Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In Wednesday March 28th 2018
Hej alle! It's a beautiful morning here, peaceful and quiet.This morning my mind is quite busy. There is always much going on in our lives, and it can be dizzying. I havn't always been so fortunate to live in such a beautiful place, but I always carried it's dream.
We have discussed our secret special places where we can retreat to, but what can we do when we can't physically go there?
Many of us carry objects with to help us keep grounded and calm. For me I seek the grace of little things. A warm wind, the Sun on my face, a bird soaring in the sky. for me there is no set thing, but a world of beauty I have learned to see through my pain, fear, and confussion. When I am somewhere I can't see these things I can always dwell there in my mind.
So what do you do to find a moment of peace when you can't go to your special place?
Just what's on my mind this morning, what's on yours? This space is safe and it belongs to alle of you, please feel free to use it. 
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@Raveninthelabrynth
Hey big sis and fab mama of chickens 
Well when I cant go physically on the place that i find peace and calmness, I stay on my room and try distracting myself. That can be playing a game on my laptop or sleeping. I also usually take warm shower and thats because its a way of relaxing for me.
My mind today is full of tiredness and thinking how exhausted i am. I have so much in my head tbh that I dont know which one to start with..
Have a nice day trauma fam!
@sensitiveShade5337 Chicken Mamma??? lol
@Raveninthelabrynth
I never said chicken mama i said fab mama of chickens Dont get offended fab big sis raven
@sensitiveShade5337 it cracked me up hard
an to you too little sis
@Raveninthelabrynth
Does that mean it made you laugh? If yes then I'm glad! 
@sensitiveShade5337 Yeppers, sure does.
Crack is an Irish term. Ye would ask someone "hows the crack?" it means did you crack a smile/ ar ye having fun?.
@Raveninthelabrynth
Haha niceee! Teach me more I'm a good learner even if i forget things lol
@sensitiveShade53
Hil Shade❤, warm showers are reallying relaxing for me to, particularly if I have bought a really nice smelling shower gel. When you live with other people, sometimes the bathroom is the only place where you can get some solitude!
@Amandisa16
Oh god yes, it can be the only place you can find some piece when you live with a lot of people. I can so relate on that and I'm glad to hear you find it realxing also :)
@Raveninthelabrynth
I sing, if I have the chance. That always works.
If I am in a crowd I will try to hide in a good memory.
Taking a shower is relaxing too.
@MaschaV Ooh I love to sing too!
I sound like a puck goat, but I love to sing anyways 
except in Trauma Support Karaoke lol
@Raveninthelabrynth hahahah, maybe in a duet then? You just playback, I'll cover you
@MaschaV
Hi MaschaV😊l love the concept of "hiding in a memory". Do you use this when trying to ground yourself? or when in uncomfortable situations?
@Amandisa16 Mostly when I am uncomfortable, hoping I can prevent needing to ground. When I am in need of grounding it is hard to even think straight.
@MaschaV
Ahh I see! It sounds like a great way of dealing with feelings of uncomfortability. Also forces you to focus on all the good stuff that has happened in your life.
@Amandisa16 It works really well for me. I really dread feeling or thinking negative thoughts. I am learning now that it is okay to allow feelings, even if they are not all positive. That is my struggle.
@MaschaV
Yes it is okay to allow negative feelings or emotions. If I surpress negative emotions, they start to build. If not released at some point, it can lead to an emotional outburst!
@Amandisa16 I don't know where my emotions go, they are hiding I guess.
@MaschaV
That idea of hiding in a good memory is brilliant! 
music has an amazing ability to help with being present or just being a release. Im happy to hear that you enjoy singing. Hope you are well x
@Raveninthelabrynth I don't really have a special place. I just go to my room when I want to be alone though that doesn't always work. I guess when I think about it, this website is where I always feel the safest.
@FangsInsanity The Cup is one of my sanctuaries too
@FangsInsanity
It' great that you feel safe here☺
@Raveninthelabrynth
I miss having chickens. Love their sounds. I can mimic a chicken pretty well. XD Simply love watching them and just being there.
