How to just…do something?

Try to start small and break it up. Each day cross something off the to-do list. If it helps, incentivise yourself.

Like no phone time until I've made the bed. For me I will put on an energetic playlist so it spurs me to get moving.

Starting is hard but once you get going, it becomes easier and you will feel lighter. You can assign a specific day for laundry so it becomes a routine..

Something that really helped me was to keep a "brain dump journal" and a pen next to my bed or by my couch, and when I struggled to get out of bed or off the couch due to endless thoughts and feeling stuck, I would write those thoughts down. It made it much easier for me to get unstuck.

When I got overwhelmed by seemingly endless tasks that I had to do, I wrote them all down and then circled the one I wanted to do first, or I numbered the top three that I wanted to do. To make it more urgent, I set a timer for up to 15 minutes. I rewarded myself with either a treat, or a quick break to do something I enjoy.

Something that really helped me was to keep a "brain dump journal" and a pen next to my bed or by my couch, and when I struggled to get out of bed or off the couch due to endless thoughts and feeling stuck, I would write those thoughts down. It made it much easier for me to get unstuck.

When I got overwhelmed by seemingly endless tasks that I had to do, I wrote them all down and then circled the one I wanted to do first, or I numbered the top three that I wanted to do. To make it more urgent, I set a timer for up to 15 minutes. I rewarded myself with either a treat, or a quick break to do something I enjoy.

@ConureConnor

I'm struggling with this kind of thing as well. It's such an easy rut to fall into.

I'd like to echo the advice that's already been shared. Compartmentalization is key.

I don't read what you posted and think "this is just a lazy person". I think this is someone whose mind and body are overwhelmed, so even things that should be pleasurable end up feeling like chores, and disconnecting is the only thing that brings relief.

One thing I'd hate to see you do is beat yourself up over this. We're creatures of comfort, we seek pleasure over pain, and we prefer the paths of least resistance. We're wired that way on purpose. It's our nature.

Yet that doesn't mean this is a rut you have to stay in forever.

Hi...we get overwhelmed sometimes ..no worries

All the just work h wrote can be segregated into two parts

Daily task n alternate days tasks

So make two lists

Now everyday when u come back to hame make a small list of works n after finishing every task just mark tick

That ll give u kind of satisfaction

N use mobile as reward

Dont let your mobile use you

Stay calm and take care

The overwhelm is probably largely from the pressure you're putting on yourself. I've found that setting my expectations crazy low actually helps me get things done. It feels overwhelming to face cleaning a whole space, but if I ask myself what the less-than-2-minutes path is, I have found options that actually work for me:

Throw away or pick up 3 items.

Hang up two pieces of clothing. (Sometimes even smaller: get two hangers out of the closet.)

Bring a trash bag from my kitchen to the room.

Dust just this one corner behind the lamp.

And 2 minutes at a time, here and there, has helped me gradually get to a calmer environment. Not perfect but so much better.

Try this with any habit. What's the smallest step for doing laundry? Picking up the hamper? Putting one item in the washer?

For reading, just set the goal to read one paragraph.

Also phone block apps can really help. They did for me.

It doesn't happen overnight! I've been exactly where you are. A few years ago I genuinely could not move for hours, and sometimes that still happens. Give yourself grace.

Recommendations: How to Keep House While Drowning, and Atomic Habits. (I actually learned most of the Atomic Habits "tricks" through the Fabulous app, but don't use it anymore.)

In my elementary school days, I used to have problems with solving complex mathematics. My victory came when we got a young Mathematics teacher who studied civil engineering. When realized my problem. He told me to always break the complex maths problem into sections and follow it step by step. If I get a answer to first step, it will lead me to second step. Fortunately, later in life, I observed the challenges of life are also complex. The principles give to me by my Man teacher turn out to help me.

All those thoughts, arrange them in priority. Example. Sleep, write documentations, practice instrument, laundry, wash dishes, read books, shopping, walk etc.

Week schedules

Day one

Write and sleep

Day two

Laundry/ wash, and sleep

Day three

Practice instrument and sleep

Day Four

Read book and sleep

Day five

Go shopping and sleep

Day six

Go on walk, and sleep

Day seven

Have fun and sleep

This just an example, you can plan it in your own way to do one thing at a time.

Note: don't worry about what you have not been to do. Just fix them into another time ahead.

Hope this will help you.

I just felt like copy pasting the same thing… how funny this is some people are living the same life in their own parallel world

Hey I have the same problem. Really!

Maybe we can be accountability buddies!

If you do something good for yourself I will praise you so much!

@conureconnor