All I ever wanted was a best friend
I have no friends irl. I know coworkers and get along with them but that's it. I don't hang out with anyone and when I try with my siblings they really hurt my feelings. I thought about traveling and how fun it would be but then I realized no one in my life would want to travel with me. I feel like everyone I know is full of hate. I hate it... I really struggle making new friends. As fun as a relationship could be idc if I'm never in one or if my bff turns out to be a future partner that would be cool but I just need someone. I feel like I'm drowning. I feel like no one wants to be around me. Everyone "likes me" but no one wants to do fun things with me and my family is so lame and bigoted. Idk
@agreeableSkies9889
I wonder what do you mean by frienship?
Someone I can hang with and share my interests with who doesn't hate me lol
@agreeableSkies9889
If you get along with co-workers but do not hang out with them is there a reason? Have you invited someone to do things or are you waiting for others to ask you?
Many people often think if someone likes me as a friend they will invite or suggest doing something.... While the other person says to themselves 'if agreeableskies liked me they would invite or suggest an outing". Both end up lonely or wondering how to make friends.
I like my coworkers but I've never wanted to hang out with someone outside of work. I kinda like to keep work and the rest of my life separate
@agreeableSkies9889I can relate to this exactly. It really hurts, and I think it was really brave of you to say out loud.
@ElinorM
May be you can explain to me what a friendship is for you :)
@RedOceanSun Hi there. I think for me friendship is about being empathic, remembering, listening, understanding, not trying to fix things for someone - but being there and being present (even remotely), helping people on their own terms, giving up your time for someone, trust, honesty. I think off the top of my head those are the things that are important to me.
I'm not sure if that answers your question, but I think those are the things that friendship means to me, maybe it would be different for others, and that's okay too.
@ElinorM
Oh, mate, thank you, very short and clear. I haven't heard an explanation like yours for a long time or may be never :}
Il ike deep thoughts, mate :)
May you have something more to say? :)
@RedOceanSun Thank you so much, that's really kind of you to say.
I think the only thing I guess I would say is that I'm all about open communication - friendship for me grows naturally when people share interests and moments and things like? But I feel like it's also maintained by communication and mutual respect.
Like I say though, these are all my thoughts and what I value. I prefer deeper level connections, other people might think that superficial and surface friendship is better, and that's for them. I think my feeling is that it's between the two people, and there's no right or wrong answers, if that makes sense?
@ElinorM
My applause, mate! :)
I think there is no "follow"-feature on 7cups, but i'll be watching your posts by myself if you don't mind :)
@agreeableSkies9889
that a valid want, i hope you can get that one day
Are you being a good friend to yourself? Are you caring for yourself and loving yourself as much as possible? Sometimes we don't meet other quality people to bring into our lives until we fully make ourselves open to those experiences. We do that by loving ourselves first. ❤️
I feel you 🫂
Sending 🫂. We may not know you. But we hear you. And sending healing and love 🕊️🤍🙏🏼
Thank you!
I dealt with loneliness a lot. Almost voted, most quiet by my classmates. Still, as an adult I struggle with connecting and having the energy to keep up with everything.
Good to know I'm not alone ❤️
@agreeableSkies9889👏👏👏👏