Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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Hello (Leader Username),
Thank you very much for the message. I was saddened by the news of not being given the role I requested, but I take it in good faith. I would like to be given feedback on the reasons behind the refusal, and the steps I must take to potentially be accepted shortly.
Counting on your cooperation, thanks.
MicLartey1, 7 Cups
@MicLartey1
great thoughts
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
hello leader,
thankyou for your evaluation towards my application, although I am a bit disappointed I appreciate your decisions. is it possible to give some feedback so I can improve more?
thankyou
@rkive0777 I think I should have asked the leaders for feedback on the improvement
Dear @FrenchToast,
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would reply with
Hello, Thanks for taking the time to consider my request, and I really appreciate the feedback you have given me. I will make sure to develop and better and apply for the position next time.
✒️ Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
I will
@Yourstranger1
I like your compassionate response!
@FrenchToast
I should ask what I need to do next time in order to get the role and work on self-care. I would thank the leader who informed me and ask them to tell me more about what I can do to improve.
@sunnyCloud660
Great answer, I guess mentorship would also help.
@courageousPup5706
I like your answer. It is pretty well said in a very easy to understand way
@FrenchToast
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hi Person A,
Thanks for the feedback. I appreciate you being direct about my qualification. I thought I was ready to take up this role as it means a lot for me. But I guess there is somethings I need to work on before getting this role. It would be great if you could connect me with a mentor so that I can learn and get ready for the role.
Regards,
courageousPup5706
@courageousPup5706 Good response.
@FrenchToast
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Ans. I would respond in a polite and respectful way.
And the same way I will seek the reason or feedback from the leader as why am I not get the role or what I should do better next time. And thank them at the end.
@TowardsTheR8Intent Great response!
@FrenchToast
Hello leader,
Thank you for your consideration and taking the time to review my application for this post. While it was a bit disappointing not being selected, I will take this as a learning opportunity moving forward. If it is okay, could I please ask for a bit more of your time and to give me some pointers on how to improve for future applications?
@Adrestia
That’s such a wonderful and mature response, @Adrestia! You handled the situation with so much grace and professionalism. Keep that positive mindset, your time to shine will come soon!
@FrenchToast
If I found out I wasn’t given a role, I would take a moment to process my feelings and remind myself that it doesn’t define my worth or ability to grow. I’d respond to the leader respectfully, thanking them for the opportunity and for considering me. I’d also ask for constructive feedback on what I can improve so I can be better prepared next time.
@LopaConnect I really liked how you mentioned that it doesn’t define your worth or ability to grow. This is really important!
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Thank you for letting me know, I appreciate you taking the time to inform me. I am still interested in the role and would be grateful for any feedback you can share on what I could improve on for a future application. I'll use this as an opportunity to learn and develop my skills while continuing to contribute to the team.
@FrenchToast
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would thank the leader for their time and empathy. I would ask if there was any feedback so that I can improve and hopefully have a better outcome next time :)
@blissfulSoul2347
I agree :)