My secret place exists in my mind since I don't really have anywhere to go physically. I already mentioned the forest with the hunting tribe who welcomes me as one of their family. But today I find that I can't go to that place. Had some really stressful financial stuff occur at my university- I hate loans. X_X; My account keeps being put on lockdown because my loans are processing or some such thing, I talk to them about it. It gets resolved and then give it awhile, BAM same thing. I'm really not doing well today. In this state of near panic and feeling like I'm gonna throw up or cry. Maybe all of the above. Part of me wants to quit because I'm sick of this BS.
Got up the initiative to e-mail them and begin resolving it myself. I'm going through a lot lately... I guess the question was what I do when I cannot access that secret place? Video games, reading, watching a movie, playing with the kitties. Being somewhere warm helps. Sometimes I'll go off into a room and sit next to a heater with the cats. Or take a bath...with the cats. C_C; Staring at me.
@CaloenasNicobarica sorry for your woes with scoil my friend. Don't take that so hard, it's really on them. Look at what you have to do as if it too is homework and just get it done and move on.
So many times I too bave been so stressed that I can't find my sacred place. At times like this it help if we think of our sacred circles in a context. Start with remembering a good time you were there, see it, go there. 
@CaloenasNicobarica
*hugs* cal. Sorry your going through rough time with uni. Much love. and sending you some of my positively today
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@Raveninthelabrynth To calm myself down I always have some small item to keep in my hands with me. Most of the time it's just a hair tie, but it really calms me down, when I become stressed.
@sincerePark336That's cool park, I cary a few things with me too
I'm new, so I'm just going to jump in? Hope that's okay.
I usually go to a comforting place I have been in my mind, or I try to get lost in texting someone safe. If I am really overstimulated/overwhelmed then I tend to go to a bathroom and plug my ears while doing some deep breathing for a few moments. Tend to feel a lot better after.
@zeemie Welcome to the Trauma Survivor Family Zeemie. Absolutely perfect to jump in anywhere you feel comfortable.
Glad you have yourself a place and thing to retreat to when needed.
Hey hey!
I often have a nice warm shower or learn new songs on my guitar and sing a lot - it helps me to express my emotions and to calm down a lot.
Saw many great methods here, glad to be part of such an amazing community! Take care everyone! ❤️
@Hope3729 Indeed Hope many cool tricks and tips here.
Glad you have your own as well.
Today has been a very peaceful day for me. I stopped my online Therapy yesterday. Kind of feeling a bit lost knowing she is no longer there to listen to my rantings. She was a very good Therapist and I think she felt that I was ok too. Not the basket case my other Therapist made me feel like. No harm intended about my first therapist. We just were not a good match for one another.
I feel a bit more confident in my abilities to hold my self together now. This is all due to all the wonderful people here at 7cups who have stood by my side when things were spiraling out of control for me. I don't have much family but this community has been Amazing. This is My special place and I hope that I can do the same for even just one person here. I hope for more but just to reach one person with the Love and Compassion I have felt would be wonderful.
@scarletPear1945
Hi Scarlet❤ yes when looking for a therapist it is important to find the right match. Someone that you feel comfortable with. I'm so pleased that you have felt supported at 7 cups. Thank you also for the way you have supported others here, and for your bravery in telling your story. I am sure that you have already touched many hearts💞
@scarletPear1945 I understand. I would love to have a good match therapist too, it's tricky to find!! I bet you can find a lot of other good resources in the meantime
@singercrystalspirit
I have to LOL because I actually could not 7cups was the only place I found with this type of interaction
Today has been a very peaceful day for me. I stopped my online Therapy yesterday. Kind of feeling a bit lost knowing she is no longer there to listen to my rantings. She was a very good Therapist and I think she felt that I was ok too. Not the basket case my other Therapist made me feel like. No harm intended about my first therapist. We just were not a good match for one another.
I feel a bit more confident in my abilities to hold my self together now. This is all due to all the wonderful people here at 7cups who have stood by my side when things were spiraling out of control for me. I don't have much family but this community has been Amazing. This is My special place and I hope that I can do the same for even just one person here. I hope for more but just to reach one person with the Love and Compassion I have felt would be wonderful.
