Traumatic Experiences Community Check-in: September 6th
Hi Trauma Team,
I know that this has been an incredibly difficult and upsetting time for your team. At this time, the best course of action is to start fresh and rebuild this community that means so much to many of you. The focus has always been - and will continue to be- on supporting members who have gone through traumatic experiences.
With this in mind, I want to check in with you on how youre feeling and how we can best support members of the trauma community moving forward.
- On a scale of 1-10, how are you feeling today?
- What is something we can do to support you today and help you feel safe and heard in this space?
- What is one goal you have for the Trauma Community moving forward?
- What would you like to see in the Trauma Community? Check-ins, discussions, open chat, more icebreaker posts, etc.
@Laura @courteousNorth5140 @LifeIsMyCanvas @PurpleHeart16 @RumpleSteeleSkin
@Kate
On a scale of 1-10, how are you feeling today? 8
- What is something we can do to support you today and help you feel safe and heard in this space? just knowing you guys are here helps
- What is one goal you have for the Trauma Community moving forward? more accountability
- What would you like to see in the Trauma Community? check ins
Hi
I feel like I've lost the only space where people understood. I have spent my life being told that what I've been through is nothing, and I finally found a space where I'm not dismissed and invalidated and now I don't feel comfortable sharing because I'm worried that the new people won't be supportive. I'd like to get to know the new people because I'm sure that everyone is supportive really. It's just very hard to trust people who I've not met before.
Thank you for doing the check-in.
On a scale of 1-10, how are you feeling today?
3. I'm tired. Just so damn tired.
- What is something we can do to support you today and help you feel safe and heard in this space?
It's hard to find a safe place. Maybe there is no such thing.
- What is one goal you have for the Trauma Community moving forward?
- What would you like to see in the Trauma Community? Check-ins, discussions, open chat, more icebreaker posts, etc.
I would like to see the open chats and discussions brought back. Also still want to do daily check-ins. I may not post on all of them but I do read them and I feel less alone.
@RedHawk6547
Thanks for sharing your feedback! I love check-ins too and even reading them helps me as well. I hope you get some rest tonight and feel less tired!
@Kate
I have been watching from my corner...so Thanks for this check in.
On a scale of 1-great, I'm about a 4+, lots of ups and downs this week, the roller coaster should be ending soon as things settle down.
As far as the community, I'm really glad that I will get to see it being rebuilt, and I'm happy to take part if I can. I don't know the history, and I don't want to focus on that. I'm sorry for those who feel hurt by what happened.
It it scary to watch a "safe" place erode, and I have held back on coming here during some recent sharp moments in my life, but being honest, I really need to start getting help.
What I want is a safe space to try to untangle some of the emotional mess my past has left me with. I want to be able to ask questions, hear ideas, see others' thoughts on their experiences, and maybe...find some ways to take small steps toward healing.
I'd like to see ice breakers, check ins, discussions (trauma related, and off topic too). I want to be able to belong here, but I'm not sure about whether I do.
@wittyNest2941
Glad you are back & posting!!! Sorry to hear that you're struggling at the moment but proud of your courage for reaching out for support! It's a brave thing to do! I am a new face to trauma support and i'm trying to help out a little. Not new to 7cups though, I've been around 7cups a while for over 2 years now. I really like your feedback and I can try to help out by making cool ice breakers!
@summertimeSamness
Thank you summer, I'll be watching for ya! 🏖️😊
And Yes, it has been hard just trying to put my thoughts in order enough to know I need to ask.
Then there's the actual asking. Small steps, I say. It's all I can do for now.
@wittyNest2941
I like this gif because it reminds me small steps add up to big distances over time
@wittyNest2941
You absolutely belong here!!! ❤️❤️ Big safe hug if you would like one ❤️❤️
Would hitting someone that's snorning be concidered self defense
Worse sound ever, along with someone crunching carrots and other food items, it like echos and applifies 👀 🙉 no Av will not beat the dude up 😇
Will stick something in my ears, ok now I'm going to try go back to sleep, oh @daisy where art thou to tell me to go sleep and set that daisy clock to get me up 😴💗
@Avaray
It's started to rain, now that's a sound i love, but it's not a thunderstorm so it doesn't block the breathing noise 😂 ok me over and out 😳💗
@Avaray
Lol, I have that same problem with hearing people's "eating noises", drives me completely batty sometimes, but depends on who's doing it I think.
