guys :l is it selfish if i just poof *disappear* from the internet to prioritize my peace? but not sure for how long
how do i stop myself from feeling bad about this? i always, "maybe one day, i need more days, one day i will come back". still not ready /_\ i asked gpt about this too
@hopefulencounter It's not selfish to want to take care of yourself and prioritise your needs, you recognise what's best for you.
All I will say to avoid being bugged, is think about putting a message, saying something vague. Thanks for those looking out for me, I appreciate your care and concern but I would feel better stepping away for a while to take care of other priorities.
I'll be in touch, thanks for respecting my space and wishes :)
@ScrabbleBrain I said something like "I don't feel well, I'll be stepping away for now" but it's been months and I still don't have the courage to come back
@hopefulencounter That's a good note and you don't need to force yourself to return if you're not up to it. Focus on what you like and I hope that will give you peace.
People will just have to understand. Others take breaks and don't feel guilty, why should we?
@ScrabbleBrain thank you so much for hearing my story :'') and yes I agree with you.. I already told them about me not feeling ok/well, yet I still feel bad for not coming back.. one of them is trying to reconnect with me but I'm still afraid which is why I don't respond. This is about online friendship by the way, I used to feel happy with them but after a rest, I feel better when I'm offline
@hopefulencounter No worries people can be draining and most of us unfortunately feel obligated to carry on uncomfortable acquaintances or friendships, but we don't have too.
It's really hard to say, sorry this isn't working out, nothing personal but we're just not suited. I know it's bad but sometimes I just block to get some peace and avoid awkward confrontations.
@ScrabbleBrain 🥹your words are very comforting
@hopefulencounter Aww happy to hear :)
I think its not. Find your best place for you. Its all good when you follow your own path.
@adventurousCake1561 thank you, i'm glad to hear that it's ok :")
@ScrabbleBrain
very well said!
@Gabryyyte Thanks :)
I'm glad, sometimes we just need a kind ear :)
@ScrabbleBrain yes, so true :'')
Depends on situation 🙂
@hopefulencounter In my opinion, that’s completely fine! Just tell the people who might expect you to reply on their posts that you’re going to poof, then there shouldn’t be a problem 🌸
@Butterfly723389 I see, thank you for sharing your opinion with me. Actually I already told them a long time ago that I might not be there, but at that time I didn't expect that I'd took 4+ months of rest from them, now I still feel tired and don't wanna come back too
@Butterfly723389
Well said!
@hopwfulencounter I'm on similar situation :') I'm still in touch with them on whats app and stuff- but not in i g and connecting back feels really strange.. cus' i haven't been active in grp chats it's been months... I feel like I need space for myself rn.. and it feels less chaotic. And I'm liking it for now, maybe I'll re-connect in future but for now, I feel okay with how things are.
@fossilfellow reconnecting feels weird for me too. i think i’ve changed a bit, so jumping back into old spaces feels heavier than i expected. i’m also just taking space and seeing how i feel without pressure.
it’s comforting to know i'm not the only one feeling this. i used to find a lot of comfort there, but lately i just feel more at peace when things are quiet. i think i’m choosing that peace for now.
@hopefulencounter I can totally relate, you're not alone. I'm glad you're choosing your peace for now 🍀🤍 <3
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@fossilfellow
Prioritise yourself, you're not selfish for that! <33
@Gabryyyte Thank you 💝
Also, you're not selfesh for priotizing your peace, everyone needs break now and then, It's okay 🤍
@fossilfellow thank you, i really needed to hear that. i've been overthinking it a lot, so it helps to know it’s not selfish :')
@hopefulencounter ❤️❤️
YOU are more ipmortant than the internet. Remember that. <3
And also remember how dearly we love you, and that we'll be right here for you, if and when you do decide to come back <3
Ipmortant is not a word XD I meant important hehe
@jesusredeemedme2425
Very nice message!
@jesusredeemedme2425 this is so sweet 🥹💖thanks a lot for reminding me, really warms my heart 🥺
@hopefulencounter not selfish at all. Have a good break
@J0Nsnow thank you! Q-Q
@hopefulencounter
In theory, yes.
in practice no
but i used to do this
i lost many many relationships, friends, and more
i was even broken up with over it twice
all because i got used to it
bunkering down only works if you have an actual support system irl that will take care of you once you are no longer online.
but if you don't, then a day becomes a week , then 2 weeks, then a month and you haven't gotten any better
and thats assuming it doesnt become a full-on habit because once you go offline once when under a lot of stress, it's easy to justify a second, a fifth and a tenth time
Also, dont ask chatgpt for advice; maybe tips here and there but solid advice, no. ChatGPT is too much of a corporate AI to even try something that would help you but stops you from engaging with it
@scorpionpolktanktree I agree with what you said, I'm not feeling better because I don't have that support system when offline🥲 I end up avoiding them again, but I feel so much calmer when I do that. I guess this is why people are leaving online friendship behind
And about chatgpt, I'll try not to interact so much with it . I'm just confused,, thank you for reading my story and giving me advice 💖
@hopefulencounter
yeah i guess im part of that problem lol
np
good luck
@scorpionpolktanktree same, i think like that too. maybe i'm the problem 😅, that's why i decided to leave. thanks, good luck to you too 🍀🤞🏻
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