Avoiding emotions
There are things that we go through that are painful and we want to avoid feeling that way again. Many times we push those feelings down instead of dealing with them because it seems like the easiest way to get past it. But that only postpones the process of actually dealing with it and healing from it. Sometimes you have to sit with that emotion for a little while so you can feel whatever you are going to feel so you can genuinely move forward without having to deal with all the things that happened in the past all at once or at inappropriate times with the wrong person.
@KellyBrastMA
Kelly is a mind reader too?😛
This was a greatly needed and important reminder, thank you so much for constantly sharing such validating and helpful reminders for the community!
Do you feel we can build more discussions on these topics too? Perhaps by following up with a question on how do people currently perceive their emotions/ their relationship with their emotions, what helps them to feel/ acknowledge/ process their emotions better etc. I believe it could also be helpful to see what others have to share from their experience, like a great collective learning opportunity!💛
Either way, thank you again for the gentle approach you use within these reminders, it's very comforting!
@KellyBrastMA I definitely connect with this - just trying to switch of to something else, I can fake it if I have to, but I actually do feel worse. What types of things are more useful to deal with a difficult emotion though?
@KellyBrastMA hi I'm Lola ❤ I don't really always understand my emotions and feelings, so yeah I pretend their not there. Also I feel like I shouldn't complain it be scared of depressed. Because I have a amazing life now, and I'm safe and being taken care of really well. So I try to ignore and keep my feelings hidden
@KellyBrastMA
Hello, so nice to meet you. I definitely resonate with the topic of Emotions. I personally feel so dysregulated most of the time. I struggle with CPTSD and Dissociation. What seems to me to be my main issue is the lack of my ability to understand what emotion I am experiencing. Maybe that has been my reason for dissociating. I am not sure.
To my understanding, the brain does not form properly to learn life skills from an early age and I had one of the therapists tell me that my normal thinking was messed up. I had no idea that I did not think like a normal person. So How can I believe what I think is real or true? I can't identify what I feel I am just numb. Sounds and feels like a maze that I can not find the exit to. I do know sadness cause I cry but for no known reason. Happy is rarely experienced and I know the brain remembers negative things more than positive ones. I have no memories of ever being happy as a child because abuse began at 4 years old and before that, we were in foster care. So molded at a young age.
Thanks in advance for reading❤️
@KellyBrastMA 100% agree. sometimes the only way is through
@KellyBrastMA
Thank you for this helpful post Kelly. I find it very important to acknowledge my pain, my anger or anything that hurt me. I used to suppress many feelings in the past but the only thing that happened was that they kept "nagging" me and made existing triggers stronger. Gladly I learned here to embrace what I feel instead of pushing it "down".