I hate when people eat chips loudly. Or when some people chew with their mouths open. Makes me wanna....well...no, I won't.
😉
@wittyNest2941
I get that definitely a certain people thing that makes it worse, interesting, its like they are almost chewing slower and it's louder, and certain pitch of certain coughs, 😁
Ok im off to sleep... Yeah right av😂, ok going to close my eyes and try ❤
@Kate
To be honest, today has been a very long and difficult day.
- On a scale of 1-10, how are you feeling today?
2 at best. My life is not stable right now. Nothing is stable.
- What is something we can do to support you today and help you feel safe and heard in this space?
I really don't know. I just don't know anymore. I'm not sure if I'm really even here.
- What is one goal you have for the Trauma Community moving forward?
A safe and stable place to give and recieve support through some very difficult issues.
- What would you like to see in the Trauma Community? Check-ins, discussions, open chat, more icebreaker posts, etc.
I like the check-ins. Something to count on each day. Discussions and/or chat sessions would be nice.
Thank you.
@practicalIdeal2007
Thanks for sharing your feedback! I just wanted to tell you that i'm sorry you had one of those long & difficult days! I hope tonight is more relaxing for you. Do you have any self-care plans that can help give you a boost tonight? *sending some extra supportive vibes your way*
@summertimeSamness
Thank you for the supportive vibes. I made some dinner (which is a bit of an overstatement as I heated something in the microwave) and I will soon likely go to read a book until either I fall asleep or it is time to get up again.
@practicalIdeal2007
I'm so sorry that nothing in your life feels very stable right now for you. I can tell you are really struggling. Here is a safe hug if you would like one❤️❤️❤️ Do you see a counselor? For me, that was the first step in finding some stability in my life. I understand how you feel though. Please know that you are not alone. I'm here right now writing you, i'm thinking about you, and I'm praying for you. ❤️❤️
@KLM3278
Thank you for the hug. I do see a therapist when I can afford to do so. She knows that things are rocky right now and suggested I try to build up some support. That sounds simple; however, I have a hard time trusting people so it is not all that easy. People don't know what is going on and I don't feel that I can tell them.
@practicalIdeal2007
It is so hard to trust again. ❤️ But you started to do that a little bit here, with me. Safe hug. And paying for a therapist is hard. Is there a way you could reach out to her and be honest. Tell her you're having an extremely hard time and could you figure out a lower payment? It can't hurt to ask. I just sense you're hurting. You deserve to heal and have someone to be able to talk to. ❤️🐻
3
remind me it's okay to make mistakes and even though I make them, someone will always love me.
to know I am loved and I can make mistakes, as long as I learn from them.
more icebreakers and check-ins
@Jade1432
You ARE ❤️❤️LOVED❤️❤️
- On a scale of 1-10, how are you feeling today? (1 bad to 10 totally awesome) 7. . . I declare it's going to be a yesterday than most
- What is something we can do to support you today and help you feel safe and heard in this space? Reply back . . . I know you read it
- What is one goal you have for the Trauma Community moving forward? I think we should help each other make plans to get through our bad days
- What would you like to see in the Trauma Community? More icebreakers and jokes. .,. I get through my bad times with humor
@Rebekahwriter13 More icebreakers and balancing the seriousness with some light-heartedness coming your way!
@Kate
- On a scale of 1-10, how are you feeling today?
