Traumatic Experiences Community Check In Thread - it's the weekend! June 30th and July 1st
Seems too late in many parts of the world to post a Friday thread, and too early in other parts to post a Saturday thread. So here I am unveiling an 'it's the weekend' thread! I reckon that covers all bases :)
So what's on your agenda today? What do you have in mind for tomorrow? What about your future, how would you like that to look? What's next for you?
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@DeborahUK
Good pre-weekend Friday post
For me its thinking of today. Thinking of what I have control of and what I dont. Keep moving forward and not taking side-way-glances of the past.
@RumpleSteeleSkin
Absolutely Rumple, take control of what you have control over, forgive yourself and shed the load of things outside your responsibility. Do you know the serenity prayer? It's very apt, and not just for people with addictions. Just in life.
@DeborahUK This is a nice thought :)
So what's on your agenda today? What do you have in mind for tomorrow? What about your future, how would you like that to look? What's next for you?
Today (Friday) I'm cleaning, and I have to run to the store and pick up some desserts, and then pack an overnight bag cuz tomorrow (Saturday) we're driving about 5hrs down to my aunt's house and coming back on Sunday because most of us have to work Monday :)
@BeeLeigh
That sounds like a busy weekend Bee. I hope it's a positive experience to boost you along your recovery path.
@DeborahUK
feel grumpy late here and can't sleep
@conscientiousPineapple1782
That's horrible isn't it, when you're tossing and turning and sleep eludes you. Try not to beat yourself up for it.
(and I hope by now you're fast asleep).
@DeborahUK
I'm feeling off and my stomach is acting up. I feel like doing absolutely nothing. I'm doing a pretty good job too.
@MKJart
And that's great that you're listening to your body, and responding to your needs. Guilt free I hope. You're a fighter Mary, I've seen that in you. But it's okay to take a break.
@DeborahUK
Thanks you !
@MKJart How are you feeling today, Mary? 💟
@melliotm
My stomach feels better. I feel sluggish and inert otherwise. Fiddling online for a bit. I had a harp class this morning too. That got me out of the house for a little bit.
How are you?
Have you seen the new online journal section on here? I thought since you were such a gifted writer that it might interest you? I started one yesterday that I titled My Winding Pathway. Thinking it's a really cool way to practice getting in touch through writing experiences on a regular basis and keeping a log of my progress- not to mention a cool way to give and receive support. Not sure yet if it's different that the daily checkin yet, but I'm giving it a try.
Just, overall, today is a better day. It started off with a positive mood, and I'm working on carrying that through my day :)
@DeborahUK trying to make good enough choices. Trying to forgive self when failing.
@survivetoalive
Self forgiveness is so important. Self compassion. So often it's something we have in abundance for others, but we reserve all those negative messages for ourselves. So it's great to hear you're learning to forgive yourself.
I wonder what you mean by failing though? The message 'I'm a failure' is a pretty harsh judgement. Is it more that you're trying different things, and some work better than others? Or that some days are better than others, and today's not such a good one? I'd say that makes you a trier, and that takes strength and effort. So never be afraid to keep trying, nor condemn yourself for it.
@DeborahUK Thank you for this. I've been telling myself I'm failing today, too... but maybe it's just that today wasn't as good of a day as yesterday was. And I tried some things that didn't work as well as I thought they would, and it doesn't seem like I can really take them back / change them. And I feel super worried about the consequences of them not working out. I have been trying new things - I've been trying to trust people and be vulnerable, and it's hard. It's really freaking hard. It's really hard to know how much to open up... because if you stay too closed off, it hurts, but if you open too much too soon, it also hurts! So I'm trying.
@DeborahUK thank you (tears)
failing is doing things that don't lead in direction of healing, things that only alleviate severe discomfort, temporarily, things that ultimately make everything harder. So maybe it's trying really hard to make good choices, but not always succeeding. Maybe it's learning to forgive that.
Hello! Tonight, I am meeting an old acquaintance for a drink. I'm not looking forward to it; I wish I was. I got a bout of anxiety several hours ago that I've been struggling to move past. I also need to pack boxes, as I'm moving in a few days. I'm feeling discouraged, as I think I'm moving alone. I had a new friend say he would help me.. I hope he does.
Tomorrow, I will be working most of the day and night. I plan to also get a yoga practice in, and go by the storage facility to check out and buy the room where I will be moving my things. I will also touch base with my brother, who is flying out to join me for a portion of my road trip, as we need to plan some more.
For my future, I am scared. I do not feel confident today, or strong, or excited, or capable. I feel guilty, afraid, ashamed, and perhaps foolish. I am afraid my money will run out far faster than I thought it would. I have a very limited savings that I am using to get me through the next month. I have a ton of things I am beating myself up for right now, and a lot of indecision. And on top of that, I am beating myself up for beating myself up.
I am going to reply to some other peoples' threads, as I haven't gotten a chance to do that yet!
@singercrystalspirit im glad grounding helped your anxiety. With so much going on in your life right now it must make it very difficult to pause and breathe.
i hope you find some time for peace and calm and just to be with yourself. x
@inventiveOrange1 :D Thank you Orange. I decided to create some time, this morning, instead of working. Because I needed it. <3
I drew a picture of anxiety and me giving it a hug a while ago. It makes me smile
Thought I'd share it with you.
@MKJart
https://imgur.com/c48xoqU
Let me try this again.
@MKJart
Not sure what I'm doing wrong to post a picture. Any ideas?
@MKJart
I don't know. But I think it's great you're trying!!! :)
@MKJart
I can never get pics to work from my phone, but here's a clickable version of the link at least 🤷🏼♀️
love the pic by the way! :)
@MKJart
Here it is MKJ (pm me for how to do it if you can't figure out). It's a wonderful picture. You are super talented I must say. Keep being creative. Keep drawing. You are awesome.
I feeeeeeeeeel.......I'm okay....content.....idk, happy?...either way, I think today will be a good day :)
