Weekly sharing of Goals! Week #19 2024 (Monday 05/06/24 - Sunday 05/12/24)
I welcome anyone to commit to a goal here today.
But importantly, talk about getting it done..... or why it didn't happen yet.
To praise each other for our efforts and wins.
While supporting each other through trials and setbacks.
And to continue trying and not give up.
Remember:
Every Goal should be considered "Worthy".
Never belittle your achievements and be proud of yourself for your daily accomplishments!
Whether they be Complex or Simple.
Getting out of bed is a good day..... Good job I say!
Share your goals today, for support and encouragement.
@IsayUncle oh it's Monday ❤❤ happy monday everyone. Today's goal ................. And that's today's goal 😎 tonight's goal, have no nightmares and get a good night's sleep. 😁 ❤
I have a story for you all, it's the shortest horror story ever written.... Are you ready!?!?..... Ok the shortest horror story ever written is "monday" 👻👻👻👻👻
@Tinywhisper11
No way Jose, Say it ain't so Joe. Squeals and screams..... Here comes Monday!
@IsayUncle did you just say "no way jose" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 so lame😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Tinywhisper11
Yep, u crack me up! 🤣
@Tinywhisper11
No Nightmares! 💕 Dreams of the present with all loving hands and hearts at your side! 🤪... and some goofieness too!
@IsayUncle ay ay captain.. Will try my best
@Tinywhisper11 I hope you were able to get some peaceful sleep Tiny ❤️
@mytwistedsoul I did 😁 I didn't wake up, no nightmares yaaaay! ❤❤ I slept for 6 hours yaaaay!
@Tinywhisper11
(((((HUGS)))))
@IsayUncle
@Tinywhisper11
I can't breathe, but the hug feels really good! 😄
@cloudySummer @mytwistedsoul @KristenHR @Tinywhisper11 @CyclingThroughLife @Psalm139 @Enthenia @anonyTortoise3336 @spicyavocado3788 @neatBlueberry5213 @AmyK1234 @ivoryLakeuk @MusokeHere @seashell145
@IsayUncle oh! Um. I'm not sure what I can share
@Tinywhisper11 but definitely struggling lately
@Tinywhisper11
That's a real bummer. ☹️. Something new, or on-going struggles? ((((HUGS I love you))))
@IsayUncle angling and I love you mostestestest ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11 ongoing* not angling😂😂😂😂damn! Autocorrect
@Tinywhisper11
How's your struggles today? Were you able to sleep last night knowing that you have a lot of loving hands and hearts slowly but surely pushing all bad thoughts out of your brain in the evenings so you can get some rest.
Look for them when you need them and they will be there. Absorb the love and beauty you deserve and it will be there. Slowly let those ugly anchors dissolve and fly like the butterfly you are.💕
@IsayUncle ❤❤ awww you are so sweet ❤❤ I did sleep well last night 😁❤ thankyou ❤ I went to sit outside this morning and watch the sunrise, it was sooooo beautiful this morning😍 and it was warm and just perfect. Then my psychologist came to see me and we talked a little bit about nightmares. Then my carers gave me a shower, and now I'm in a lot of pain, so time for relaxing. So it's been a good day😁 and how's your day been??
@Tinywhisper11
This might be too personal to share in this venue so please don't feel obligated. You often speak about being in a lot of pain and it makes me wonder a lot about the pain that you go through. I wonder where it is on your body, does it come and go in different parts? Do you ever have days less painful than other days? Do you ever have days that you hardly feel any pain at all?
I'm always sorry to hear when you have painful days. (you don't have to answer questions above, just know I wonder, worry and am concerned where it hurts) 💗
Today I've spent a lot of time on 7 cups but I've been able to do that because all of my core balance items are caught up. i still have a zillion things to do for the business and the yard in etcetera etcetera but I'm in a much more relaxed state of mind.
I actually gotta get going to make up my big ole shopping and errand list for the day. We're stuck with a few days of wet weather and rain so I can't do any of my job work, my excavation because it is too muddy.
