✉️Letter to my symptom series week 4
✉️ Letter to my Symptom Series Week 4: Anger
Welcome back to the letter to my symptom series. This week, we are writing a letter to an intense and often misunderstood feeling: Anger.
Anger can make our blood boil, cloud our judgment, and make us want to react aggressively. Because of this, we often try to push it down. But anger is actually a vital, mandatory emotion. It is our internal alarm system that flashes when our boundaries have been crossed, when we are being treated unfairly, or when someone we love is hurt. It gives us the energy to stand up for ourselves.
So this week, we will thank our anger for being our protector and highlighting our worth, but we will also set a firm boundary. We will put a clear line between healthy anger that protects us, and the extreme, destructive anger that hurts ourselves and others.
✏️ How to participate:
Write a 5-to-10 sentence letter to your anger, acknowledging its role as your protector but setting strict boundaries on how it expresses itself.
Example:
Dear Anger,
I want to start by thanking you for being my fierce protector. Thank you for showing up when people treat me poorly and for reminding me that I deserve respect. You are proof that I care about myself and my boundaries. However, I need to tell you that your explosive outbursts are no longer welcome here. When you take over completely, you end up hurting the people I love and damaging my own peace of mind. I will listen to your warnings, but I will not let you control my actions or speak for me anymore.
— me
Ps: sorry for not posting yesterday for this i was kinda busyy
@cheerfulKiwi1776
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@cheerfulKiwi1776
Dear Anger,
You are my biggest friend and my harshest foe. I never could have lived this life without you, but all the same you have begun to take over my life, and the line between you and me has blurred almost into non-existence. Fight for me, Anger, not with me. We both have the same goal. We are both trying to survive.
Your companion,
Me.
@unassumingEyes
THanks for writing this amazing letter. Do you think thst those letters help you at all?
@cheerfulKiwi1776
Oh, absolutely. It really does help
@unassumingEyes
That's great to know. I m glad. ✨️❤️
Dear Anger,
First of all, I'm going to call you out for cussing about having a letter to open... You can go ahead and tell Anxiety that it's a false alarm.
Anyway, you're my favorite writing buddy, and you have better music taste than the rest of the emotions. Still, we gotta stop having these day-long heart-to-hearts. When people see us together, they don't think we're fun to be around, and they get scared of us. I know, I know, that can be constructive, but let's save it for when it serves us. Please work with me, I'm literally the only one who can stop you from making mistakes. Thanks in advance. Peace! (Get it?) 😂
P.S. I wouldn't have gotten through the retail work days without you. Seriously.
@Torean
I looooooove the way you write the letters!!!😜😂🤗
I absolutely adore them. Thank you for writing this one as well and thanks for always managing to put a smile on my face reading your letters and the way of your writing. I hope those letters help you too. Take care✨️❤️
It totally does. 😁 Thank you as well, and glad you liked it. ❤️
@Torean
✨️❤️🫂
@Torean
God, the music taste. The only pros of having anger/hj
@cheerfulKiwi1776
Dear anger,
You've always been the first to show up to protect me from the sticky situations and dangers this world has to offer. You've reminded me time and time again that I'm allowed to place boundaries to protect myself. unfortuently you've started to slowly take over as you claimed your dominance over everything else. Its time for you to recede back into the corner of my mind that you call home until you are once again needed. You are always welcome to stand up for me but not if you are going to needlessly hurt the people I care for.
-me (:
@IzzyGamer
Aww. Such a sweet and heartwarming letter you wrote there. I m super happy you take the time to write. I hope it helps. Thanks for opening up.🫂
I see you hiding quietly beneath the surface, masking the hurt and exhaustion I’ve been too reluctant to voice. I realize that you are trying to protect me, but the way you stay locked inside only causes me pain. You have been holding on to every boundary that was crossed and every injustice I tried to swallow. It is no longer your job to carry this heavy weight alone, nor do you need to turn my own heart into a battlefield. I am ready to step forward, claim my voice, and release the tension you have forced me to hold. Thank you for trying to keep me safe, but it is time to set you down and let us both heal.
Sincerely,
Twist
@mytwistedsoul
Once again, amazing letter here. Thanks for taking the time off your day to write this, it truly warms my heart. I really hope it helps. You are really amazing ❤️✨️
@cheerfulKiwi1776 Thank you!
