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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Trauma Support Automated Taglist
by CaringBrit
Last post
 July 7th
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to Trauma Support Community [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?23eb3b680028ac32c998125af8d8f262]. <<<< checkin posters refer to this click then copy for taglist its instant updated To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words, Please remove me. highlighting keywords as these are needed no forms to fill in just type to this thread . dont need to copy the colouring though just the keywords highlight is so they stand out is all. New taglist as of August 9th 2024 by audienta @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
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Schedule: Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community
by audienta
Last post
 February 8th
...See more Hello everyone, The Trauma Sub-Community Discussion Team currently hosts one discussion per week: * Tuesday, 11 AM ET: DID/OSDD-1 Safety and Stabilization Group (adults), hosted by mytwistedsoul The discussions will be announced the day before they happen by the host who will lead the chat in this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/DiscussionsonDissociativeDisordersAnnouncementPosts_303372/]. If you want to be tagged for them, please leave a comment below. And if you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. The discussions take place in the trauma support room [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=k2tqdHaUk5qdlLBpiYbDlQ%21%21]. To access this room, you need to have either the Chief Chat or the First Post plus the Compassion Hero badge. You can find more information on that here. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/CommunityManagersOffice_2008/NewCriteriaUpdatesGroupChatsEasierToAccessNow_280544/] The trauma support room is only open on Weekends and during the discussions. In addition to the above, there are Listener Learning Discussions on Dissociative Disorders. You can find the schedules here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/listenerjourney/ListenerLearningDiscussions_1896/]. ------------------------- Trauma support room (info here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/CommunityManagersOffice_2008/NewCriteriaUpdatesGroupChatsEasierToAccessNow_280544/]). Take care, audienta (last updated: 28/04/2026)
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just a rant, TW COCSA
by peachApricot8215
Last post
 August 24th
...See more I’m not sure where else i can rant or if im doing it correctly  but i jsut need this out of my head for once. Is anyone a victim of COCSA? When i found out about it and the cycle of it, i was so in shock and it has stuck with me. it started when i was around maybe 4? it was my brother he was 10. I didn’t want it. It didn’t stop until I was 10. I remember bits and pieces of the abuse that happened throughout the years. Honestly throughout those years i vaguely recall anything. One that always stuck was my mom walking in and we were under the covers. He bit my shoulder so hard. Idk if he was trying to be quiet or what but the pain always stuck with me. Another is when he wanted me to perform oral on him and when i refused he said my cousin liked it so i should to. I cried and he left me alone. When it stopped he was very mean with me. I jsut wanted an older brother but instead i got someone who hated me. I didn’t know it was wrong when i was little. I thought its whatever. There were times he’d try waking me up but touching me and i’d stay asleep hoping he’d go away. My older cousin he was 7 years older. When i was 8 He’d try doing things to me and when i wouldn’t give a response he’s stop. I was able to avoid him bc we didn’t live together. Another was an older female cousin. She was 5 years older she and my other cousin were siblings. She’s lure me to her closet and teach me things for my future bf. It all stopped when i was 10 bc i moved. Later when i was 12 I attempted the same thing and kissed one of my younger cousin (11)  but was disgusted with myself and told her it was a prank, and never tried again. When I was around 16 i partied with friends and came home extremely drunk. I confessed to my mom in my drunken state about my brother and the next day she asked if it was true. I had only told her he would touch me between those years but i never told her the specific bc it hurt to much to tell that to my mother. She told me i should forgive him. She later told my sister, and she told my brother. He wanted to talk to me and he said he did those things bc he was taught that by another cousin, which i later found out had the same thing done to her by an adult. My brother also did the same to one of my very close cousins who’s the same age as me. She confessed to me what my brother did to her and she said she didn’t feel safe. I told her to never leave my side. We were 9.  The other cousins who had attempted those things to me, i found out there dad got another one of their sister pregnant. It turned out all this runs rampant in my family and everyone ignores it and covers it up. I’m just tired of this stupid cycle that will never stop. Who knows who else fell victim to it. Now none of this is talked about. All swept under the rug and we moved on. Anyways if you made it this far thanks. I just wanted to get this out of my system. I no longer live with any of these people and am attending uni. Thinking about talking to a professional but im scared. I like the anonymous aspect of this.
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TW
by Salsmanm
Last post
 August 12th
