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What advice would you give someone who is struggling to kick their addiction?

User Profile: Jill7Cups
Jill7Cups November 28th, 2018

Has anything helped you? What would you say?

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User Profile: Jill7Cups
Jill7Cups OP November 28th, 2018

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User Profile: Jenna
Jenna November 28th, 2018

When you are trying to escape addiction, there will be time where it's so easy to avoid, and there will be times where it's hard to avoid the temptation. The best advice I can give you is to love yourself through the process of healing. Forgive yourself when you relapse, but don't use it as an a excuse to keep going back. Breaking addiction is very challenging and you will fail before you succeed. Support that person in you who fails and root for them. Encourage instead of giving yourself hate and talking down. Importantly, believe in yourself that you can do this, and you will.

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User Profile: intellectualKiwi2978
intellectualKiwi2978 December 30th, 2018

@Jenna wha If you struggle to believe sometimes :/

User Profile: proactivePal2428
proactivePal2428 February 3rd, 2019

@Jenna. Well today I woke up feeling as if it's time to quit it's controlling my life I was doing so good a while ago and I don't know what happened but pushed me back into it

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User Profile: bgdave
bgdave November 28th, 2018

If possible do everything you can to get the thing youre addicted to out of your life. I found help and fellowship in 12 step meetings. Dont get hung up on the god term in the steps it can can be whatever a higher power is too you. Know you are committed to being better and free from the terrible affects of whatever your addiction is. Be kind to yourself and reach out for help. It doesnt mean you are weak it shows how much you want to be free from your addiction. Try to have patience with the process and talk to someone who understands addiction. If you can find a sponsor they have been where you are. Know at first it will take a lot to stay on purpose with quitting. But keep faith and be strong because you are worth it and you will beat your addiction. I am almost 4 years Cannabis free and I used almost everyday of my adult life. Whatever your addiction is there are others out there wanting to quit too you can find a self help community. Just be honest with yourself and accept that you have a problem you need help with. That is the first step towards a better future free from the problem you are struggling with.

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User Profile: Shazd
Shazd March 16th, 2020

@ very True

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User Profile: HereComesTheSun7
HereComesTheSun7 November 29th, 2018

It can be hard to find a coping method that works for you but keep trying, when you find a good one for you it can be incredibly helpful.

User Profile: Jnelson84
Jnelson84 December 1st, 2018

I could be taken as negative but I believe if you are struggling with addiction, the easiest way to fall back into it is familiarity. Maybe leaving the so called friends who aren't trying to get better or are just using someone is a hard, but important step. Have to have a safe zone, and familiarity is not the same as safe.

User Profile: sportsman2000
sportsman2000 February 1st, 2019

Get into the AA or NA programs that is the best possible support, get a sponsor, if they need get some treatment that follows the 12 steps, best advice I can give ya

User Profile: lavenderpeach1107
lavenderpeach1107 November 20th, 2019

@Jill7Cups I am an alcoholic and I was once addictied to Xanax. I've been sober for over a year and a half now. Quitting an addiction is one of the hardest things you can do... but it 100% worth it! Remaing on the road to sobriety takes love, time, and lots and lots of pantience for yourself. Self-care is CRUCIAL druing this time. DON'T GIVE UP! You can do this, it's not impossible. You just have to keep fighting... And you have to do it every single day. Recovery never gets a day off. Things may seem really dark and miserable and shameful right now but it can get better with a commitment to yourself! The light does come back!

User Profile: decisiveLunch8294
decisiveLunch8294 November 20th, 2019

To keep oneselves active, alone time where you sit and think is usually the worst time for an addict.

Personally i had to find a job to be able to kick my addiction, because 80% of people get addicted because whatever substance it may be helps to combat boredom. It sounds weird, but we preffer anything over being bored, pain even.

I for one got addicted to my drug simply because it made the days pass, and i didn't have to sit there with thoughts i didn't wanna think

User Profile: lyricalAngel70
lyricalAngel70 November 21st, 2019

@Jill7Cups

One of my best friend is addicted to nicotine since three years. I couldn't take it when I came across this fact few months ago. He chose to hide it from me and suddenly told me about it in April. I couldn't sleep the entire night the day he told me about his addiction. I kept sharing useful articles, videos and motivational quotes to motivate him to quit smoking. He recently told me that it's been a month and he hasn't smoked cigarettes. I am extremely happy and proud of him. He started smoking due to a lot of stress related to his job and profession. I am really concerned about his health and I pray that he quit his unhealthy habits as soon as possible. Besides, I would do whatever it takes to help him out of this.

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User Profile: decisiveLunch8294
decisiveLunch8294 November 22nd, 2019

@lyricalAngel70

I think it's wo derfull you care so much about you friend, makes me wish i had that kind of friend. But i just want to say it sounds a little pushy, im afraid your friend might be scared to tell you if the quitting doesn't work out.

I have no kind of knowledge of how close you two are, but just make sure to tell him/her, that if it doesn't work out the way he/she told you it did, that friend shouldn't be afraid to tell you, (because you should be able to handle it without you friend feeling guilty perhaps)

Nicotine isn't the worst thing in the world, but that's what makes it hard to quit. And you being so dedicated in getting your friend to quit can putt a lot of pressure on that person. Just make sure he/she is as dedicated to quitting as you are to them quitting, otherwise they provably can't face dissapointing you with the truth. And might quit for a month or two, but if the motivation doesn't come from themselves, it might not last, that's just my experience

It's not my buiseness but i had a hard time telling people about my addiction to begine with, and once i did, everyone seemed to care so much for it and about me, more than i cared for me to be honest. Made it a lot easier to lie, than to actually follow through or tell them the truth.

Just saying, be carefull about how invested you get. But then again, i wish i had a friend like you 👍

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User Profile: Shazd
Shazd March 16th, 2020

@Jill7Cups

Change your environment and company, and you will change your self.

We don't have reliable and curative treatment for addiction. We barely keep people alive. Keeping your environment sterile is the best way along with all the recovery work you will do anyway.

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User Profile: resourcefulPond1641
resourcefulPond1641 March 16th, 2020

@Shazd Yeah, we will inevitably be affected by the people and places in our lives.

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User Profile: Rik12
Rik12 March 17th, 2020

@Shazd. What if hiding alone to fill my needs is the problem, and I don't have a real social group to find support.

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