How does your heart respond when you try to show it kindness or love?
It's often more natural to offer kindness to others. We know how to be caring, patient and understanding with people but giving ourselves that same gentleness can feel unfamiliar, even difficult.
What has your experience been like when you've shown kindness to yourself?
@BlueDarkAurora This is such a deep question. However, I agree that it is so much easier to be kind, caring, and loving to others vs to ourselves. I think for good reason too. At the end of the day we know the worst parts of ourselves that others may not always see. Behalf of that, we may find it difficult to be receptive because of guilt and shame or simply because we don't deserve it. But we are what we have to live with for as long as we are living, so we may as well learn to like and love and be kind to ourselves. ♡ Speaking for myself, thus was something I struggled with and had to learn to break. Now I can show myself kindness and grace and I don't have to be perfect to receive it. ♡ Thank you for making this post and making me think. 😀
@YourCaringConfidant ❤️❤️
@fossilfellow Thank you for that. No words need spoken, but I just wanted to let you know I appreciate that.
@YourCaringConfidant "Now I can show myself kindness and grace and I don't have to be perfect to receive it." Love what you said here 💕 This is one of the hardest peaks to climb and I'm so glad you're now able to show yourself kindness and grace and actually recieve it ^-^ I agree with what you said, I think that's also why it's so difficult to find self forgiveness.
I hope you continue to share even more love and kindness with your heart, it deserves it for being so loving and sweet 💖
@BlueDarkAurora Awwwwww. ♡
@YourCaringConfidant
@BlueDarkAurora That’s so true… I’ve found that when I do manage to show myself kindness, whether it’s letting myself rest without guilt or just speaking to myself more gently, it feels a bit strange at first, like I’m doing something wrong. But slowly, I’ve started to notice how much it helps. It doesn’t come naturally yet, but I’m learning to treat myself like I would a friend who’s struggling. It’s a slow process, but I think that’s okay. How about you, what’s helped you offer yourself that gentleness?
@tealStrawberries1113 Showing kindness to ourselves is definitely a difficult step but once we adapt to this new journey, we begin to see all the beautiful flowers along the way. I'm so glad you're choosing to learn and grow on this path. I'm doing the same, the struggles are the same but the scenery definitely seems worth it 💗
@BlueDarkAurora
It is so much easier to show love to others. And to bounce off some of the comments made—the first thing I thought is “I know I’m being truthful to them, it comes from my heart.” As far as myself 😮💨 I really try to be cognizant of the self talk I provide. Right now I’m at a point where I say something positive and then the negative pokes its head through and continues back and forth. The activities that I try to do during the day that I enjoy, I don’t consider them self care, I feel as if it’s a way to avoid boredom. I journal gratitude lists and words of affirmations for practice and hope some day it sticks like glue!! 💛💛
@peachThinker662 Being truthful about the love and kindness you share is a sign that your heart deserves the same kind of purity 💗 Sometimes negativity becomes so familiar that the mind resist change, even when that change is the healing it needs. Maybe our inner self just needs time to realise that familiarity can sometimes be hurt disguised as comfort.
What you're doing is beautiful :) You're building a new kind of familiarity, one that is genuinely healing and positive.
Well I have been working on a lot of kindness to myself and self care due to a lot of truama happening in my life all at once. I have had no choice but to pour into myself given the circumstances. When u give more to others than urself people tend to take advantage and what has happened to me on a deeply deeply hurtful level I’m sure u guys all have experienced before. it feels foreign and it feels difficult. Your body ur nervous system everything wired to seek the external saftey even if it’s chaos. I’ve been watching lots of videos on letting go stoicism and a lot of jung been doing a lot of journaling and just watching how and wat to do to bring myself back to me and why I’m never there. Truama childhood society so many things. But u know what I’ve learned like I’ve always known just how strong I am how even this work I do it doesn’t feel major but I’m feeling the shift building the strength and nursing myself back to health. Knowing that the light I shine that people so desperately grab onto is right here in me and there’s nothing I have to gain I just have to find it in myself.
Honoring myself has been big respecting myself my boundaries letting myself feel and NOT judge myself for it say it’s okay say I’m here say your safe. I watch emotional regulation videos and nervous system resets. Listening to my body my subconscious and stopping the spiral the loop I dive myself into when I try to retreat to what hurts. But the peace I have when I follow what aligns is like a weight off my shoulders. But the fear of letting go is there and I acknowledge both but honor what is right. I cried all day today while working I couldn’t stop it even when I tried I’ve never experienced this before the immense amount of crying I have done. And I just let myself do it hard too. It won’t be perfect it won’t always feel amazing but u will always have this sense of peace and saftey security within yourself.
This is really insightful. I give you credit for all your hard work. With unwrapping trauma comes emotion. I often find myself avoiding to avoid the emotions that come with. I commend you. Keith up the great work 💖💖💖💖
@optimisticTown2637 That's such an insightful and thoughtful response. I really admire the care and effort you've given to your healing. And it makes me so happy that you've recognised the light within yourself 💖 I hope it continues to shine brightly and becomes a steady anchor for you.
You're right, not everyday will feel amazing. I'm really sorry that you had such a rough day. How are you feeling now?
Still sad lol the days is filled with highs and lows but I’m trying to trust the process thank you for asking 💜💜 and thank you so much for your response
@optimisticTown2637 Trust the process ^-^ That's a beautiful way to move through things. I hope your days are always sprinkled little moments of peace and calm 💖
@BlueDarkAurora definitely easier said than done 💖
@Tinywhisper11
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@Tinywhisper11 💕
@BlueDarkAurora
I haven't mastered it yet 🥺
I can give people love, kindness and compassion and genuinely be there for them because I know what they need and what it feels like but sometimes I feel Ive been hurt so deeply and wear my heart on my sleeve that I can never accept the same towards myself, a work in long progress 💜💕
@Amanda84
💖💖💖💖 love ya
@peachThinker662
Thank you 🥰
Love you too 💜💕
@Amanda84 It hurts to see kind souls like you struggle 💗 You're giving others the very kindness and care you long for.. The fact that you can give so much love even while your heart is still learning to receive it, says a lot about your strength and compassion.
I hope someday soon your heart begins to accept the love and gentleness it truly deserves 💕
@BlueDarkAurora
Thank you 💜💕
I just know no matter what, the only impact I want is to sprinkle as much love and kindness as I can 🥰
@Amanda84 💖 💕
I just try to be honest to myself.
@BlueDarkAurora
@Creamyyy Honesty with our own heart is so important. I hope it always keeps you grounded in your truth, your beliefs and the values that matter the most to you 💖