Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In Wednesday April 11th 2018
Gooooood morning/afternoon/evening everyone!!
How's your week going?? What has been the BEST part of your week so far??
Everyone else is being all serious, so I'm just here to provide some comic relief in the middle of the week! How does that sound? 😊
So share some jokes while you share your week, and enjoy the silly ones I found! 😊💜
How was your day/is your day looking/are you feeling today?
Feel free to stop in and say hi and let us know how you're doing 😊💜
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@BeeLeigh
Hi
you've got some great jokes in there!
Ive been feeling like crap, I'm stressed and anxious and as always that turns into anger and a messy behavior.. just literally wanna do things but cant f do them. Ugh i f need to study cause my finals are in less than 2 months and theres no motivation.. I'm thinking so negatively like I'm not gonna pass and If I dont then my life will be f miserable bc ill be living inthe same f enviroment which sucks af.
Am i that bad and useless person? Just the thought only makes me start crying.. I am good enough but i dont see it cause everything that is going on makes me so stressed... ugh I'm f sorry
@sensitiveShade5337
Oh shade, you are not a bad or useless person. You are caring, kind, brave and a beautiful soul.. *safe hugs* as many as you need.. Sending you so much love.. 
@calmLake1999
huggles appreciate your kind words ❤️
@sensitiveShade5337
they are all truths shade... Sending a truckload of huggles
@sensitiveShade5337
Hi Shade😊 I love @calmLake1999 beautiful response to your post. It's so true " You are a caring, kind, brave and beautiflul soul". You may not be able to see it Shade, but we can❤❤❤. It sounds as if you are being attacked by the "inner critic". That inner voice that sometimes tells us that we are not good enough ,and you are good enough Shade! You may find it difficult to accomplish certain tasks, but we all do from time time. This does not make you bad or useless Shade, it just makes you human❤ Sending hugs your way!
@Amandisa16
thank you! Huggles amandisa
@sensitiveShade5337 sending encouragment your way!
@sensitiveShade5337
Shade, hun, you're not bad or useless. You've been doing sooooo so well lately!! Your posts have shown such incredible growth!! I believe in you, and I think you're gonna do amazing on your finals! 💜💜💜
Hi Bee
My week has been full of a never ending fever.. however today I went to the doctors got myself partially fixed, lol though the fever remains.. I was also able to let go of the grief and guilt I have been holding for so long too in regards to friend who is sadly not with me anymore. I am feeling a little stronger and reflective now. Hmm jokes not sure I have any in me at moment, but thanks for the relief of something lighthearted 
@calmLake1999
Im so sorry to hear about your friend. Hugs if welcome. Sorry i dont have more to say im barely functioning today.
@Compassion21
hugs are welcome,, im sorry you are barely functioning and its ok to not have the words,, i often struggle with them,, sending you a bucket full of hugs if you would like them
@calmLake1999
Calm, grief is such a difficult thing to deal with, and I'm so glad you were able to release some of that! I'm also really glad you were able to get to the doctor and get some help to start feeling better! I hope your fever goes away soon hun! 💜💜💜
@BeeLeigh
Thanks Bee! i'm sure the fever will eventually fade 
, the grief is hard, im on an up and down now but I am letting the emotions wash over me..
@calmLake1999
I am glad Sounds like a pretty good day to me.
hey hey <3 thank you for the comics Bee <3
my week is going not so good.. having a lot to do for school and cant relax at all and feel very stressed and i feel like its not really good for my mental health...
best park of the week was i ate my favorite food today :D
how is everyone else doing? best wishes! <3
@Hope3729
Hi Hope😊 sorry to hear that this week has been a difficult week for you. I'm hoping that the next few days will be better for you, and that you will feel less stressed. You mentioned that you got to eat your favourite food today. I'm curious to know what that is 😊.
@Amandisa16 thank you! :) here in Germany we eat ,, Schnitzel a lot. Know what it is? 
