Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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@FrenchToast
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I would respond by doing some self care and reflection. If upset I would possibly reach out to peer support to let it out so it wasn't bottled up. I could also get a mentor to help with the things that I need to work on before applying again in the future.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Thank you so much for letting me know. I know it can't be an easy task letting people know when they haven't received the role that they have applied for. Would you be able to give me some constructive feedback on the things that I need to work on. I would be extremely grateful.
@SparklesFly
Very detailed, and I like the self-reflection part.
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Thank you for the opportunity to apply. I was looking forward to doing my part in this role but I understand its not my time. When you have a moment will you please guide me on how i can improve to be a more suitable candidate for next time or if a different role might suit me better.
Interesting answer, it covers several points. Congratulations
I would respond with what areas i would need to improve and constructive feedback for the role. I would want to have some mentoring before going for the role.
@FrenchToast
If I was not given a leader role it means I either was not qualified for the postion and to study more and understand what is expected of the role
@pamharley003
I like how you are focusing on what areas can you improve and if you need more qualifications. That is a great attitude to have and shows your ability to self-evaluate.
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Alright, understood. I would appreciate any feedback, if possible, to support my training in case I have to go through the role acquisition process again.
@Floffj
great post :)
@FrenchToast
✒️ Response:
If I find out I wasn’t given a role, I’d take a moment to process any feelings of disappointment and then shift my focus toward growth. I’d remind myself that not getting this opportunity doesn't define my worth or potential—it just means I have more room to grow, and that’s okay. I would take some time for self-care, maybe step away for a little bit, and then reach out to the leader for feedback so I can improve for next time.
To the leader, I would say something like:
Thank you for letting me know, and for considering my application. While I’m of course a little disappointed, I really respect the decision and would love to hear any feedback you might have so I can keep improving and be better prepared for the next opportunity. I appreciate the time and work you put into this process!
@FrenchToast
I will take a deep breath
I will tell him politely, what are the reasons
@FrenchToast
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello @ Leader_name, I hope you are doing well. I would like to express my sincere gratitude for reviewing my application and for letting me know that I was not accepted for the role. Although I am naturally disappointed to learn that I have not been selected for the role, I have full confidence in your judgment and the judgment of the team. I would be grateful if you could provide feedback on the reasons my application was not accepted and on skills I might need to work on if I want to apply to the role again in the future. If other roles within the team that align with my motivations and current skills exist, I am more than happy to learn more about those.
@SweetSunset92
After receiving the news, I will take a step back from 7 cups and go for a walk where I can process what happened before sending a message to the leader and asking them for feedback. If i still feel upset, I might take an entire day or two off 7 cups until I feel like I can come back to work on my roles.
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you? I would be professional about it, and talk with others to see how I could get it in the future. I would not let it interfere with my treatment of members. I would accept the other role and work to get the desired role.
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
-Thank you for getting back to me about the role! I appreciate the opportunity to apply. While I'm a bit disappointed, I value the feedback and will use it to grow. Nonetheless, I am still committed to contributing however I can, and I hope to apply again when the time is right!
@wishfulashx I really admire your positive mindset and grace - it’s not always easy to stay so grounded when things don’t go the way we hope. The fact that you’re still committed and open to growth says a lot about your character. Wishing you all the best for next time - you’ve got this! 💪🌟
Thank you so much for your kind words!! Wishing you all the absolute best. You got this too!!💗🌿
@wishfulashx
Thats I how I feel too, Stay positive my friend.
Thank you friend! Well wishes to you too!!💗🌿
@wishfulashx
Hey ash! This is a great response 🤍🐠
Twerp! Thank you so much!! Great job on your response too!!💗💗🌷