Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
When you don't receive a role at 7 Cups, it's crucial to respond with a professional, grateful attitude. Despite the disappointment, demonstrating understanding and maturity is key.
I have provided an example of what I'd say to a leader below:
"Thank you for letting me know about my application and for considering me for the role. I really appreciate the opportunity to learn from the experience. I would appreciate any feedback on how I can improve for future opportunities. I'm still happy to support the team however I can. I look forward to your feedback."
This response shows respect, openness to improving growth, and continued dedication—qualities that reflect well on you and might lead to future opportunities.
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hi [Leader’s Username],
Thanks for letting me know! I’m a bit disappointed but really appreciate the chance to apply. If you have a moment, I’d love any feedback so I can do better next time.
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello, leader's name, thank you for letting me know the result. I understand you had so much anxiety about new applicants. Unfortunately, I didn't get a role as I was interested in applying. I hope that in the future I can reapply and work together with your team.
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@FrenchToast ✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
@wonderfulComfort5057
This is a really good response! It shows maturity and a drive to improve, which is really important.
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
If I were to find out that I was not given a role, I would probably be a little upset (and that's okay!) but I wouldn't let it affect my performance. If I was really feeling down about it, I'd probably take a break from 7 Cups and see a mentor about how I might improve or talk to peer support. I would probably ask the listener who informed me about my areas of weakness so that I could improve.
@Hedgehogs83
Very reflective! Reaching out to a mentor would be a great idea, I'll remember this if I ever get into this situation in the future.
@FrenchToast
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello, [Leader's Username],
Thank you for reaching out to me. While I am disappointed not to have secured the role I desired, I am grateful for the feedback and understand the rules and requirements necessary for this position. I would be grateful if you could offer me helpful tips on how to improve my application in the near future. I have a learning spirit and will utilize this platform to better my chances of eligibility.
Thanks once again,
McElysium
✒️ Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
I have done that.
@FrenchToast
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hi leader, I appreciate you letting me know that I did not get the role. I am hopeful of eventually getting it, so what could I do to improve my chances next time? I look forward to any advice you can give on this. Thank you!
@CordialDancer
I really admire how you are handling this topic; you are showing resilience and a willingness to learn, which are such important leadership qualities. Even when things don’t go our way, your attitude proves that you are already growing into a stronger leader. Keep that spirit up; it will carry you far!
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hey! Thank you for letting me know and taking the time to consider my application. If possible would I be able to recieve some feedback on how I can improve for future role applications. Of course, no pressure I understand time can be hard to find, Bobbie.
@BobbieX
That's such a kind response to say to the leader! Keep up the good work friend! :)
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Me, Personally I wouldn't really react to harshly on my self, I would just say "Hey its okay, its just not my time yet and when I contact the leader I would say
"Hey @LeaderName,
I Noticed that I hadn't got the role I had wished for, Could you possible help and tell me how I could better myself in to getting the role whenever you have time!
Please and thank you!
@SkyeBanfeild"
@FrenchToast
Thank you for letting me know. I am a little disappointed, though, but I’d love to hear your feedback on what I can work on so I will be stronger next time. I really appreciate the chance to apply and the support you have given me. Let me know, please!
@Aurora123lights
Right, asking for feedback is really important! I forgot to include that in mine.