@Hope3729
I know I know I know!!! 🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♀️
Soooooo good!!! 😊💜
@BeeLeigh
This makes me laugh. I am having a rollercoasterday today
@MaschaV this is so cute!
I know how rollercoasterdays feel :( if you need anything, remember, the trauma family is here for you!<3 best wishes
@MaschaV
Omg I love Calvin and Hobbes!! Awesome addition Mascha!! Sorry to hear you're having a rollercoaster day, those can be so difficult to deal with! Just keep telling yourself it'll go away like it always does 💜💜💜
@BeeLeigh I think they are awesome too.
It has been terrible today. Thought I was finaly okay until I woke up just now. 3 am. Terrified of something I can't grasp yet. I have to go to work tomorrow and I am just a mess.
I need to try to go back to sleep but I feel my adrenaline go crazy. Being tired at the same time. I am not doing well.
Thanks so much for the fun post!
I need to remember to find times in my day
to laugh and enjoy not being so serious.
Finding balance in my life is very healing.
@emotionalMaple9419 balance is the key :) <3 hope you are doing great and wish you an amazing day!
@emotionalMaple9419
I like to fall into what I call video holes on Facebook, and I can accidentally end up spending like an hour watching 2-5min videos of mostly animals and babies being adorable/funny lol! I also follow some YouTube channels that I find funny, and I have both Netflix and Hulu so sometimes I just throw on one of the half hour shows and let it autoplay while I do stuff. I hope you can find something that only takes a few moments to lighten your day! 😊💜
@emotionalMaple9419
I agree..... balance is very healing for me too. Thank you for the reminder
@BeeLeigh bee <3 <3 how are you doing today? :)
@Hope3729
Aww, thanks Hope!! I'm doing pretty well! Today was actually a good day for me! Yesterday was pretty rollercoaster-y, but it ended really well, and today's been going really well too so hopefully this sticks around lol!! 💜
@BeeLeigh
What an amazing check-in today 😁 I read it while I've been stuck at work and that gave me a great laugh, so thank you very much 😊
I think you're absolutely right, we really just need to laugh sometimes or be silly, even if everything around us is horrible and this dark cloud hovers over us, it's amazing to see that we're still able to enjoy such little things 😊
@courteousNorth5140
Absolutely North!! Sometimes you just gotta take a step back and relax with something that makes ya laugh!! 😊💜
I appreciate the jokes.I stayed up until 4am last night. Then today slept most of the day away, i need to start getting to bed mabey around 9 at night and up in morning over next few days but its hard especially to be on differant schedual than my man. Something really really sad happened the other day so i havnt been posting. I cant even say what happened yet because its hard to face facts and think about it. Ive been crying for days. My man told me ask for sometime off work so I got that. I am trying to clean but need to calm down on that and mostly focus on self care. I feel so horrible today! My body feel as if I didnt sleep.
@Compassion21
Aw hun, I'm so sorry to hear that!! Please take some time for you and just relax with a nice comedy or something! If you have a streaming service, I like to binge watch sitcoms when I'm not doing well. It works really well for me for self care! I hope you can get in a nice break for yourself, and I hope things start to look up for you soon 💜💜💜
@Compassion21
Im so sorry to hear that *safe hugs* hope you can find some time for self care.. Sending you much love and positive vibes.. Bedtime routines are hard to shake I find.. Im often up for days at a time then crash... Hoping you are able to sleep better tonight
@Compassion21
Oh, I'm so sorry! Whatever has happened, I just wish I could give you a hug! Well, here is a computer HUG!!!! I hope you can find ways to comfort yourself and I'm glad you were able to take off work. One more HUG!!! I'll be praying for you!
@Compassion21
Please take care of yourself as best you can, and don't be hard on yourself either
@BeeLeigh
I like some of those jokes Especially the chemistry one and the alligator one. I'm going to have to tell the chemistry one to my chemist uncle when I see him this weekend (if I remember -- I hope I do).
