Do you forgive someone's mistakes easily?
Should I break-up with my bf after he recently told me that he had cheated on his ex cuz I'm afraid he could cheat on me too someday?
@sympatheticTriangle9097
my opinion is break up with him , as you'll never know whether he'll cheat on you the leopard will never CHANGE its spots don't follow my footsteps till i get hurt in the end then you regret .
@fancifulPainting19
NO NOT THAT EASY , I'LL NEVER FORGIVE WHAT HE HAS DONE AS I WANT TO MAKE SURE HE PAY ME FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE BUT HE'LL NEVER ABLE TO PAY BACK WHAT HE HAD DONE & DEPENDING THE SITUATION LIKE ONE OF THEM SAY HERE
@jazmine1986
In my personal experience I've only had one really bad thing happen to me that was difficult to overcome. It was my baby mamas infidelity. It was at a time where I questioned if the child was mine. I didn't get a paternity test till three years after she was born and after the fact we split. She was my kid. But I felt I had been robbed of having been completely ecstatic about my child's arrival. The recollection of how much doubt I had during delivery was not easy. I never truly forgave her for the next three years. We ended up splitting after she cheated again finding out the fifth year together. I was bitter and upset. Wanted answers that I couldn't never get from her. I always wanted to forgive. I had that in my mind always. I couldn't find it. It found me. You learn a lot over time. About the world and yourself. Sometimes they all come full circle and speak to only a language you can understand. Not for anyone else. And I even I gave up on the idea of forgiveness somewhere in between thinking it was overrated. Through my experience I learned that not all relationships are one size fits all. To not be mad at someone's nature and to not get even in times of injustice. Because doing things out of love for me is most rewarding. Those feelings of anger and resent kept me from being able to love.
@fancifulPainting19
I only don't forgive my mistakes...
@fancifulPainting19
Usually, I do. And by forgiving, I don't always mean it's okay to do it, it just means "let's lern from it and leave it in the past"
*learn
smh I can't spell
@Emirson2018 wise thoughts Emir. <3
@fancifulPainting19
Yes and no. I forgive mistakes when he explains why and it's clearly an oversight, lack of planning, something unexpected, etc. I have a hard time forgiving when he does something I've asked him not to, he apologies, but he keeps doing it. Especially if I've told him it hurts my feelings.
An ongoing thing for us is he is insistent on apologies and doesn't want to hear the reason why, as he feels it's an excuse and not a real apology. I don't feel it's a real apology without hearing the reason why, as otherwise it seems empty.
@peacefulforest75 I get your point Peace. You are right.
Do you forgive someone's mistakes easily? No, esspecially if I am hurt. I have walls and if someone can break through those walls and still hurt me, it's very hard to forgive that.
And if I do forgive, I usually do NOT forget.
@Rebekahwriter13 hmm, it makes sense Rebekah. Agree with you. How are you doing?
@ASilentObserver I'm high stressed and lots of choas
@Rebekahwriter13 Sorry to hear Rebekah. Sending hugs and I hope you feel better<3
Do you forgive your partner
@AveryLove so true Avery. It makes sense.
I forgive people way too easily but never forgive myself, even for the small things. People have literally tried to kill me and Ive still forgiven...... 😬
No, but I should be more forgiving after I feel better about the situation I could change my mind to forgive or not depends.
Yes, I forgive people very easy...... I have such a low opinion of myself that I automatically think it must have been my fault.
@lazyKatz I feel that. It helps me to take a step back and think if I'm apologizing what I'm apologizing for, and to look at the situation objectively to see if it's really my fault.
