Cheri’s Connection Corner - Non Zero Days When Feeling Down Strategy

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UPDATED TAGLIST 6/13/2023

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@SunShineAlwaysGrateful Ok first I’m a little confused who am I responding to Sunshine or Cheri ? Anyway I find it difficult to accomplish anything my energy levels fall off so fast I was just telling another member that I’ll make my wife and son dinner and have to take a nap before I eat because just making dinner exhaust me then I usually forget to eat myself . Sometimes I eat dinner at like 2:30 in the morning .

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Your diagram makes a lot of sense. But I am afraid that there are those, like myself, who attempt to give everything in my bucket but don't take the time to refill. Then we offer more, somehow out of an empty bucket. Unfortunately, that doesn't work really well. When you have always been the giver, it's challenging to accept help. It's even hard to do self-care when you were raised to believe that self-care was selfish.

Cheri, This is such a worthwhile thought exercise.

Yes.

Those days.

We all have them. The Listeners have them. The Members have them. The Listeners who are Members have them. The Members who are Listeners have them. The People Just Reading this Have them. Administration has them. Humans have them. It's normal to have those days.

I liked the diagram you posted as well. It's cute and also representative of the Effort it takes on some days. Have you heard of the "Spoon Theory?" It's an interesting theory, we each have a certain number of spoonfuls of energy we can use during the day. For some of us, it takes more Energy and Effort to do the same thing.

Your non-zero days reminded me of this a little bit.

Someone on 7 cups told me about the "Spoon Theory," and it helped me to understand the Energy Expenditure for some tasks for some people on some days.

Anyway, this is just me free associating and rambling a bit.

I hope you have a nice day!

Love and Courage, Tas

Do “non zero days” help you feel better and more positive when you are struggling and feeling down? Explain why this strategy would help you? What are easy things you can do to feel productive?

I have days where I can't do much, but I do what I can and am satisfied with that.

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful this is literally true what a great helpful graphic thanks!

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Thank you for helping us to see things from a different perspective!

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful I like this graphic. Very insightful!

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I jist saw this and I really love that idea! The modern society has only taught us to be perfect and spotless, it's important to know that we all go through different days in life