@IsayUncle I guess rain days are a blessing and a curse for you, but it gives you a few days to relax ❤ so that's good ❤❤❤
trigger warning - disabilities
the bottom of my spine was shattered, I've had several operations and metal plates, but it's not completely fixable. So I'm paralysed from the waist down, my legs were dead weights so they amputated them. I need a special brace to be able to sit up straight. So that's where the pain comes from my spine. In the mornings the pain is at a low, bearable level. But as the day goes on, the more I move and try to do, it gets worse. And then at some point it starts getting to the highest pain levels. The pain is constant, but nothing I can't handle😎 except somedays/weeks the pain is just so bad I just want to cry all day😭😭
thanks for asking and caring ❤ ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤ I love you ❤
@Tinywhisper11
Thank you so much for sharing. I hope it didn't alter the wonderful day you were having. Other than the pain getting a little bit worse after you shower. A Beautiful morning, A fresh shower. Ahhhh. ( I guess the shower takes it out of you but it still must feel good). Now maybe you can get comfortable and relax the pain a little bit. That would be awesome. I loves you too bunches.
It's 830AM here, (if you feel safe to share) what time is it there? I'll send you a protection monkey or something this evening to fight off those nightmares.
@IsayUncle yaaay! Protection monkey😁 I promise I won't eat the monkey😏probably!😂😂😂it's almost 2 pm. I've been awake since 3am so now I'm tired and relaxed ready for bed. Do you ever find it's much easier to talk about things, when someone asks you questions? I do, maybe it's like giving permission to speak about it. So thanks for asking questions ❤ I have a shower everyday, but normally not long after I wake up, it doesn't cause me pain mostly. I need 2 carers to shower me, cause if I'm not held in a certain way, I could damage my spine even more. I moved awkwardly today's shower, so yep! Ouchie!
@Tinywhisper11
I might have to fire this guy. I asked him to circle around make sure everything was OK. He thought I said, "make circle rounds and it was time to play". Can't find good help anywhere. Let me know if he does a good job anyway, or we'll fire his monkey but*!
@IsayUncle 😂😂😂😂 he's so cute ❤ don't worry I have mayo to protect me 😁 mayo is my unicorn, mayo neighs. ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
Mayo neighs...... roflmbo
@Tinywhisper11
good nite Tiny..... 
@IsayUncle goodnight earth angel 😇 I love you ❤
@Tinywhisper11
That's ok, sometimes this venue is not the best place to share everything. But we can still talk about other feelings and possibilites.
@IsayUncle ok you go first. I can follow your lead🙂 ❤ if you want to share of course ❤
@Tinywhisper11
I'm currently in a good place. It wasn't too long ago that I was not. After I got rid of all the haters and nay-sayers, I focused on one problem at a time 2 1/2 years later, I'm OK today.
My next personal big battle is going to be about ego within the topic of forgiveness. And for the record, some things need not be forgiven to heal.
I finally achieved my core balance last week. Have you ever tried to balance a broom handle on your fingertip? If you get it just right, you can keep it upright with little movement but once it starts to get off balance you end up running (or wheeling) all over the room trying to keep it from falling off your finger tip.
I've been running all over the room for the past 2 1/2 years and yesterday I finally felt the balance and was able to stand still without dropping. I still have to maintain that balance, it might not be easy but it'll will be worth it. "core balance.... another topic I would love talk about"
Your turn.
@IsayUncle your a really great person, I really love you ❤ ❤ well done for getting rid of the toxic people in your life. Because you only deserve love and kindness ❤
ok my reply is taking so long, because I keep writing things out then deleting it all. I'm not feeling very confident right now. So if it's ok with you, I'm gonna read others stories before I share ❤❤ sorry
@Tinywhisper11
Awwww, no worries.... we were just being playful about urturn-myturn playful banter. Please, please, please, don't worry about drudging up all the bad feelings. Don't forget, today is Monday (for some of us.. he he).
We don't do deep on Mondays, just ain't gonna do it! 😜🤪😝🤗😁😲😎.
