Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check In - Monday March 26th 2018
So today, March 26th, is ‘National Make Up Your Own Holiday Day. Fanfare please.....did someone mention holiday? So if youre bored of all the old chestnuts that come round annually, like Thanksgiving for example, or May Day, nows your chance to define your own celebration. And you know what, I think we here in the trauma community deserve a celebration. For all the bravery shown, all the support given, all the triumphs noted, all the struggles empathised with, lets be proud of our achievements, and lets party!
So what are you bringing to the party? Any favourite music? A must have party food? Got to have party games. And well have a chill out zone too for anyone who prefers to talk. And of course, the party outfit. Im favouring purple today, but feel free to come as you are.
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I have the Hokey Cokey on repeat, and just about to start a game of hide and seek.
Whoop whoop! 🎉🎈
@DeborahUK
Im in to play hide and seek, you will never find me!
I would like to have a Masquerade Party. Where everyone has a mask on and at Midnight everyone drops there mask, and can just be who they are without the frills. It's hard to eat and drink with a mask on. No one really knows who you are when we hide behind our mask.
So everyone is invited to party like it really matters. Don't be shy and don't be afraid. We are here to DROP IT LIKE IT'S HOT
@DeborahUK
Purple Day is an international grassroots effort dedicated to increasing awareness about epilepsy worldwide. On March 26th annually, people in countries around the world are invited to wear purple and host events in support of epilepsy awareness.
50 Million people have epilepsy world wide
It is estimated that 1 in 100 people have epilepsy
In 50% of cases the cause is unknown
I am one of the 1 in 100 people who have epilepsy and who was born with it! But epilepsy doesnt have to stop your life :)
And I love the colour Purple 
@Rain45
I love purple too!!
@Rain45
Hence Im rocking the purple banana look today Rain. In solidarity with all people living with epilepsy.
Though Im with you, big fan of purple anyway. Maybe I should have transformed into an aubergine for the day 🍆🍆
@DeborahUK Oh no!! Not with you on that. I hate aubergines lol haha bananas definately lol
@DeborahUK
I like this music
https://youtu.be/KagvExF-ijc
I want to bring "R U OK Day" to my country. I actually have a goal of gettin in contract with the founder to see how the can help me with it. I love the goal. People need to talk more.
That goes with my checkin. I need a trained trauma listener, GR listeners trigger me and make me suicidal. I have a lot of trauma more than my therapist is even aware of.... and I just need someone to listen without trying to fix every little thing.
@beautifuldisasterx0
Id never heard of ‘R U OK Day before, but thanks so much for highlighting it. So it looks like an Aussie initiative to check in with others and allow those who arent okay to talk about it free of judgement. What a great initiative, and why is this not worldwide?
I guess finding 7 cups is a bit like being asked that question. There are many people on this site who will listen to one another, offering support and understanding, and not just listeners might I add. Beaut, the support shown amongst members in the trauma community is a thing of beauty. You can see it and find it in these forums, so its lovely to have you amongst us, and I hope you find the support and understanding you need. Youre warmly welcomed :)
@DeborahUK
I vote for national cress up like a silly monster day because that little people say so lol
Am feeling really poop, reached out for help for the scariest thing for me and got told I am too ill to be treated. Makes no sense and went through all that for nothing. Kinda mad right now, I keep trying to push it out my brain but it feels like it's eating at me now.
@LifeIsMyCanvas
Ah Canvas, that sounds rough. Im guessing it took a lot of courage to reach out, and then not to get the outcome you hoped for. Well, thats hard, Im sorry. I could rattle out lots of cliches now - when life deals you lemons make lemonade springs to mind. But I suspect thats not helpful to hear. Though if you think about the message of that, maybe there is some wisdom in it.
Okay, prepare for some ramblings, its late. Fact is youve been dealt a rough hand, but you can still play it the best way you can. Like in the card game whist, theres a hand called Misère Ouverte. Basic rules of whist are you try to win tricks. Declaring Misère Ouverte is saying youll win no tricks, so effectively youve got a really lousy hand of cards. But if you achieve Misère Ouverte, you win! Theres only one other hand in whist that will beat it. So you can turn a bad situation into a winning situation. Dont be defeated, its just down to the way you play your hand, and youre in control of that.
Did that make any sense?
@DeborahUK Feels like I got all the lemons juiced...
I've played all the cards I know how to and I need someone to help me learn how to get the sugar and water down because I'm at stalemate without them. The thing about me is, I'm self-motivated. I try everything I can possibly think of, learn about, or imagine and when I reach out for help I'm at the point that I just can't work it out alone. I got no cards left to play in my hand.
@LifeIsMyCanvas
Im sorry, sounds like the card analogy was just a bit hackneyed. I hope that whatever was eating away at you yesterday is a little less voracious today. Take good care of yourself. I read your story, and youve come such a long way. Respect to you.
Bad ptsd day. Got triggered really bad at work today. Haven
@BeeLeigh
Sorry to hear that Bee. Remember youre safe now. Do you find grounding exercises useful at times like these?
It can be really hard to cope with something that comes out the blue and triggers you. But remember how far youve come, and dont lose sight of the progress youve made. This feeling will pass. Take good care of yourself.
@DeborahUK
Nothing was helping. I got part of this song stuck in my head though, so I played it on repeat a few times, and for some reason this song is helping. I have no idea how or why but whatever!
*If this is not available in your country I will try to find one that is cuz I kinda love that song.
@BeeLeigh
Aww, the song is blocked for the UK but I'm glad you found something that helped a little hun. I do the same thing actually when nothing else works song on repeat is soothing for me. I think it is the repetition because it disrupts the other thought patterns going on in my head.
Hope you're feeling back to yourself again soon hun
@LifeIsMyCanvas
Try this one: https://youtu.be/4DSoZqDYEzY
@BeeLeigh
Love a bit of Irish music to get you proper upbeat!
Wherever you go and whatever you do, may the luck of the Irish be there with you.
parties are always whre i was never included or wanted growing up and its still hard not not to hear that message over and over. ive tried with online parties and its easier pretending than off whee people walk away from me and i don't know why, inside no matter what the outside looks, i just never belong.
so many special days now, i'd have a learn something new and share about it one
@Sparky1
Absolutely, theres always so much more we can learn. Maybe have one about party phobias, just to raise awareness and with it understanding. I do think ignorance is behind many sleights as adults, rather than a desire to hurt. So it would be great to have opportunities to educate others.
@Sparky1 HI Sparky1, thank you so much for checking in. I thought you've benn through so many things since you were a young child while I was reading your message. I think there are many people who'd like to invite you to the party you haven't met yet. I hope you enjoy your special days in your adulthood, from the bottom of my heart.
@LifeIsMyCanvas Thank you so much for checking in 💕 I love the picture you showed us and I'd love to join that party! I hope you will find something nice out of today.☺️