I'm doing okay today. I found out my dad has cancer, so it was a big day. The cancer is the "least dangerous" kind, which is a blessing. He doesn't have a timeline, or anything like that. It's weird to me, that I can be old enough for my dad to be growing old and having cancer, and that I can still be sorting through trauma that happened with a teenager. I thought I would have been done with it sometime by my mid-twenties. I think I kind of always thought that life would magically get better one day and truly "begin". I didn't think that life would simply keep continuing on. This, here... might be as good as it's ever going to get. And that might be okay. It's weird to be thinking that way.
Is that my depression talking? I don't know anymore. Am I even depressed? Maybe I might not be.
The best thing that's happened to me so far this week is that I had a lot of fun yesterday training for my new photography job For the first time in my life, I actually feel like I'm "working" at a job I'm getting paid for.
@singercrystalspirit
trauma that happened as*** a teenager
@singercrystalspirit
*safe hugs* im sorry to hear your dad has cancer, my thoughts are with you.. It could very well be a lifetime of healing from trauma I think but every step we take, we become stronger.. You are very resilient and strong! I am happy to hear that you had fun your training for work, work is much more rewarding when it is something that can be enjoyed as well
@calmLake1999
Thank you *takes safe hugs*
Isn't it crazy to think that a "relatively short" time of wounding could take so long to heal? I guess in my case, though, it wasn't so short of a time of wounding. It was pretty long. Sometimes I think I would have preferred one deep acute wound, to heal it and be done with, rather than the long, chronic, lower-grade but still incredibly painful wounding I've been through.
(File that away, self, for your next adventure incarnating)
I think you are right... I must be very resilient and strong. I guess. Sometimes it's hard to realize any wounding even happened to me, because either the people who did the wounding are disappeared and gone, or, they're still in my life doing the wounding and it isn't stopping or being fully acknowledged. So sometimes I think maybe it isn't even trauma.. maybe it's just normal life, things everyone goes through. I really don't know.
Yeah I hope work continues to go well, I'm really worried about it for multiple reasons.
What do you do for work?
@singercrystalspirit
I work in dementia specific aged care...
For me healing from trauma my first step was acknowledging that what was happening was not "normal" as I was led to believe. I don't think it matters how short or long the trauma is. Everyone's reaction and healing are unique to the the individual. There is nothing wrong with taking it slow working through trauma and undoing what was programmed into the brain. I like to believe that everyone is able to heal from their trauma and the strength it takes to get through it is unbelievable. But each step we take is a step to taking our life back and living outside of the trauma. You truly are strong resilient stronger because you are still here with us still reaching out and still offering compassion and love to others. Hope you have a good night I am off to work 
@calmLake1999
That sounds like a demanding job
*Sighs*... Thank you I think... but see, then I think, who on the face of this planet DOES have a "normal" childhood and upbringing? Does anyone? Think of all the orphans who don't have parents. Think of all the children who do have parents and who are abused by their parents. Think of all the children who are abused or undergo trauma by someone outside of the home. I mean, when you list out everything, I feel like MAYBE 5-10% of adults did not undergo any traumatic events as children. And then we call that 5-10% "normal"?
@calmLake1999
But then again, in the past I have felt like other people used that as an excuse TO mistreat me. Saying "well nobody is perfect" (which is the equivalent of my saying "what's normal?"). So... but see, I know I have a point, too. So how do we figure out how not to get abused, while also realizing that life IS indeed full of pain and it's just a part of life? That is something I've been chewing on lately.
@calmLake1999
I hope you had a good day at work I had a tiring day at work, and I expect another of the same tomorrow! But not a bad kind of tired, just... tired.
@singercrystalspirit
My thoughts are with you as you take time to be there for your dad, wishing you both healing in your respictive struggles.
@Compassion21
Thank you That was so sweet of you. Thank you so much.
This is a good way to distract people and make peoples day! Good job!