@mytwistedsoul
Take care✨️❤️
@cheerfulKiwi1776 You too 💙
@mytwistedsoul
Thank you✨️❤️
@cheerfulKiwi1776
dear anger
thank you for you being with me for you trying to keep me safe but i no longer want you to take control and end up hurting my body it ok for you to be and to express your self in art and writing but not ok to attack my body or hurt others thank you for warnings when boundaries have been crossed you no longer have to fear being hurt by the abusers so your free to be and to say your feelings of anger
@HopeWithinDarkness
THanks for writing this message. I m sure you can heal and I m sure you have the strength to cope. I believe in you✨️❤️
@cheerfulKiwi1776
thank you at this point it more managing health stuff being aware of body"s needs and not overdoing's to point i am down for few days seem to do that way to much
Look even trying is hard and it needs to be celebrated. You are amazing. I believe in you@HopeWithinDarkness
@cheerfulKiwi1776
thank you yes am trying think maybe way i growup is the big issues as i was never truly allowed to rest always pushed to do more and more so now i do same push my self to do a lot but then in end i crash and then end up unable to do anything for day or two
i really need to learn to listen more to my body and rest when it needs too being as sick as am it hard as feel like i am disappointing others a burden on others too this to come from my childhood shame was always there
@HopeWithinDarkness
Hey you are not a burden and you don't disappoint anyone. You are an amazing person and one of the most strong. I get how hard it feels sometime. Indeed you need to listen more to your body and always always love yourself and take care of you.✨️❤️
@cheerfulKiwi1776
thanks i know where them messages come from a lot from family members who right out told me i was and also my ex hubby who used a form of brainwashing on me that he learned partly in military and partly from his own childhood it why a lot happened when i was married to him but at time did not see what was going on
my dad also was like that and my oldest brother so yes it hard to not allow the messages i had all my life to take over at times still working on that but being aware is first step in healing
@HopeWithinDarkness
Indeed being aware is first step in healing. Thanks for opening up. I m sorry you went through those things with your ex husband your dad and your brother. I know how hard it can be because my own father is ex military and he acts somewhat the same. Its okay to not heal overnight. Take your time. One step at the time helps a lot. We believe in you and we are here to support you.
@cheerfulKiwi1776
thanks sometime i think i should be healed fully by now started my healing journey little over 20 years ago even within still being in abuse up until moved in may 2017 i heard so many times get over it forget it forgive them move on and other things like just give it to the Lord then move on so that made it even harder to believe it ok to still be healing
but think the therapist i have now is good one she stated you had 47yr of abuse even after the worst of the abuse stopped you still had daily abuse so it was years and years of abuse you know it did not happen 1 time but many times give yourself grace allow your self time even if it take rest of your life each healing step is a big win even when it not seem like it
Yes people indeed tell us many things like those you said in the first paragraph (get over it etc) which are hurtfull and mske us rush ourselves. 20 years of healing might seem really big to you but its okay if that means you will get better or you are already improving
Another thing I m so glad you have that person next to you who seems really helpful. Wishing you the best. @HopeWithinDarkness
@cheerfulKiwi1776
she first therapist i had at community' mental health who got more trauma training she still going getting more she love learning she told me she use to be a school teacher went back to school became a therapist she be very good one
@HopeWithinDarkness
Thats so great. I m glad you met her and she helped.
Ira:
En mi entorno familiar es cuando te encuentro y violentas contra toda mi razón. Es difícil lidiar contigo, ya que hay veces en las que ni te identifico, o no sé simplemente cómo gestionar todas mis emociones. Ira... Ira... Siento ira cuando veo otra chica más linda, me comparo y caigo en la infelicidad pensando que la otra siempre va a ser más linda que yo, más talentosa, amorosa. Ira siento cuando no me estoy llevando del todo bien con mi padre porque me cuesta expresarle algunos sentimientos ya que a veces nuestra relación es confusa pero no de mi parte. También siento ira cuando hablan sobre mi cuerpo, mi peso actual. Lloro. Me hace mal. Acaso soy sólo un cuerpo? Te pregunto a tí Ira. Te he sentido por tener rosácea, verme brotada de acné y pensar por qué me ha de tocar tal maldición? pues yo no la veía como una condición.
PD: Me cuesta hacer las pases contigo como con cualquier otra emoción pero te escribo a tí, insegura de qué significará esto para mí o para tí...
@LifelD239
Estoy usando traductor, perdón por los errores.
Querida amiga,
Gracias por tener la valentía de escribirle a tu Ira y por compartir algo tan íntimo. Quiero que sepas que te leo, te escucho y te abrazo fuerte a la distancia.
Es completamente válido que sientas ira. Tu ira no es un defecto; es una respuesta humana al dolor de sentirte juzgada, comparada y no escuchada. Es la forma en que tu alma dice: "Esto no es justo, yo merezco respeto y amor".
Lamento mucho que te hagan sentir como si fueras "sólo un cuerpo". No lo eres. Eres tu talento, tu capacidad de amar, tu resiliencia y tu historia. Tu peso y tu rosácea son sólo una parte de tu físico actual, no tu valor como persona. Tu piel está lidiando con una condición médica, no con una maldición, y merece paciencia, no castigo.
Con respecto a tu papá, es doloroso cuando el amor es confuso, pero recuerda que tú no puedes controlar cómo reaccionan los demás, sólo cómo te cuidas a ti misma.
No tienes que hacer las paces con la ira hoy mismo. El solo hecho de haberle escrito esta carta ya es un paso enorme hacia tu sanación. Estás empezando a entenderla. Te prometo que hay mucha luz en ti, más allá del espejo y de las opiniones del resto.
Aquí estoy para cuando necesites soltar la carga. Te mando un abrazo lleno de fuerza.
