Please pray for my family. My mom and dad and me. 😭
Hello..
I'm posting this so I wont bring it up in the rooms anymore. There was alot of stuff I have left out. Here it is. For the most part..
2025 has been a very bad year for me and my family. My brother, as most people who know me on here know, was diagnosed with cancer in summer of 2024. He passed away in March. A few weeks after he passed away, my mom had a stroke.
She was in the hospital for about 2 weeks. Then she went to a stroke rehab hospital, and while she was there, they found out she a fractured vertebrae, due to osteoporosis.
They did surgery on her vertebrae to expand it, and she finally came home. Then the surgery had a side effect that caused her other vertebrae, above and below it to fracture too. Then she was back in the hospital again for another surgery on those 2. Then she came home for a week and had more back pain and then they found another fractured vertebrae, then had another surgery. 3 surgeries in the span of month and a half.
Meanwhile, Im still grieving my brother who passed away and dealing with my mom's recovery from her stroke and spine surgeries. Also, making sure my 88 year old father is OK and able to walk with his walker.
My family is Catholic, but my brother and his "wife" were not. ( "Wife" in quotes because they were not happily married. She turned out to be a gold digger/grifter) His "wife" decided to have a memorial (No funeral) for my brother. All of this, the planning, and memorial happened while my mom was in the hospital recovering from her stroke and her first spine surgery.
During her planning of the memorial, I found out how horrible of a person my brothers "wife" really was. She kept harassing me to give her childhood pictures of my brother. She wanted me to go through old photo albums. Apparently, my brother didnt have any photo albums. I was way too stressed out, and depressed and greiving my brother. I didnt want to look at childhood pictures of my brother. I told her I cant get her any pictures right now. She sent me a nasty email, telling me how horrible of a sister I was and my brother would have been disappointed in me. As shocking as the email was, I REALLY wanted to write her an email and tell her off. But I was told not to stir the pot, so I didn't send her an email. But I showed my therapist the email she sent me and she said she's psycho. And I KNOW my brother would be very disappointed in her if he had read the letter. I honestly think he hated her, but stayed married for reasons I'll never know.
And, after reading her email to me, I just wanted to have nothing to do with the memorial. I would have to grieve my brother my own way.
I had bad vibes about the memorial she was having for my brother. She was making a big show about it. Like "look at all the work I'm doing!" Thats the vibe I got all the time. My mom and dad and I ended up not going, since my mom had her stroke and we stayed in the rehab with her instead. Honestly, I dont regret skipping the memorial.
After all of this, we found out more about my brothers wife. She turned out to be a gold digger/grifter. Demanding stuff and $$ from my dad which wasnt even hers. (Thats a whole other post)
My mom finally came home about a month ago. It's hard for her to get around with her walker alot. She has a wheelchair but uses it for long distances. Her PT prefers her to use her walker. She's not 100% recovered, and probably will never be. She's waiting for her endochrinologist/osteoprosis shots in November.
TW ish
We took my mom to the ER on Monday because she was losing her appetite, not eating like she used to and lost alot of weight. While we were in the ER, they did a CT scan and found a lesion on her breast. Now I'm scared of what it is. Praying its not C.
I'm really scared. Its been such a bad year for us. Especially for my mom.
I'm asking for prayers that my mom will be totally healed from all of this, and her breast lesion isnt cancerous. And for my dad who's very stressed and exhausted, and for me.. I'm just really broken and I feel like I'll never be fixed anymore.
@Figgy50 hi sweetie 💖 sits beside you and hugs you tightly 💖 I'm so sorry about all you've been going through, I'm so sorry your mum and dad are going through all this to😥 I will keep you all in my payers and I hope next year will be a better one for you 💖 we are all here for you 💗
@Tinywhisper11
Hi Tiny! Thank you❤️❤️❤️ I miss you in the chats!
@Figgy50 I miss you too 💖💖 I don't use the chats much anymore, I got a little scared so I live in forum land now 💖😁💖 I hope your ok?
