Mindfulness Daily Check-In July 5, 2019
Hello beautiful Mindfulness Community 
. I hope you will have a good weekend and enjoy yourself.
Boundaries
Helping each other is a wonderful thing. Sometimes, though, we meet people taking advantage of others and simply exploit them.
Reflecting on the last weeks, how many times did you say No when not being able to help someone and how many times did you say Yes whilst actually not having the time and cutting it of from your me- time and getting stressed out about it?
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@amiablePeace77
hi
@sensitiveShade5337
Hi Shade, how are you doing today?
@amiablePeace77
hi
Im not okay how are you?
@sensitiveShade5337
Hi Shade and Hugs, sorry you are having a bad day, it simply sucks. I hope you get through, please remember that you can always connect to a listener 1:1 to talk.
. Is there something which usually does make you feel better and could you do it rn?
@amiablePeace77 now that I am very committed to projects here at 7cups I do not seek out other projects and I guess I have to protect myself from jumping in saying Yes! Yes! Yes! without thinking what the consequences are.
@soulsings
Soul, as much as I have known you from here I know that you are very committed to your projects. Saying no is not easy all the time but you are right in protecting yourself from saying yes too often, it is good and healthy to know one's own limits.
@amiablePeace77 Thanks for validating my feelings.
@amiablePeace77
I'm dating, so more often than not I say to no tons of guys who I can't help at all! Thankfully, I don't want ghosters, cheaters, men looking for only quick sex, guys with kids, pot smokers, and those that aren't vegan friendly in my life! So I probably said no more than 200 times this week! Happily!
I did say yes to my friends who came over for July 4th and have said yes to help a few other friends who asked me for help - I'm now tutoring a friend's daughter in math and she gets it! It's going well! I've said yes to several guys who want to improve their English so we're having conversation intercambios - exchanges for both of us to improve language skills! I helped a friend write a resume and gave another some ideas about how to approach and get excited about finding a new job, starting with his own passions and things he loves! I even said yes to a few guys who I met months ago that disappeared and came back this week to ask me out since I'm still curious about them and want to give them second chances!
Trying to say yes more often and let life take me me where it wants. Being totally mindful every since reading "The Surrender Experiment" and now reading "The Untethered Soul" about when I have blockages and when I am open to letting energy/life flow through me!
@onwardforevenmore
Onward, you are quite right in selecting when to say yes and when no and people like cheaters should not have a place in your life.
It's nice of you to help others, it makes the world a better place and everyone benefits from it.
Thanks about mentioning those books which helped you on your way to mindfulness, might be something interesting to check out.
@amiablePeace77 thanks!
It's hard and I don't know what to do when men are wonderful, kind souls but have low levels of english. I teach but don't want to carry someone! I don't have a "policy" about that, so I always struggle saying no, even though I know it's the right thing to do for me! Trying to say yes and stay open... I'm also learning another language so I know how they feel. When we're learning each other's language, it's totally, fine, but when I am not learning their language, it's a struggle! But I need to be strong and say no anyway. Like now, today.
@onwardforevenmore
onward, saying no is hard when we feel others need us and harder if they have a kind soul but I believe your inner voice is telling you the right thing, hope saying no when needed will become easier for you.
@amiablePeace77 Hello there .
I think I have said " No " a number of times in the past few weeks . And honestly , I do not feel guilty about it . Because , currently I am at that point in my life where 'self care ' is of utmost importance and I need to prioritize it .
@calmsoulmeet
The older we get the more self-care we need, good that you see that as your priority.
