Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In: Thursday 7th November
hello my lovely trauma survivor community!! Happy thursday and its great to see you here today.
i hope everyone is having a good week so far and if not, i hope that your week gets a lot better really soon.
i thought today we could sit together a while, grab a tea or coffee and journal a bit for self-discovery and reflection, but of course, you can feel free to skip these questions and tell us whatever is on your mind today.
You can also let me know if you enjoy these journaling check-ins and i will adjust them for you.
Write a letter to your past self—the self that went through the loss or trauma—from your today self. What would you say to comfort yourself? What advice would you give? Offer your past self the acceptance and love that s/he needs.
What is the next thing you want to learn?
How would you like your life to change in five years? In 10 years? How would you like it to stay the same?
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Good Morning :)
What is the next thing you want to learn?
I want to learn how to be in the present. A lot of my trauma related symptoms are dissociative! It's really important to me. I'm also learning how to code!
How would you like your life to change in five years? In 10 years? How would you like it to stay the same?
I want to move away from where I live now & have a life that's more independent. I want to keep my dogs, fiance & build my relationships.
@crimsonTalker6672
Good morning :)
Learning to be present is a very important skill indeed. Have you found a method that you like or prefer yet?
Good luck learning to code, and I hope you are able to eventually move away <3
@crimsonTalker6672 hey crimson, sorry for the late response. i had an exam to study for today 
i am wishing you the best with learning how to be in the present more. do you have found any methods to stay in the present yet? and yay for looking for improvement, but also having some things in your life which you would like to stay the same in the next years
thank you for checking in with us.
Good morning...hope you all have an awesome day.
To my younger self... "it's not you, it's them."
Next thing I would like to learn? How to set up an online journal that my therapist can log into. That way I don't have to hand write or email... I think it would just be easier.
Where do I see myself in the future? That is a dark area in my mind, I can't even begin to imagine the possibilities at this point.
@TeenyTinyAppy
Good morning ^^ Thank you for checking in.
I know of a few sites where you can post things, but I'm unsure of any that would allow only your therapist to see. I hope you are able to figure it out <3
@TeenyTinyAppy good day teeny! hope you have an awesome day too,
thats indeed a lovely advice to give to your younger self. sometimes we just need to know that we are good the way we are, and that not you are the problem, but the others. and online journaling sounds like a great idea, i can understand why it would be easier! and thats okay that you do not know where to see yourself in the future yet sometimes we just need to trust ourselves and go with our flow and just be open-minded towards changes.
hope you are having a lovely weekend.
@AveryLove Hi beautiful Avery! I've been having a real tough time lately... I don't understand what it is but my emotions have just been running so high lately and I feel like I've lost all my motivation! I hate when I feel like this and I just want it to go away! I've been waking up in a bad mood which is just making things worse!! But you know what... typing all this out really helps me. I just got to read what I wrote and you know what the funny thing is? My problems aren't really that bad! Thanks for listening to me Avery! Have a beautiful day.
@baylinAnderson123
hey baylin <3 thanks for checking in. Sorry to hear you've had a hard time with motivation. I have been feeling similarly, but I believe we can both get through it!
@baylinAnderson123 hey baylin! i am really sorry to hear about how you have been feeling lately. From what you wrote, i can relate to these feelings and i can imagine it must be tough. Let us know if we can support you in any way. If you want to vent, i
@AveryLove Thank you Avery!
@AveryLove Avery, I think these journaling check-ins are so cool and powerful. We should definitely consider continuing to do them. Feel free to message me if you ever need any input or ideas. All the best, Jules
@SparklingSnowflake15
Thanks for the feedback! We're glad you like them <3
@SparklingSnowflake15 hey jules! thank you for your feedback, i am so glad you enjoy them! i will make sure to continue them and pm you for new ideas 
1. Dear me,
Hey! What's up! Yes, I know. You don't have pizza face anymore! You also wear perfume, your hair is SHORT, wow! Your fashion sense finally arrived. Pretty wild, huh? You know what else is different? You're away from mom. You've got a real, healthy, relationship with a VERY handsome man-- and he's bi, too! Just like you! You're working in Hollywood on movies-- not making any art for them yet, but you're surrounded by supportive artist coworkers. You're more confident, you're wiser, you're happier, you're physically healthier. It gets better. I know it feels like an eternity right now, but one day it won't be. Hang in there. I love you, and I'm waiting for you.
2. Next, I'd like to learn better goal-setting and time-management skills. I'm working on it! Recently someone on 7cups introduced me to a SMART chart goal-setter, and it was really rad and mega helpful. I look forward to putting something in it.
3. Boy, oh boy. Long-term goal setting. I don't really have a skill for it, because living in an abusive environment really is a day-to-day survival kind of thing. It feels fake to me, to think about making a plan for 5 years from now. I'm learning to get better at it, though. I'm slowly learning.
CHANGE: In 5 years, I'd like to have finished my run as a PA, and started a creative job in entertainment. I'd like to have moved in with my boyfriend, and I'd like to have saved up a couple thousand dollars in my savings account. I'd also like to have built some credit. I'd like to have physically been in therapy for a couple years. I'd like to have lost some weight and built some muscle.
SAME: In 5 years, I'd like to still be with my boyfriend. I'd like to still be working on my artistic portfolio. I'd like to still be working on my mental health. I'd like to still be connected with my family.
Thanks for the introspective check-in :) I like journaling check-ins.
@betterchoices
We're glad you've enjoyed this check-in! I'm proud of you for performing the 5 year exercise even though it is difficult for you. Thank you for sharing <3 and I look forward to seeing you rock your SMART goals!
@betterchoices hello choices! that is such a lovely message to share with your younger self, i hope you were able to feel some movement while writing this. I am wishing you the best of luck with your SMART goals! let us know how it goes. and thats okay that you dont enjoy long-term goal setting sometimes its just best to be open-minded towards new possiblities and just go with the flow, wherever it takes you. thank you for sharing all these!
i hope you have a lovely weekend.
Just wanted to say hi...
@affectionateNorth4018
Hey North! *waves*
@affectionateNorth4018 hello north
Good afternoon
I am trying to figure o it how to stop my traumatic experience from bothering me daily.
in five years I would like to work at a daycare.
@sunshinegiraffe123
Good afternoon sun <3 Those are great goals. I hope you are able to achieve them.
@sunshinegiraffe123 hello sun! i hope that you are able to find some ways to maybe make coping easier for you. have you found any helpful coping methods yet?
@AveryLove
not really
@sunshinegiraffe123 we have some great resources on here for recovery, maybe you would like to check them out? https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/TraumaRecoveryResources_481/
@AveryLove
Thank you.