Frozen With Fear
I'm a 34 year old full-time caregiver for my grandmother with no help from family members, I've been doing this for 9 years and I've been raised to be codependant and ontop of having fear of abandonment its a bad mix. I'm currently at my wits end. I don't have alot of life skills i need to manage all of the things i need to and I'm a constant ball of worry because I have no idea how things will happen. I don't know if my grandmother will continue to progress through physical therapy or regress and its terrifies me. I know i need alot of help
@bluefan234 i think its great that you do what you can, keep the hope for things to get better, but knowing that you`ll do what you can.
@bluefan234
Hi BlueFan,
I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling so very overwhelmed and at your wit's end. Caring for your ailing grandmother full-time while trying to care for yourself and your fear of abandonment is really a lot to have on your plate, and I applaud you for reaching out for support. No one should have to go through that alone.
Have you heard about the 7 cups family and caregivers support group? You may find others in similar positions who have a lot of wisdom and comfort to offer.
https://www.7cups.com/home/familyandcaregivers/
In addition, have to tried talking with a listener yet? I'm not sure I could do justice to the support you deserve here in the forums, but listeners are here for you. Sometimes getting our thoughts out can help bring us clarity to move forward with more confidence.
If you're open to that approach, you can find listeners here:
https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/
Bluefan, I know it must be so hard to manage all the responsibilities on your plate right now. I hope these resources with be of help and that you will find a community of support and strength here at 7 cups.
Very best wishes to you.