@IsayUncle 😁❤❤ thankyou ❤❤ your the best ❤
@IsayUncle I'm so glad you refound your balance yesterday! :) I'm not sure where I'd even start for that. I'll have to give that some thought
@IsayUncle its tuesdayyy so im a bit late. but my goal this week is to get more than 6hrs sleep every night and get my psychology assignment done :)
@cyanWest86
I never knew there were places on the world that we're 24 hours ahead of my time. Happy Tuesday to you my friend. I think 6 hours of sleep is the perfect amount of sleep if it's a good sleep. I hope you get a good sleep and feel rested so that you can get your assignment done.
@cyanWest86 cool. You study psychology?? That must be such a hard topic to study. Good luck on your assignment. You got this ❤
@IsayUncle and to everyone,
I wish for you this week, a week of peace, pleasure and hope. I wish for the energy needed to accomplish what needs to be done and some left over for fun.
Remember to take some time for you. Enjoy the day and know you are in a supportive place here.
I'm thankful for life, friends, family of choice, and the ability to be able to have choice and freedom.
@KristenHR
Thank You & You Too
A wellness wish for everyone!
@KristenHR Thank you :) I wish these things for you too!
@KristenHR awwwww ❤❤❤
@IsayUncle
I made a new step goal of 7800 today. I'm working toward eventually doing 15k.
Last week, I did 6900 steps 6/7 days.
I have never loved myself and given myself grace enough to learn how to feed my body in a nourishing way and to exercise properly. I'm working on these step goals and healthy swaps (like making froyo last week) in order to slowly work toward my goal of giving myself the grace and love that I extend to my family, friends, and kids in my classroom (I'm a teacher). Baby steps are powerful strides in the right direction for me right now, so I'm happy to say that I'm more than 50% of the way to 7,800 today. :)
@yellowPineapple3652
That is fantastic. it's very strong to take responsility. Good for you! You deserve to take the time to treat yourself good. You are worth every minute of that.
Your step goals sound amazing. I love your approach of taking steps in the right direction. That is so very powerful and smart.
HEY HEY HO HO, 7800 LETS GO! YOU GOT THIS. You're awesome!
@IsayUncle 😳😳 did you just call them a ho! Ho!😳😳😳
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Tinywhisper11
You're a real smarty pants aren't you? 🤣🤗
@IsayUncle yep! 😁😂😂😂😂😂
@Tinywhisper11
hmmmmm??? 🤨
@yellowPineapple3652 yaaaay! Well done ❤❤ and your a teacher ❤ that's such a honourable job, thankyou ❤❤
Hey everyone :)
I finally got what I needed to set up the online banking for my father estate. A few more checks to write. Take care the inheritance taxes and pay the lawyer. And then hopefully this fiasco is done
I spent a couple hours weed whacking today. Got the garden slightly started. Potatoes are growing already and some snap peas. The strawberry plants have berries on. Not all the plums froze the last cold spell so should have some plums. And the cherry tree is loaded
I bought some resin to play with on a few wood working projects. Hopefully it works out the way it is in my head
Hope everyone has a good week!
@mytwistedsoul weed whacking😂😂😂😂😂 poor weeds😂😂😂😂😂 wow! You gonna have a good harvest this year ❤❤ what are you gonna make??? Are you gonna show is when you finished your art project????
hugs you tightly ❤ I love you ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11 😁 I wasn't sure whether to weed whack or weed eat 😂
@mytwistedsoul I'm sure all your art work is beautiful ❤❤ just like you ❤
@Tinywhisper11 aww thank you ❤️ you always bring a smile to my face 😊
@mytwistedsoul
No Way Jose!!! Wow, so happy for you.
A little side note, being done or getting done with a burden such as that puts you closer to your core balance. If we can recognize our core balance then we can achieve it and all other things are external which then leads to maintaining our overall balance.
It makes me feel good that you'll be able to use your time now for other things less stressful stuff! Good for you! 😃..... And you did it, through all the trials and tribulations! Woo Hoo your powerhouse!
@IsayUncle no way jose😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 can I ask what exactly does core balance mean??
@Tinywhisper11
It is an extremely individualistic perception of what you think is important for you to maintain on a daily basis.
