Personality Disorders Community Check-in: July 3rd - June 4th
Happy Weekend lovely PD Support Community,
How are you feeling today?
How is the weather at your place?
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Paradise
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@competentParadise6344, hi
1. I'm feeling overwhelmed as usual
2. the weather is typical hot and humid and a hurricane is supposed to cross over us this week. joy.
@purpleTree4652
Sending you hugs if you want them
@competentParadise6344, I mos def want hugs. Thanks. and hugs back
@purpleTree4652 You are so strong and I am proud of you for surviving this past year. It has been rough. *hugs *
@competentParadise6344 I am well, thanks. Happy 4th of July everyone. Hope everyone has a wonderful day.
@YourCaringConfidant
Happy holiday!
pwBPD here. I had a great July 3rd. Got to watch fireworks! Had some issues with a guy I was potentially thinking of dating, but I actually managed to keep myself under control. Very proud of myself.
Good to hear that. You are doing amazing :)
@sarah11gardner yay! I'm proud of you!
1) I'm feeling alright, today. I've been sick lately bit I think I'm starting to get better, which is great! 2) It's hot and humid out, which is typical for the southern U.S. I'm gonna go swimming later so I can soak up the sun and make the best of the hot weather!
That is a great way to keep yourself relaxed and calm. Goodluck :)
@safeandsoundta I'm happy that you're feeling better!
Today I'm sad, stressed, tired, and frustrated. The weather is very humid here
@Snowwhite2 I'm sorry to hear that. Your struggles are valid.
Stressed. My health is fine now which is good but because of stress it makes me feel unwell and I want to fix it
@Misssunshine333 I'm happy that your physical health is good! I'm sorry that you're experiencing stress. What are some coping skills that help you cope with stress?
Hi, Im Anna. today Im feeling weird, this morning I felt really depressed but now Im feeling just fine. The weather is ok, theres a lot of mosquitoes here tho.
@hplssrmntcrhrn Hi Anna, welcome to the community. I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling depressed. I hope things improve for you. * hugs *
Hello! I’ve never posted here before.. 1) I’m doing okay. I’ve been depressed most of the day, but my mood was stable for once so that’s sort of a plus? 2) It was really hot out today.. Too hot.
I have never done this before. So here it goes. I'm not okay. I am getting used to saying that. I had it stuck in my mind that it wasn't good if a man said he wasn't okay. Now I have learned that bottling emotions up causes pain deep down. It causes that pain to come out towards the people you are supposed to love and protect. I never realized I was emotionally abusive. I feel horrible that I have done that. Now I want to fix things, but my fiance and I have split and she is with someone else. Now I don't know if I will ever win her back. She loves me, but she doesn't want me to continue like I was. How do I get her to see I am working on this? How do I show her that this isn't like any other promise. I feel like no one will listen to me and I have Soo much to say. I feel like no one will see that I'm hurting.
@wdkmaz1827
Hi--that sounds like a pretty significant shift! Before it wasn't allowed for you to be not okay. Now, it feels like permanently keeping the "not okay" bottled up just leads to it coming out by accident in other ways and hurting people you care about, which you really don't want to happen.
I'm sorry about your fiancé and you splitting. I'm not sure if I have any good tips on how to convince her to notice/believe that you're a changed person. But something that does cross my mind is that working on this change that you mentioned (i.e. "I need to notice my feelings and work through them so that I can heal myself and avoid hurting other people and feeling horrible about it") might be helpful either way. If she notices the change, it would be because the change is real and you've worked on it. If she doesn't notice the change, it's still something positive that would protect you and other people in the future (and might help you in healing from the split and working through that loss). 
If you'd like to explore/discuss things more, feel free to either write more in the forum or you can find a listener for a 1-on-1 chat through the "Browse Listeners" page.
@wdkmaz1827 I see your pain, and your feelings are valid. Thank you for having the courage to share your feelings with our community. We welcome you and accept you exactly as you are.