Silent Wins ?? ^_^
All of my negative experiences, whether major or minor, have served as lessons that shaped my understanding of what to pursue and what to stay away from.
No one really noticed, since I tend to come across as overly kind, but over time I began to understand what different people liked and didn’t like, and adjusted myself accordingly.
@PerseveranceEmpathy
This is appreciative, learning from ur mistake's instead dwelling in there n adapting ur with Ppl's in the way possible to protect ur peace wasn't something easy for real, that's you for being strong, n the strength u hold is amazing ❤️
Thank you for sharing, Hugs ❤️
Thanks, you too 🙏
@AiluraTheCat
@AiluraTheCat Actually, today’s evening. I‘ve been really scared, because I knew I’d be alone at home this evening and that plus having a rough time is not a good combo 😓 But I prepared some distractions and it worked, the evening was actually pretty chill and I’m proud of that 🥳☺️
I really appreciate this thread, you’ve got a nice idea there, Ailura 🤗💝
Hugs to u 🤗💓
🦋🐈 <3
@Butterfly723389
I'm sry to hear that you had a bad day ): n i appreciative u lot sweetie 😊 that you figured out a solution for the issue... You implement it. I'm so glad you stayed there for u, protect urself from drowning ❤️ that's a big win, I'm so proud of u 😊
*Hug u closer to my heart* *Love you* 🤗
(🐈🦋) <3 🤗
@AiluraTheCat Thank you for the kind words ☺️💞 love you too 🤗💗
Hugs received n sending hugs to u 🤗
🦋🐈 <3
@AiluraTheCat no one noticed because I changed school and there were new people so they didn't know my personality. Even if I don't speak with anyone, at least I'm not afraid to ask smth specific about an exam, to ask for a pen or to ask any other thing. Before I would be nervous and it would be a real problem for me to talk to someone. Now it's like I don't care, I don't speak with people but I can ask smth if I need it.
@honestLime2186
Hey hi honest (/^-^(^ ^*)/
I understand that moving to New environment isn't easy n adapting to things take time, ik how hard it is to reach out to ppl's when u needed, especially to those Ppl's who u don't really know but I'm so proud of u, that you stepping in, reach out when ur in need, it's not at all easy, ik how much strength it must have taken away. I see you strength here 😊. I Appreciate u a lot <3 *Hugs* 🤗
Thank you for sharing ❤️
Getting past 1 day 21 hrs clean :) I got stuck there twice before, but I beat it today!
@politePlace5370
*Hugs* that's a pure strength ❤️, I'm very much proud u...!! 😊 You're amazing <3 i appreciate u a lot.
*Hugs* 🤗
Thank you !!! You’re so great <3
@politePlace5370
My pleasure 🤗
@AiluraTheCat
Realizing that no one else can be there for you except yourself only you're the one who's gonna be there for yourself when everyone leaves
@H3reAlways
This is so true, i can relate ❤️...!! honestly i remind this to myself everyday, thank you so much for sharing ❤️ *Hugs*
@AiluraTheCat
Yes exactly no problem lol sometimes we really shouldn't have a problem opening up even if its hard we should take our time *hugs back* 🫂
@AiluraTheCat
Beautiful thread topic Ailura!
@ eveyrone reading, if this is you, I'm proud of you!