People may say you should eat healthy, stay clean, be charitable and help others love and be loved etcetera. if you can master all these things you're balanced. That all may be very true but it has nothing to do with core balance.
There are just so many hours in a day. Everything becomes important and vital to get done. Priorities start laying on top of priorities until we get overwhelmed and our overall balance is knocked off kilter but because things change everyday we can never regain our overall balance. If we cannot regain our overall balance we should at least strive to gain our core balance.
It has taken me many months to master my core balance. Ones core balance are the things they think should be pursued and completed on a daily basis prior to or during the rest of the day's activities. If one can't function or complete the rest of the day's activities your choice of core balance items should get done and there's a sense of accomplishment a sense of core balance. If That's all we can do then that's good enough.
Core balance is determined by the individual by applying the most minimalistic responsibility to oneself ln a productive direction with a productive goal to be achieved regardless how unimportant it may seem to others.
Thanks for asking, I'm still having a hard time to explaining it with efficiency. Even though I mentioned minimalistic a lot, I never said easy. Sometimes the best we could do get out of bed and maybe do nothing else but if you make that sense of your core balance then perhaps you can add other things later to get closer overall balance.
After years of confusion, struggles and efforts i developed a series of priorities that I finally mastered and now able to maintain efficently on a daily basis..... my core balance, my starting point everyday. It takes hours for me to maintain my core balance everyday. It's hard work it takes discipline but now I hope to grow from my core balance towards more of an overall balance. If I cannot, I can be happy just maintaining my core balance.
WOW that was a mouthful! 
@IsayUncle oh ok! I think I understand ❤❤ Thank you for taking the time to explain it to me ❤ I really appreciate it ❤
If I'm generally happy and content with my fault routines, does that mean I already have core balance?
@Tinywhisper11
you're welcome, it's something I use for myself we'll find it hard to explain.
Now it's my turn to ask, what is a fault routine?
@IsayUncle oops! I meant to say daily* routine 😁 I can spell
@IsayUncle Ikr?! I am so ready to be done with this - if nothing else just so I can stop worrying about it all the time 😬 Although with me being me I'm sure I'll find other things to worry about 🤪
@mytwistedsoul
Thanks. 😀. What is "lkr"?
Don't you dare take on another stressful challange for a few months anyway. Just say NO! 😁 😅
Big projects... OK, but not too crazy! 👌
@IsayUncle Ikr - I know right 🙂
Oh h*ll NO. I don't want to have to do anything like this again. And if for some reason it would - I'm going straight to a lawyer. No fooling around and letting someone talk me into or make me think I can do this myself. Nope nope nope! 😅 I know through all this I found out just how far the govt has it's hands in everyone's cookie jar 😐 and that's saying it politely
The only biggish project that crossed my mind was maybe painting the rooms upstairs. But I haven't really decided on that and I'd probably wait til fall. There's too much to do outside right now
Hope you have a good day today! 😊
@mytwistedsoul
Thanks, and estates???.... ikr. 😂
Good 4 U, plenty to do outdoors.
Have a great day! 
@IsayUncle
This week my goal is to seriously think about what I am willing to do to change the toxic family dynamics at home so my children and I can begin healing. This is a big decision and I am afraid.
@NotAllHere713
I am so sorry you are experiencing this terrible situation. I am however proud of you for considering the changes you need to make.
What do you fear? Phisical violence or the Unkown?
None of us likes to be fearful but sometimes we cannot get rid of this fear so we have to make a choice of what to do with it. Do we Use that fear to guide us to a path out? It sounds like that is exactly what you want to do. Try not to let the fear cripple you or shut you down. It can actually become your strength.
After contemplating your fear, make a plan. (throw caution to the wind and just get out.... Or.... start setting up a support structure.... family, savings, local help programs etc. other lodgings, friends.)
Maybe this is where we can help you. Maybe not so much helping you make a plan but being here to listen to it and your ideas and your progress. To be here when you need a shoulder to cry on. When you need to vent, kick and scream. But if you really wanna get out from underneath this, choose a plan.