...See more I think I was SAed by my ex....I slept over at his place and I woke up to him having sex with me, but even after I woke up I let it happen and didn't say no...I'm too scared to talk to anyone about it in my life because he is one of my best friends and I've finally started getting people to be ok with the friendship 
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What if...
by brenbird
Last post
 July 24th
...See more What if... I cant do things to please my boyfriend when were older I cant ever control the flashbacks I can't stop thinking of the things I could've done sooner I cant have sex I cant stop blaming myself I cant stop having nightmares I cant stop being scared of going to places ik he goes to but I have to go to bc of parents I can't stop being scared to js see him in public even though its been months since I last saw him in public I cant stop being scared
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miscarriage from SA
by wordsonwings
Last post
 July 12th
...See more trigger warnings: rape/SA (COCSA specifically), teenish pregnancy, miscarriage, grief hi, this is my first time posting here. i apologize in advance if i do or say anything wrong. just a disclaimer, this is really long, and i'm sorry about that. i just have no one to talk to about this and i have so much to say. but tldr: i was pregnant from being raped, i miscarried years ago, and i miss the baby, but it feels so wrong and i don't know how to grieve or cope. almost 3 years ago, i got raped at school by a classmate. i was 11, and it was so incredibly traumatizing. i've been diagnosed with ptsd 3 times since then. it took me months to fully piece together what had been done to me, because i blocked it out so hard. its actually taken me years. i knew i was raped after a few months, because i was finally able to remember exactly what happened. last year, i didn't necessarily remember something new, i just finally made myself come to terms with it after refusing to think about it. two months after being raped, i miscarried alone in my bathroom. i was so young, and i didn't even know i was pregnant in the first place. i remember how painful it was, and how alone i was, and how it felt like the world was ending in that moment. i've had so many feelings since then. i've never wanted kids in my life. not before i was raped, and not since. i've just never really liked kids all that much. but now that i know that for 2 months, i was a mother, its changed things. i didn't like kids before, but now seeing babies makes me feel so sick. hearing about pregnancy makes me sick. i just can't handle anything relating to it anymore. i was just so young, and so confused and so scared. i felt so violated. like he would forever be a part of me or own a part of me because now his child was inside of me. and honestly, i'm so glad i miscarried, because i know i never would've been able to handle being an 11 year old mother. but now there's so much grief. there was something living and growing inside of me, and it could've had a future, and a life. i know deep down that if that baby went to term, i would've hated it so much. i would've only seen my ***, their father, in the baby, and it would've driven me insane. but i also could've loved that baby like nothing before. i could've watched that baby grow and become someone as kind as i wish i could be. i could've been a great parent if i really wanted to be. i feel so lost. no one my age has ever been a parent. no one in my life has gotten pregnant under the circumstances that i did. all i want is someone who understands, who knows how to cope with this sort of thing. i feel like i'll never cope with this. i'm struggling to grieve because it was years ago, and i don't feel like i have the right to miss something that was never truly alive in the first place. but i miss that baby, and i love it despite how wrong that feels. i've thought forward to the future, in terms of ways that maybe i could honor the baby. it's due date would've been some time in september. i looked up the birth flowers for that month, and they're asters and morning glories. i feel like asters being the birth flower for my baby is so appropriate. asters are named after the greek word for star, and ever since i went through that all those years ago, i've been writing poetry. so many of my poems are about stars, the universe, the galaxy. i have a published poem about stars. it feels sort of fitting, that even if i couldn't come to terms with the fact that i almost had a baby, i've been writing about them ever since. i've been honoring them subconsciously in almost everything i write. i'm thinking about maybe getting a tattoo of a bouquet of flowers, maybe my month's birth flowers and my baby's combined. just so my baby knows that i love them now, even if i hated them back then. i'm only 14, these are such hard concepts for me to think about, let alone live with. i'm struggling with humanizing the baby. i keep using 'it' and that feels so disrespectful, but i just can't let myself think of it as a human, or else it makes me so scared. i'm so sorry this is so long. if anyone else has gone through something similar, or knows what i could possibly do to make this grieving easier, please let me know. thank you for reading this.
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Childhood tigger warning mention of SA and SH
by Pumkineyes25
Last post
 June 25th
...See more I have been thinking about my childhood recently, which I hardly remember much of, but the parts that I do remember, I do not want to remember, that is, because what I am remembering is SA. It lasted for about 2 years at 2 different times with 2 different people. I am remembering specifics of what happened, and I had been self-harming. I have also been thinking about a time when I was in college the first time and was coerced into doing some things that I have realized were not my fault, but it feels like it was my fault.
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Sexual harrasment to Marry
