Self Control for a Happier Life
We are constantly bombarded with words and actions that could trigger us and it can be hard to keep self-control. Self-control is more than just self-discipline in a world that is always telling us to give in or to respond to something - self-control puts us back into the driver’s seat!
It is the pause button inside of you which allows you to think rather than merely react, whether that means restraining yourself from making a sarcastic remark or refusing that extra piece of cake. Self-control is not about repression but rather about responsible expression that gives you true freedom!
Here are 3 habits that help to strengthen your self-control:
- Don’t let interruptions break your concentration - 10 Minute Rule to stay focused
- Delay urges, do not give in instantly - 10 Minute Rule to delay urges
- Encourage yourself like your coach would.
Participation question:
What helps you to maintain self-control in challenging situations?
Helpful Videos:
Secrets to Self-Control
Helpful Resources:
How Self-Control Can Help You Live a Healthier Life
Seeking Help
Mental stress can cause us not to be able to see the good things in life and lead to excessive rumination or worries which can result in serious health problems. If you have serious, long-term problems with negative thinking and feeling depressed, see your doctor or talk to a therapist if they are related to any mental challenges.
Are you looking for a therapist? 7 Cups has online, certified therapists with a paid option. For more information on what happens in online therapy at 7 Cups, Read Lisa’s (a therapist and director of therapy) explanation
https://www.7cups.com/forum/therapy/General_2432/WeveLaunchedTalkTherapyon7Cups_319430/
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@amiablePeace77
What helps you to maintain self-control in challenging situations?
Deep breathing exercises, meditation and positive affirmations to myself that I can handle anything life throws my way. I carefully think through a siutation and come up with a solution into how to handle it.
@pamharley003 great ideas Pam
@amiablePeace77
What helps you to maintain self-control in challenging situations?
I monitor my thoughts and get ready to edit whatever response I may need to change because it is about losing control to anger and or harming a relationship
@soulsings
I agree soul. By observing our thoughts rather than getting caught up in them what can lead to anger we become less reactive to triggers.
@amiablePeace77
What helps you to maintain self-control in challenging situations?
Journaling the challenges or struggles I’m going through, thinking about anything to laugh at, talking about my problems with myself or others. These help me get the challenges out of my mind before I overthink about them. Listening to music definitely helps too.
@akunknown
Great ways to prevent not being able to manage your emotions and react impulsively!
Although I may not be able to answer every question I’ll say this. When I was in my day treatment program I learned in situations get in touch with you’ body. In doing so not only can it help Ya know when something’s going on medically that’ will alert Ya to see tour medical Doctor but it can also alert Ya when you’re bein’ triggered and’ one thing that was taught you’ neither go in another room thereby removing yourself from the person triggering you or walk out the House. In a recent situation I was in a few months back the person wasnt allowing me to leave. I took a few deep breaths still trying to stay calm but the more calm I was the more the person provoked me which da person’s provoking me literally put a bit of fear in a guest thats staying in the persons home. After bout 35 minutes the person moved from in front of me which at that time I walked out there house to regroup my thoughts and to get myself calm which within 5 minutes I had succeeded but although I have to deal wit seein’ this person I’ve decided to no longer be on taking terms ‘cause I will not accept anyone provoking me so bad that I get triggered again. This is da one way I know of dat helped me to work on maintaining self control asking wit chattin’ deep breaths as many as needed asking wit sayin’ an affirmation to keep my thoughts remain focused.
@eternalHero77
That was a tough situation! So glad you managed without any harm to yourself. I hope you don't have to see this person on a regular basis. Is there someone you could ask to accompany you next time you have to meet them?
@amiablePeace77
What helps you to maintain self-control in challenging situations?
Grounding techniques
Deep breathing
Journaling
Crying in the shower
@trueconfidant123
Crying can be like releasing a bottle's pressure before it blows up!
@amiablePeace77
It is actually practicing self-control that will get you there.
What helps you to maintain self-control in challenging situations?
@Fradiga
Good point!