YOU Wanting to make this change speaks volumes of your courage and strength and the love you have for your children. You can do it, Set your path and take all the time you need to make it happen. It will take time. Don't give up your idea because it doesn't happen in one day or even one week, it will take time but you can do it.
I'm stealing a quote from a motivational speech, "Choose Your Hard!" it means, living like you are is a hard way to live. Making the changes that you have to make, will be hard to do. Choose your hard, one will continue the pain, the other will offer you unimagianable rewards. 💗
@IsayUncle
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I am afraid of the Unknown, the possibility of physical violence, how to support myself (and my kids), and how to deal with his family, especially his father whom I am close to. Most of all, I am afraid to talk with him about this. His mind is mush. And, I tend to shut down when he yells at me.
Right now I am looking for an outside support system. His family is from a different culture and they just make excuses for him. My parents are in another state and also don't know how to deal with mental health.
@NotAllHere713
No problem and you are welcome. It sounds like you have the right idea. All those things you are fearful of are real obstacles and they will take courage to overcome.
I think it's a good idea looking for an outside support group. It is so very hard and disheartening to try to rely on family members that just have a whole bunch of mixed feelings themselves and can possibly end up hurting you more I'm helping you even if they don't mean to.
Try to let things soak in. Perhaps quietly start building up your own courage and looking at real financial options perhaps financial help groups for single moms and stuff like that. Possible assistance programs for housing. Continue looking for and interacting with support groups. That's probably one of the most important things you can do right now.
Perhaps if you can, shake off some of the fear by letting the slow reality of everything soak in. Try not to look at it as one big overwhelming mess. Baby steps in the right direction OK? You can do this.
@NotAllHere713
I just noticed your icon is [no]. I feel like it's a reminder to say, "NO, I'm not taking it anymore". 😣
@NotAllHere713 you can do this ❤ for you and your children. Find courage in the eyes of your kids, and in the love of your friends. It's scary, but we are right here for you ❤ your making the right choice. ❤❤ I love you ❤
@Tinywhisper11
Than you for your words of encouragement! 💗
@cloudySummer @mytwistedsoul @KristenHR @Tinywhisper11 @CyclingThroughLife @Psalm139
I have invited you here for a virtual hand holding ceremony to support @NotAllHere713.
Post a hand emoji or other hand icon in support the offering of a helping or encouraging hand.🤟🙏
I hope I'm not imposing and thank you very much.
@IsayUncle @NotAllHere
🤝 Sending you peace and strength to get through this difficult moment so you can do what's best for you and your kids ❤️
@IsayUncle @NotAllHere
It's not an easy decision, but we are here for you.
@IsayUncle
AWWW, Jeeez. I tagged a few common threadsters to join the hand circle but i forgot to include everyone else.
That was a big OoPs. I just want to clarify. ANYONE can join the hand circle and offer bits of support.
@IsayUncle
Everyone - Thank you so Much! You don't know how this makes me feel. I've never had so much support. I am so grateful to the 7 Cups community for their unjudgmental support! Thank You! Thank You! Thank You! 💗💗💗
@NotAllHere713 I love you ❤❤
@IsayUncle Is this a new week? All I know is that there are two days where I don't have to get up at 3:45.
My goals are to finish my fourth assignment, look at the grade for my third assignment (& redo because I think I will have to), do pictures, and keep the dog entertained.
@Enthenia
YEP, a new week already. How time flies when you're having fun. hehe. Enjoy your sleep-in days.
I start a new thread every week to remind us of the importance of a fresh start. We can have the same obstacles and the same goals. Sometimes it's good to shake off the drudgery of the past week and start off with a fresh outlook and foothold.
You want me to tag you so you get the fresh notifications?
@IsayUncle I totally did not see your first response. Of course I was at work and looking at the site on my mobile....
I don't know about sleeping in. I manage to five something. Have to get the pup out while it's still cool because she gets overheated easily even with her summer cut. This afternoon, we were only out for about twenty minutes. When I saw that it was nearly ninety on my mobile, I understood why we had to come in so early. Unfortunately, the climate where I live is not ideal for her. Her kind does best in about 80 degrees. It can get to a hundred and ten here.
