Course 2, Discussion 4: The problem is the path

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✒️ Circle of concern: fear of failure, anxiety about making mistakes, being judged

Circle of influence: my knowledge, my skills, my capability to put what is in my power into action

Reminder: This is a cause larger than myself and larger than other people's judgement

✒️ The executive did not react to the president's actions by talking about it with co-workers. Instead, he observed, took into consideration both sides, and came up with ways that resolved the issue.

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✒️ Circle of Concern (3 things):

Global economic changes

Political conflicts

Natural disasters

✒️ Circle of Influence (3 things):

How I manage my time

How I support my peers/community

How I take care of my health

✒️ One reminder to focus on influence: I’ll keep a small note on my desk that says “Focus on what you can change” to remind myself daily to put energy into my Circle of Influence instead of worrying about things beyond my control.

What stood out about the executive is that they chose to act proactively is that they focused on what they could control, like improving systems and supporting their team, instead of reacting to external pressures. By taking responsibility and setting clear priorities, they expanded their influence rather than wasting energy on things outside their control. This proactive mindset is what made their leadership effective.

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✒️ Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Build a positive and meaningful relationship with my mother.Take care of my overall health and get out of bed. Be content with change and letting go.

The three things in my circle of influence:

• My family
• My happiness
• My personal goals

One thing to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence:

• Focus on building positive relationships and maintaining a positive mindset.

✒️ What stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

• Observe, support and implement a solution.
  

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Circle of Concern vs Circle of Influence

Circle of Concern:

• How others perceive me or respond to my ideas
• Unexpected challenges or conflicts in the community
• Decisions made by higher leadership that I can’t control

Circle of Influence:

• How I communicate and support others
• The effort and consistency I bring to my role
• How I handle challenges and respond to situations

One reminder to focus on my circle of influence:
I will regularly pause and ask myself, “Is this something I can control or act on right now?” If not, I’ll redirect my energy toward actions I can take.

What stood out about the executive?
What stood out to me was their ability to stay focused on solutions instead of getting stuck on the problem itself. They didn’t react emotionally or impulsively, but instead took a step back, assessed the situation, and acted with clarity. This is proactive because they were anticipating outcomes and taking responsibility, rather than waiting for things to go wrong and then reacting. Their mindset showed a strong sense of ownership and long-term thinking.

i will reply to a peer soon! :))

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PART 1

3 things in my circle of concern;

1. Whether I'll find the "right" opportunity after my education

2. How people perceive me- especially in professional spaces

3, The larger social system in my country.

3 things in my circle of influence;

1. How I build my skills and experience

2. The way I show up for people I support

3. My consistency in small things

My personal reminder- "Am I focusing on something I can act on right now, or just worrying about it?"

PART 2

The executive chose a different route compared to his boss wherein he worked with the situation rather than against it. He was genuinely proactive in how intentional and emotionally intelligent his approach was. He didn't ignore the president's weakness, but he also didn't make them the center of his response. He buffered his team, anticipated the needs, and presented solutions. 

I think the most powerful part was that he understood the person behind the behavior. He recognized the president's underlying concerns and strengths, and responded strategically. 

✒️ Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

3 things in the circle of concern: the mood of people I work with, the other people's opinion of me and the uncertainty of the future. 3 things in the circle of influence: to be a good leader, setting boundaries and trying to help people. 1 thing I can do to remind myself to focus on my circle of influence is reminding myself to self-reflect on what I can do to make a change rather than being pessimistic or complaining and worrying about what I cannot change.

✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

The executive decided to take charge of what he can do and work on in order to compensate the weaknesses of the director. Instead of complaining and gossiping he was proactive in working on the strenghts rather than focusing on the weaknesses. Instead of quick judgement he was empathetic and tried his best to make the whole team satisfied.

Identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

3 things in my circle of concern are my family and friends behaviour, teachers behavior and the future. In my circle of influence, my own attitudes, my behaviour and my ability to handle myself. I can remember this video everytime i go back to thinking about my circle of concern. 

Highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

I felt his hard work and selfless nature of compensation stood out to me the most. It is very easy to judge and hate on people like his boss or criticize the way things are without trying to change them, But to take action, compensate for it yourself and avoid badmouthing someone is very principled. I appreciate his behaviour to empathize with his boss. It is easy to be reactive and criticize as a group. But to actually do something about it is proactive. 

@FrenchToast. 1. Circle of Concern:

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As time passes, as I continue reflecting on these questions, I feel genuinely excited in number of ways (⁠*⁠˘⁠︶⁠˘⁠*⁠)⁠.⁠｡⁠*⁠♡. This process is helping me broaden my perspective and understand myself more deeply. I’m truly happy that I joined LDP. 😊

I sincerely appreciate this program and the people behind it who made it possible (⁠o⁠´⁠･⁠_⁠･⁠)⁠っ. Being part of this journey and growing together in this space is something I truly value. 😊

Love this community !! (⁠つ⁠≧⁠▽⁠≦⁠)⁠つ⊂⁠(⁠´⁠･⁠◡⁠･⁠⊂⁠ ⁠)⁠∘⁠˚⁠˳⁠° 

Uhm, guess i starts to yapp agn 😅! NVM!!

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✒️ Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence. 

←___Circle of Concern___→

1. I often feel concerned about my studies, but instead of taking action, I sometimes end up overthinking and delaying things, which leads to regret later.

2. I worry about my physical appearance and strength, and I tend to compare myself with others, which affects how I see myself. 

3. I am concerned about my routines, self-esteem, and consistency. I spend a lot of time overthinking about my future, past, and how I view myself, which sometimes holds me back from taking action.

 ←___Circle of Influence___→

1. My studies,

I know I am capable and can learn quickly when I focus. If I start giving even a small, consistent amount of time daily, I can improve and build confidence in myself. 

✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

One thing that stood out to me is that the executive focused more on analyzing and solving the problem rather than complaining or worrying about it. 😊!! (Er uhm! Which is what I am struggling 😅)

They were proactive because they took responsibility and focused on what they could control, instead of reacting emotionally or getting stuck in the situation :) This showed a mindset of action and problem solving rather than avoidance ❤️!! 

However, i am working on this part, i hope it turns out something great ╰⁠(⁠*⁠´⁠︶⁠`⁠*⁠)⁠╯!!