4 my n-mom is emotionally abusive and I came home today after spending the night with my partner and she said some very homophobic words... I also want a puppy but they wont let me have one but I think it would help me heal :(
- What is something we can do to support you today and help you feel safe and heard in this space? idk -cries-
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@HopefulSprings
I want a puppy to. But I can't. Could you maybe volunteer at an animal shelter? That is helping puppies and dogs and it is very rewarding 🐾🐾 🐶Here is a safe hug if you would like one ❤️
@KLM3278
maybe. I am thinking about it I really wish I coulda got that specific puppy. :( I have autism and it would just help because so many times I feel so sad because of everything and my family doesnt understand why Im like I am and why I act like a kid at times and theyre so mean. A puppy wouldnt care
@HopefulSprings
I know!! I love my cats. I have 2! But I really would love a puppy! You're right! Animals don't care about that stuff they just love us! 🐾🐾 Maybe you could ask for the puppy for Christmas? Birthday? I really really understand everything you're saying and going through ❤️❤️ Keep trying and remember there is nothing wrong with you. You are not a mistake. Your family may not understand but we do here. You just learn and process and relate differently. Nothing wrong with that. 🐶🐶🐾🐾❤️
@KLM3278
thank you. I can afford the puppy. They just wont let me have one. Even tho Id be paying for it .-. My birthday is on weds
@HopefulSprings
Ohhhh Happy Birthday 🎊🎈 🐶🐾🐾❤️
@KLM3278
thank you and I hope so @DaisyLion
@HopefulSprings
Happy Birthday to YOU!!!! 🎂 I hope you have a really nice birthday!!!!! 🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈
@HopefulSprings
Happy birthday for Wednesday 🌹
@Avaray
thank you!
@HopefulSprings
🌹🌹
@HopefulSprings
Happy birthday
@LoveFromSara
Thanks!
So today I'm feeling about a 3.
Dull, dismal rainy day doesn't help. My friends aren't talking to me, I am distanced from family who weren't close in the first place, so I am alone.
I hate that I'm looking forward to work on Monday, if only so there will be people in my day.
This is where I had typed out a longish rant about the ongoing topic of those gone, and how to rebuild, etc.
I'll not kill everyone's day with my bad mood.
However, please know, every mention of the past which I had no knowledge or part in, gets me further from receiving support from any of you.
I NEED YOU!
Please be the Trauma group I wanted to join. You can do it.
Can I just get a hug?
@wittyNest2941
-safe huggles-
@wittyNest2941 - Absolutely *hugs*
@wittyNest2941
That sounds like a lot of things to be going through, welcome to the trauma comunity, Nest, thanks for being here - safe hugs
@wittyNest2941
It's nice to meet you. Being alone and being lonely are two different things. I just learned this recently. But wow, it is HARD to understand. Safe Hug!!!! ❤️ I'm sorry to read about your family and friend situation. I can relate to that. And as for work, it sound like for you that is a good thing. Do you like any of the people you work with? Could you maybe ask one of them to grab lunch? I know it's so hard to do something like that. It could be worth it though!!! Thinking of you today ☀️
@KLM3278
Thank you, for your kind words...
I'm new at my job, so I really don't have any "lunch buddies" just yet...but I hope in time I will. Everyone here is so nice compared to my last job. I hope nothing bad happens here.
Thank you, and all the others for the safe hugs. I need lots right now. But I give back too.
-Hugs everyone- 💕
@wittyNest2941
Ohhh that is so nice of you!! I liked that hug!! ❤️
@wittyNest2941
Hey Nest! Welcome :D :) *waves*
I think you managed to find one of the most dramatic post recently ;) hehe, but things are starting to settle down and hopefully will continue to do so. We are all trying as hard as we can to support each other so I hope you will continue to post and we can all offer each other gentle hugs as required :) <3. *Hugs*
Best of luck with your new job, I hope you can make some new friends soon, hows the work culture? I like friday night drinks etc, can help you get to know new people in a relatively safe environment (well as long as you are certain how to get home :P). I am sorry you are feeling so lonely, I've been there before and its not fun :(. I hope you feel safe enough to speak with us here and atleast we can help a little :) I know its not the same as IRL, but better than nothing!
@Lilibuth12
Thank you for that warm welcome. That's so nice of you.
I'll try to keep peeking in when I can.
I have a cold right now due to the weather changing...so I'm going off to bed soon. I have a busy week to try and push through...whew. Second week at the job, and I'm doing volunteer work on Thursday/Friday, plus I'm going to the chiropractor after work due to the car accident...
Ugh. Time for some meds, and sleep.
Thanks, and Hugs to everyone. See you all soon I hope.💕💕💗