Moods

@amiablePeace77 both 😁 i like to be alone when I'm upset, cause I think want people to see me, but then I come to cups for reassurance, or to just to know that someone cares. When I'm tired I like to be alone, but rely on my carers to help me with my relaxing routine, and to carry me to bed and stuff. But yes then sleep alone ❤❤

@amiablePeace77  When you’re in a bad mood or feeling tired, do you prefer to be left alone or spend time with others? Why?

Lately I find meditation helps me balance out. 

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I'd rather be alone for a while first, to really think about the situation and sort my thoughts through. If I'm still feeling overwhelmed, I would seek help from close friends.

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Regardless of my mood I prefer to be alone. 

Having time alone when you are feeling bad does not negate the need for alone time when I am well.

Definitely be left alone. With my anger issues, nothing good happens if someone tries to communicate with me when I'm in a bad mood. 

Left alone. I can't keep a lid on my misery when stretched to my limits, and I'm afraid of negatively affecting others and alienating myself from them for doing the wrong thing. I prefer to be alone until I feel better so I don't risk hurting anyone.

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When you’re in a bad mood or feeling tired, do you prefer to be left alone or spend time with others? Why?

It depends what it was that put me in bad mood. If so, I warn people around me, but do not necessarily retire. Maybe I'll go pull more ivy from our walls for let-up too.

Feeling tired: I would be left alone so I can nap, or sit down in a chair with a large dog head on my shoulder and the rest of him in my lap (more or less). He will fall asleep and probably so would I, because he keeps me warm and I can feel his heart beating. More often than not, it is incessant noise that makes me tired, so I ask for the silence I need. A matriarch pretty much gets respect from others.



The only people I don’t mind being around when I’m upset are my kids, because they have a way of distracting my mind and focusing on something positive.

 Otherwise I prefer to be alone for many reasons. I like to have time to process and ground myself. Talking with others also tends to make me feel worse, because they get anxious to fix it for me by giving unsolicited advice, and it usually ends up being something that minimizes or invalidates my feelings (“just do this” kind of thing). Or they don’t listen at all, check their phone, doze off, or talk about themselves, etc. My adult relationships are one-sided and not close.

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 When you’re in a bad mood or feeling tired, do you prefer to be left alone or spend time with others? Why?

I prefer too be alone. Partially because I am an introvert- The only one who can get me to calm down is me. I need a quiet space alone to calm down and sort out my jumbled emotions and thoughts. Also, I don't want to lash out at those who care about me. Sometimes their intervention makes me more mad, and I don't want to make the situation worse. I am also used to being left alone when I am going through tough times so I am not comfortable with others showing empathy. However, I am starting to open up a little. Thank you 7 Cups Community for offering a safe space when I need it!

@amiablePeace77 For me it is about 50/50. It really depends on the situation. I enjoy my time alone and often need it to clear my head but I also really enjoy and need the ability to vent to others and to just have my emotions and experiences validated. I'll avoid specific people but will run to others. It also depends on what people are available to be around. If I don't like how someone reacts to me venting i will isolate from them and choose alone instead. If there is multiple people i will likely get overwhelmed and not enjoy myself if I am upset by something else and will just ruin their fun and would rather be alone.