@Heather225
Thank you, Heather 😊
@AiluraTheCat
we think our biggest win been in healing even within the abuse and staying positive and hopeful in many times we really wanted to give up
another one was getting our degree at age 44yr as offline no one really cared about it even put us down due to it was in a art field but it proved to us and many others that we not low IQ we do have many learning disabilities but did not let them stop us and worked hard at overcoming them still have to work hard a lot of the time at that but we winning most the time after being called stupid all our life
we see blessing even within struggles and suffering so that to a win most not se but mean a lot to us
@stormieandpaws
Wow stormie, i just woke up... It's early morning here, i felt demotivated for some reason but honestly after reading this, you just inspired me...!! Omg, like that's amazing. All my life, no one supported me, i struggle alone to take any step forward, abused, they say I'm just stupid, you are not gonna make it, comparing me to my siblings n others who's successful in life. The way Ppl's look at me make me feel stumble, at this very point. I just dunno what to do.. I'm abt to quit but still hunging in there, taking baby step, crawling forward. Idk why... But reading this really grounded my heavy chest, I'm so proud of u that u made it, you're just amazing ❤️ no words remains in me to appreciate. I'm sheding tears 😅
Thank you so much for sharing 😊
@AiluraTheCat
thanks we believe a lot had to do with our mindset even as a child we had the mindset that even worst of times God give us blessings sometime one over looks them due to they seem tiny but looking back they was not
we still deal with ours putting us down our brother who is 2yr older always got As in school he never had to really put lots of work into getting As but for us school was hard to even get a C we had to put hours in on the school work but we believe the lesson within this was never give up keep going
God sent us a family down the road who showed us what a healthy family looked like also due to that kindness they took us to church as our family did not go to church but within that was we learned love and that other care about us we never heard our parents say i love you but the mother of this family would tell us she loved us and Jesus loved us
a really cool like healing work is to look back within the trauma and write down the blessing one sees it can amazing to do this
@stormieandpaws
Wow, this so beautiful, thank you for sharing...!! I'm so glad you ended up with a family who acknowledged ur value, love n supported you. That's truly amazing to read. I can relate so much of u, even my parents have never said anything kind words to me, never been told they love me, not even hugged me, back then all i needed is a just a kind words n supportive words from them, but i can receive is not what in anticipated. My maternal family hate Baby girl!! They think women's are degraded, how awful the thinking is... So, my mom always been on my brother side, she also do awful things to me but i can't hate or even complain her, i love my parents anyways. But it's hurts me, when I left alone, mistreated, humiliated, compared to my elder brother. I try my best to reach the top, n I'll make it but in the end my brother is always ahead of me. So, I've built up a strong inferiority complex in me... I always put myself down even through i am capable.
But after been in cups, Ppl's her helping me to see my actual worth, what I am actually are, what I am capable of... I can feel that I'm Changing slowly time to time... At my own pace. Hope things be soon ease up for me ❤️
@AiluraTheCat
we learned over the years to challenge the inside words that were said to us and to see truth not the lies told to us by doing this we learned that the lies told to us do not have power over us slowly this been changing but take healing work too
remember a journey starts with one step into the unknown but each small step add to the ones before it and when you look back you see how far you have came
we believe in you and know you can heal not believe lies told to you but overcome them
sounds like you family was a lot like our family we youngest of 3 kids and only girl was told many many times growing up women only good for pleasing a man in bedroom taking care of home and kids so they not need to think they ccan do more as wife duty to please men
we was also compared to older brothers never good enough but slowly we overcoming that
like you we love mom and dad even love evil brother and other brother but we love others even when hate their actions
glad you on 7 cups and healing yes it can be very slow but worth it
@stormieandpaws
Hey hi paw, hope u have a great day ahead 😊
Honestly reading this made me feel less isolated, but knowing that you gone something exactly like me hurts, ik how much painful it is ): n thank you so much for encouraging words, this honestly sits tight with me... Made me feel I still got this. Yeah..! I'm trying my best not to focus on what other say's, those negative comments, even it Hits really hard at times but yeah..!! I'm giving my best, n tbh... 7cups is navigating me, i joined leadership development program, i getting to know my worth n what I am capable of slowly evn it feels unreal. I'm trying to adapt 😊.
Thank you so much for replying, acknowledgment, n for those encouraging words to me 😊. It mean's a lot to me <3
Hugs (つ≧▽≦)つ
@AiluraTheCat
you got this remember healing a journey not happen all at same time but is like peeling layers off one at a time
we might look into the one you talking about here on 7 cups not sure if need to have a listener account for that one
but learning to make self better part of healing also believing in yourself is
@AiluraTheCat
When i was brave to say what I wanna say \(^-^)/🥳
@VictoriaLove7
That's really a strength, you're courageous ❤️, ik that's not easy.. but you did it anyways. i appreciate you a lot 😊❤️
@AiluraTheCat
Thank you, Ailura 😸
@VictoriaLove7
Full of pleasure 😊
@AiluraTheCat Every choice made by me is a huge success. I really thank myself on every choice ive made ~
@Jzjzzzzzzz
Whoa! That sounds fantastic, so you must be very analytical and have long-term vision 😊. You're incredible; not everyone has that. ❤️
I appreciate you alot 🤗 * hugs *