sexual frustration
i been educating myself on this cuz i know intimacy is a basic human need and im not getting that, im showing every single sign of sexual frustrating to the max and it’s making my depression and anxiety worse, i’m so *** bitter towards couples that reflect the type of chemistry i want to experience i don’t like being a bitter person, i just want to avoid talking about it to avoid the frustration but i don’t think i can just make myself asexual and aromantic and remove that need. every. single. person. i know im my life have a consistent love life and sex life and i feel like the universe is putting salt on the wound and im so *** sick of it. and i been working on my self love for too long to still feel insecure the way i do, but honestly it’s so hard to not wonder what the *** is wrong with you when everybody you know is getting that need fulfilled but you. i feel annoying with this constantly being a topic but when everybody is always talking about their love life you always going to be reminded of the absence of yours. and it doesn’t help that my appearance makes people assume im some player that pulls a bunch of people because im telling you i *** dont. sorry for the cursing i just can’t fully express how i feel without the foul language cuz this *** feels foul as ***. all love
@purpleStrawberries7443 I'm sorry you're feeling this way, I want you to know that you're not alone 🤍 your feelings are totally valid and they matter. ❤️
and I can relate. but you know, most of the times. we can only see the highlights of other peoples lives and not the whole story behind. and it's normal to feel jealous, compare yourself and have negative thoughts. you truly deserve someone who genuinely cares for you and loves you. ❤️
Please try not to be too hard on yourself ❤️ You're still very young and I'm sure you'll find the right person, when the right time comes. It's completely okay to express yourself and vent sometimes. You matter 🤍
And if someone makes you feel bad it's okay to distance and give yourself some space. Sending lots of love and best wishes towards you! 💕
thank you ❤️
@purpleStrawberries7443
Im sorry :(
Not having your intimate needs met can make one feel sad and bitter.
My sex drive has gone so down .... because ive figured im kind of demisexual....
I think everyone faces some sort of intimacy issues. I know of couples struggling with lack of excitement etc.
But people dont talk about it enough. As its deeply personal of course. But - I dont judge it at all. And I dont believe anyone should. Its extremely normal to face all kinds of concerns in this realm.
I hope you find a healthy love to meet your needs
@purpleStrawberriea7443
thank you, the thing is my sex drive isn’t even that big, literally romantic cuddles would do so much for me. but at this point i feel like i might start coping in unhealthy ways because im turning 18 soon and im scared about that and im doing what i can right now to better myself like using this app for example
Thank you for expressing yourself here, and it's beautiful to open yourself up to seek help, very brave.
Jealousy is a very natural feeling my friend.
It's not evil, corrupted, nor bad.
It's an emotion that reminds you of that thing that you wish to have, and crave badly.
Whether it's love, intimacy, money, family, or even something as simple as a certain food or a game that you see in other's hands.
It's human to feel jealousy my friend.
And if you let out a few bitter words about couples, it's okay, it's not your fault.
If you're worried about it, then the best thing that you can do is protect your mind from envy, and to not act on them by hurting those you are jealous from.
Bur feeling jealousy itself is not wrong, nor evil, please remember that you are allowed to feel, and express.
I'm sure that what you expressed is just a small amount of the pain you endured, and I'm going through a similar situation here, not just romantic intimacy, but from people who have loving parents, and sisters too.
Not to belittle nor compare your suffering, but to let you know that you are not alone to feeling this way.
I wish you the best, my sweet friend!
Goodluck on your journey, and feel free to express again whenever your heart needs it!❤️
thank you sm love, you didn’t know how much i appreciate this response