@Enthenia good luck with your assignments ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11 Thanks! I looked for ways to properly export/import one in case I have to redo it on the right program but it didn't work I will have to look for alternatives.
Difficult to do when someone wants to play with her ball all evening...
@Enthenia awwww I bet your puppy is to cute to resist. ❤ hopefully you won't have to redo it, I'm sure you did a fantastic job ❤❤❤ sending you energy rainbows 🌈🌈 and giant tiny hugs ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11 she can be a handful . 
@Enthenia
What a sweetie! No wonder he/she got you wrapped around her little paw pinky. LOL
@IsayUncle First girl I've had and first herding dog. She has a lot more energy than my last one and if I don't keep her busy, she gets into things or chews up things she's not supposed to.
It just takes a long time to wear her out. She's only a year and four months.
@Enthenia
Super smart dog and you're right, high energy. And not afraid to tell you about it either. Lol
@Enthenia
ps. did you ever pass your third assignment?
@IsayUncle No but I think I know what I did wrong. I have to install a sub-program BEFORE I can get it to work on my class software. I started adding things in the system configuration but it's hard since I only have one screen and I need to switch between the instructions and the control panel.
@Enthenia
ohohh no, you sent me to the soup kitchen. LOL 😁🤣. I have faith in you I will double down the next round. 🧐. ( so are you able to move to the 4th assignment or do you have to finish the 3rd 1st?)
Oh Man.... A second screen would be incredible. Can you not afford one or does your situation not give you a place to set one up?
You are going to get this. Make sure you get some rest when you need it.😉
@IsayUncle I can't afford one right now. They aren't extremely expensive but I would also need the splitter or whatever it's called. I think it's easier to print the instructions off at work.
I have to get this installed before I do the next assignment since the next one depends on the software working properly. If I don't have the databases loaded right, I think I'll have the same problem.
@Enthenia
OK then, good luck with your installation. Sounds like that's the next step and I really hope it works for you.
or 
..... whichever gets results. Probably both LOL. You'll get it!
@IsayUncle So I got it installed via the cmd prompt. I tried doing it via control panel but when I went to verify, it wouldn't. I followed the instructions for the command prompt (had to do it as administrator) which some of the articles I read didn't specify and it gave me a success. Then I went to my project and tried to run it again. It still gave me errors. I think I will try to rebuild it (again) and see if the installation fixes the problem. I can't do my next assignment until I get this sorted out.
@Enthenia awwwww😍😍
@Enthenia
PS. If I were a betting man, I would lay down a good chunk of $$$$ with confidence that you passed your third assignment.😄.
Please let me know what your grade was when you get it so I know if I gotta go to the soup kitchen or the grocery store. LOL
I am an introvert, thats the truth , I dont feel anxious about social situations or low, I just have a lot of comfort and fun on my own. In the past I was anxious but even now after years of shadow work and dedicated mindfulness practice, and psychological help, there is no anxiety, but I am still a lover of solitude.
My goal this week is try to be more open to social interaction so that I am a connected being. I promise to do even a little more socialising than normal and not be too hard on myself when I dont do too much, because introverted is still a healthy version of me.
@AjahnDreamer
Hi, I get a peaceful feeling from your words.
I don't know why being an introvert developed into a negative perspective on some level. Everything in this world has a negative and positive balance. You go too far one way or the other it gets into the negative zone. While staying in the center is usually a positive thing and I think that applies to being an introvert too.
It appears you are now exploring your center while still embracing being an introvert. How awesome is that?
I guess just posting here is one way that you're socializing. Do you have other interaction plans for the week? I also do better being an introvert.
I cannot master Physical conversation with people and especially with a group of people, I cannot seem to benefit from or to offer benefit to. I seem to have a poor memory. I cannot remember social conversations or even included personal information of others that may have been spoken about weeks earlier.
But I do enjoy talking to people here on 7 cups. I'd love to hear more about your excursions into the social world.
I'm glad you found comfort in yourself and I know it took a lot of work and exploreing. Good Job!
@AjahnDreamer nothing wrong in being an introvert, as long as your happy, then that's all that matters ❤❤❤ hugs you tightly ❤