77
eternalHero77 November 20th, 2025

@amiablePeace77 Any time somethin’ happens my safest place is being inside church. Sometimes I have no words to say but just being present in the church I feel safe and I feel like thats where I belong and He will protect me in everyway.

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User Profile: amusingPal1906
amusingPal1906 November 14th, 2025

@amiablePeace77 My new strategy is to try to give a very neutral reaction and find some space to process it. I pull it off about 25% of the time so far...

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amiablePeace77 OP November 17th, 2025

@amusingPal1906

Not applying any judgment but staying on the neutral side until you have processed the situation takes off a lot of pressure and stress! Great strategy!

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User Profile: Lauren63
Lauren63 November 13th, 2025

Not well. I don’t like change when something is already planned. That being said, when I do have to handle change, I take a deep breath and deal with it

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amiablePeace77 OP November 14th, 2025

@Lauren63

You show strength towards something you might not be able to stop Lauren! 

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User Profile: akunknown
akunknown November 13th, 2025

@amiablePeace77

How do you handle change, especially when it’s unexpected?


It depends on what changes specifically. 

For example if plans were already finalized especially if those plans centered around or heavily involved me and suddenly changed I wouldn’t like it but I’d still be a good sport and go on with it to prevent unnecessary drama or conflict.

But if my family members changed (for the better) I’d definitely be in full support of those changes!!

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amiablePeace77 OP November 14th, 2025

@akunknown

You're staying flexible! 👍

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User Profile: SimplyCompassionate
SimplyCompassionate November 13th, 2025

I find it tough to handle an unexpected change.

But I prefer not to rush. First I try to accept that it happened, then take one small action at a time instead of trying to manage everything at once. At times, it works ☺️

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amiablePeace77 OP November 14th, 2025

@SimplyCompassionate

I like your approach of taking small steps to prevent overwhelm!

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SimplyCompassionate November 14th, 2025

Thank you 😊

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User Profile: Clio9876
Clio9876 November 14th, 2025

@amiablePeace77

For me it depends a lot if I have time to adapt to the change.

For example, if someone changes an appointment with plenty of notice, no worries. But if someone changes it after it has already started, this is much harder to manage.

Right now I don't handle it well. My immediate response is stress, which either comes out as anger or I suppress the anger and make myself miserable. Sharing the frustration with a friend really helps me get past this. Sometimes writing it out. A sigh or a deep breath. Going out for fresh air, a different view, a walk. A cat.

Once I've dealt with the reaction, I can then deal with the change itself. Often dealing with the change turns out to be easier than dealing with the reaction to the change.

Long term I'm working on being more resilient- better boundaries, a lower stress level in general, greater belief in my ability to cope with changes, more tools to cope with the stress when it does happen etc.

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amiablePeace77 OP November 17th, 2025

@Clio9876

Time is definitively an important factor! I like that you're working on being more resilient- better boundaries etc.! 

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User Profile: TovaCares76
TovaCares76 November 14th, 2025

@amiablePeace77

I don't handle change easily. For example, when we moved into our new house, and I had my own apartment, I was so excited! But then my family I live with wasn't around me anymore. My roommate was gone at work and there was me, all alone. I had horrible anxiety for over a month just trying to get used to my new surroundings. Now I looove it when I'm all by myself! Change will occur. I think we can plan as much as we can for it, but we also have to be open to being flexible when situations arise and we can't control them. 

A great book for this topic is Who Moved My Cheese? It's a small book with a very powerful message. 

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP November 17th, 2025

@SelfCareMatters

 I agree with you. Not everything is in our control and being flexible when situations arise we have no control over does help! Resistance creates stress!

Thanks for the book recommendation!

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User Profile: Positron2
Positron2 November 16th, 2025

C'est la vie (that's life)
The only thing that is constant in this world is change.

I gotta roll with it, or get flattened by it.

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amiablePeace77 OP November 17th, 2025

@Positron2

Better to roll with it! 😊

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User Profile: 8l1v1aA
8l1v1aA November 16th, 2025

the first reaction might not be so well. but i take a step back and watch the situation through an objective perspective and i just know that changes are there in order to learn and grow. 🙏

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amiablePeace77 OP November 17th, 2025

@8l1v1aA

That's a helpful way to see it!

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User Profile: decisiveHuman7373
decisiveHuman7373 November 18th, 2025

I tend to go with the flow now that I have much bigger things to worry about!

User Profile: Kourt22
Kourt22 November 18th, 2025

@amiablePeace77

not good , very hard for me to adapt 

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amiablePeace77 OP November 18th, 2025

@Kourt22

Sorry to hear that change can become a big challenge for you. What can make it easier, was there ever anything?

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