by sunnybeh5467
Last post
 June 19th
...See more Hello  Sexual harrasment by dad and family  For not marrying  Working with counselor  Venting helps  Financial  Social  Personal life all hindering by family  Cyber tracking  Calling harrasment good because they are holy  Counselor say saditic personality type 
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Sexual harrasment
by sunnybeh5467
Last post
 May 6th
...See more Hello  Sexual harrasment to Marry by family  Personal boundaries are disregarded Sadistic personality  Dad is psychopathic trait  Working with counselor  Looking for support 
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Rape Victim
by bhaddie310
Last post
 March 25th
...See more So ummm.... I'm new here....and..ummm.... I'm a rape victim and it's killing me. Lost my virginity to rape💔 It's hard to accept it, everyday I have flash backs and the only way to cooperate with it....is finding a distraction but then that doesn't help for too long. I wanna move on from it, I wanna move on from my past. Growing up I didn't have a supportive family (still don't got it). I don't even know what it feels like to be loved, growing up I just wanted love and attention from my mom and dad...but he didn't stay he lefted and put another female over me(he's still doing it right now and trying to buy me with money)and my mom...she don't got time for no body but her man. She's not the best or a great mother. Sometimes I feel like a mistake she once said I ruined her life(because she had me at 23). Sadly....I don't know what fun feels like either. I don't get along with humans... I'm a nobody which makes it even harder to even tell someone about me getting raped.... It's just too much you know😔I just want the pain and flash backs to stop, I just want to be happy like normal people. My inner child is so sad and depressed. My depression started at 8 and now I'm 16 and it's gotten worst over the years but May 2021 was the worst💔the year I got raped and I know it's almost a year sinced it happen....but..... it's hard.
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Rape
by ankestrauss456
Last post
 March 14th
...See more I was raped and i can't cope anymore im only a teenager
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Virtual friend problem (TW SA)
by gregariousPond2368
Last post
 March 14th
...See more He ab*sed me, not in a touchy way (we haven't even met irl) but he did asked me to m0an and constantly s3xuallized me. He has a gf and a girl best friend. We have known eachother for 2 years, I love him, but he is my abuser. But I still love him, he treats me so bad, we had a fight recently and after that he got a new bestfriend wich he texts everytime, I hate it, he has known her for like 5 days.. and me? Two years meant nothing?
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I was just 11
by courageousPenguin3150
Last post
 March 3rd
...See more Now I'm  17-year-old girl but now i remembered that I was sexually assaulted by my cousin when I was just 11 and didn't understand what happened with me, that time he was 13 or 14, after doing that I only understand that he done something bad so i asked him "why did you do that to me" and he answered "So what you are my sister" like seriously. and I also remembered that in 2021 when he was moving to America, we throw a Dawat(gathering in South Asia) for him and he was touching my hand weirdly, In 2022 he kind of harassed one of my cousins by telling her about corn, etc. I don't know what to do and i can't even tell this to any of my friends like how can i share this to anyone? and his parents will never believe me and my that cousin also our grandparents love him more than any of us. He has a bright academic record and people love him so much. I pray to Allah to punish him for what he has done and is doing. His mother is single mother, he should have looked at his mother before doing this, if the truth comes out as one that his true face will come out his mother, I mean my aunt will be in ashamed but she is a nice person, and I don't want her to be sad.   Please anyone suggest me how to forget this things and move forward.
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Parents still friendly with abuser
by Pumkineyes25
Last post
 March 1st
...See more My parents are still friendly with my cousin who sexually abused me when I was a young kid, about 4 or 5. It feels like they do not care how it affects me anymore or that I am just now working through the pain that it has caused me over the years. It comes to me in waves about what happened to me, and when they talk with the wife of the abuser, I get a wave of what happened, and then I feel like I might shut down. I also can not talk to my parents about it, as they bring it back to things that they have experienced and not about what I am trying to tell them, which is not helpful in any way.

Trauma Support

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

What are the different forum topics for Trauma Support?

Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

Check-Ins & Prompts:  Regular check-ins and prompts, created by our leadership team

Child & Domestic Abuse: For people who have experienced child abuse, domestic abuse or even both

Coping with Attachment Difficulties: Help and support for people with attachment difficulties

Creativity Corner: A creative space for poetry, art, and healing and recovery quotes

Dissociation & Related Disorders: A place to discuss your struggles with dissociation and how it relates to your trauma

Introductions & Welcomes: Are you new to the Trauma Community? Share a little about yourself!

Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

PTSD & Complex Trauma: Share stories and seek support for PTSD and complex PTSD

Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
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