@Figgy50
I'm really sorry to hear what's going on in your life right now..it all sounds so overwhelming and heavy to carry ☹️ i can relate partly with your story as well, as my family member was diagnosed with cancer too, so i can understand how hard it is for you.
You are so amazingly and inspiringly strong to me and i hope that; in spite of all the pain, one day you'll be able to find happy days too and enjoy life to the fullest. Life is a rollercoaster that goes up and down and remember that some days are lighter and happier than other days.
You won't be given any hardships that exceed your capacity and i know that you'll be able to cope with this too. You are always welcome here on 7cups and remember that you don't have to carry all the pain alone. We care about you and we hope that everything will turn out just fine in the end.
@pinkKite8784
Hi Pink! Thank you for the hugs! I hope I do find happiness one day soon. ❤️❤️
@Figgy50
Hello, how have you been?
@pinkKite8784
Hi I finally came back to my post. Thank you for asking. Im scared because my mom is having her biopsy on wed (Dec 3) She's slowly recovering frum her stroke and surgeries but I'm praying her biopsy will be ok. And hopefully easy to take care of.
@Figgy50 (offers safe hugs) Omgosh this is so much that you're going through. I'm so sorry about your brother. Losing someone is never easy. What a horrible person his wife seems like! To say all those cruel things to you. And your mum, to have a stroke shortly after his passing would be so scary. Then to find out she has broken vertebrae and needs 3 surgeries. Now with the other health scare. It's a terrifying thought. 😞
I'm sending you and your parents love and light and will definitely keep you all in my thoughts and prayers ❤️
@mytwistedsoul
Ty Soul!! ❤️
@Figgy50 You're welcome! ❤️ How is she doing now? Is she eating any better? And you? Are you taking care of yourself?
@Figgy50 I'm so sorry to hear that you and your family are going through all of this. I'm sorry to hear about your brother, and I'm praying for your parents' healing physically, emotionally, and in all aspects of their lives. I'm praying for your strength and peace through this time of grief and stress. I'm praying that the Lord lets His light, power, grace, and healing shine before you all, and I trust that by His love and faithfulness it will!!
I know it's so difficult during so much hardship, but please keep leaning on Jesus throughout this all. Have faith: by His stripes we are healed. He bore our pain, iniquities, and all sickness on the cross. He will deliver us now and give us strength through trials. Jeremiah 30:17 says "I will restore your health and heal your wounds." He who is in us is so much greater than anything that is in the world because if God is for us, who or what can be against us?
Continue seeking His peace and having faith in His power. He hears you and He loves you. Trust that it WILL get better. You're all so incredibly loved and we're all here for you, supporting you every step of the way. God bless you and heal you--Amen! 💞
Figgy,
As I have expressed to you I am sooo sorry for your loss and all the compounding stuff you have had to deal with. I also am very impressed with your dedication to your family it truly shows how amazing of a human being you are.
You know my L account and can reach out any time.
I can totally relate this, I too miss my parents. My condolences 😔.. may you find peace of heart and patience is best . I hope this Test of loosing our Beloved ones may help to be strong in ur coming life. 😔💕
@Figgy50 I am sorry for your loss of your brother. That seems like it was stressful to say the least. It must have been difficult to deal with the aftermath of his passing.
You sound like you are very involved with your parent's medical situation. I hope you can find some time to care for yourself too and start creating support for your future.
All the best to you,
soulsings
@Figgy50
Sending my immediate love and prayers 💜💕
Prayers 🤍✝️🙏. Sometimes, I've called into klove to speak with a pastor. Has helped me. Even just prayer, when I was at my breaking point. We're here thinking about you and praying for you and your family’s best 💕
Prayers 🤍✝️🙏. Sometimes, I've called into klove to speak with a pastor. Has helped me. Even just prayer, when I was at my breaking point. We're here thinking about you and praying for you and your family’s best 💕
