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7 Cups Behavior Reporting Process & Tracking - Updated Version
by ASilentObserver
Last post
2 days ago
...See more All, The post below outlines an updated behavior reporting process! We had originally launched this in 2016 and we are now updating it and re-emphasizing it as we move forward. Our objective to streamline the process and keep you well informed. Not many people struggle with a number of behavior points, but for people that do, we want to ensure that you can take steps to improve your behavior and be part of the community. We are figuring out the best ways to manage unhelpful & un-supportive behaviors on 7 Cups. Once you have reviewed the entire post, please ask any questions or share your constructive thoughts. This process is designed to provide you an opportunity to improve. We do not have any intentions to punish anyone but we do need to keep people accountable for their behavior. It is your community and how you behave, impacts it as well. Our purpose is to provide a better help & support and compassionate environment to all. We all want to be part of a community that fosters high warmth and high expectations. It is the best way to lead a community because everyone deserves support and compassion. Growing a plant, for example, requires a lot of effort, care, and the right treatment. Not every plant growth is similar but the basic process is somewhat the same. Suitable environment, the right proportion of soil, water, sunlight. Knowing the right conditions is significant for a seed to grow into a beautiful plant. Similarly for a community: If you have high warmth but low expectations, then structure or its culture is low. If you have low warmth and high expectations, then it has a structure, but limited reliability and safety. If you have low warmth and low expectations, then neither has a structure nor culture. If you have high warmth and high expectations, it has structure and reliability and safety. So here we are focused on providing both so that the community can have increased trust, support, culture, safety, and compassion. A few points to keep in mind when reading the below: * We believe in second chances. We know and understand no one is perfect and can improve. But, we need to understand when you have an opportunity to improve, you strive to improve and show that you improved. Value the opportunities you have. * We believe in inclusivity. We welcome all constructive feedback. Because we are also not perfect and striving to improve. Feedback is a two-way process. Ensure to provide feedback in a compassionate, constructive, and respectful manner. * We believe in accountability. Everyone is responsible and accountable for their actions. Because action has a reaction and impacts someone. We are in a community setup, so how you act impacts community activities. If you are supportive, the activities flow in a positive way. If you act unsupportive, the activity flow gets interrupted. * We believe transparency is helpful. As a community member, it is your right to know what is happening with the reports and how it gets processed. So, we want to provide better transparency in our actions in this system. However, there are also natural limitations too. We will not be able to share or disclose in detail with the community at large things that are happening on an individual basis. Because a wise person said, Praise in public, criticize in private. We want to give everyone a second chance to improve and feel encouraged to improve. The below behavior rating system has been specifically designed to meet the community's needs. We considered all inputs and tried to include all that was feasible to add. As you review this post, please remember this is a work in progress and always be updated as per the community's needs. Please share all constructive feedback, inputs, and ideas on what is missing or what does not make sense and what can be done. Introduction The aim of this guide is to provide information and to help you understand how the Behavioral Points System would work. What is the Behavioral Rating System? It is a process we would be used to assign points based on the infractions they did in the community at a point in time. Every time, they commit a violation, they will be getting points assigned and informed through email so they know what violations they did, and what points assigned to them for the violations. So they can have the opportunity to learn from the mistakes they made and improve. But if they do not improve and they cross the threshold, they will face consequences. This is modeled after other point systems like having a driving license in the US. If a person drives in a safe and smart manner (they are a good member), then they will receive no points. If they drive through stop signs, then they get a point. If they drive dangerously, then they get more points. If a person accrues enough points, then they are required to go to driving school. If they still do not improve then they can lose their license and no longer drive. It is a systematic process where all reports will be included for a user. How does it work? * The system will be applicable to both listeners and members. * Each behavior report or flagged forum thread will be evaluated using the below point criteria. Points are cumulative. * Each point expires 6 months after it was earned. * If no reports within three months from the date of action, an 80% reduction in the points. Note: One can be able to apply for a leadership role. This includes Mentor roles, teen star, group mod, peer support, and project agent roles. * If zero reports within a month from the date of action, 40% reduction in the behavior score. Applicability of the system: The process will be applicable moving forward. It won't consider past reports. Except for the reports which are severe. It will be up to the Community Management Teams' decision for those reports. How reports are filed? Reports filed via specific behavior reports: The incoming report will be reviewed by the concerned team. It will be reviewed for accuracy and if one of the below behaviors is identified the following actions will be taken: The authority sends a warning message to the reported user letting them know about the report. If the user would like to provide their side of the story, they will be invited to do that. Point(s) will be assigned if the user assumes responsibility for the action and agrees that it happened. The authority will let the user know the point has been assigned. If the user does not accept responsibility for the behavior and the evidence that the behavior did occur is clear, point(s) will be assigned. It is requested of all reporters that they submit relevant screenshots to prove their accusations for a user. All points will be tallied and tracked on the community management team's backend panel. Dates will be logged to monitor the timing. Please click here for more information on how to provide constructive feedback. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/CommunityGuidelines_1374/KeepingForumsWelcomingandSupportiveForumGuidelinesUpdate_229098/1/#2446886] You can learn more about triangulation here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenersOnlyForums_38/LaurasOffice_169/WhatisTriangulation3StepstoAvoidingStoppingitfromhappeninginthecommunity_35107/1/] Learn more about rumors spreading here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TeensOnlyClub_123/IarasStation_590/RumorsandGossipHowtoprotectourcommunityfromsuchbehaviorMemberSideedition_39670/]. Learn what open communication is here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/Guidesonhowtomanagesituationson7cups_1059/OpenCommunicationTipsTricks_26627/1/]. Important Notes: � All the behaviors identified above are common behavior identified in the specific areas. Though, if the same behavior is found in other parts of the community as well, the points and consequences will be applicable. Zero Points Behavior. They are applicable for the first instance only. If the behavior continues, the points will be assigned according to the severity of the reported behavior. Except for a few specific behaviors that are subjected only to listeners. All other behaviors are subject to both listeners and members of the community. Adult Teen Listeners- In case of violations, the badge and access will be removed instantly. Below you will find the corresponding consequences of the above behaviors. Red Flag Offenses: � Forum Spam - If you are repeatedly spamming the forums with inappropriate content or advertisements you or your account may be removed Post inappropriate or graphic pictures, your account will be removed Sexting and/or repeatedly sexting (after a given warning not to) will result in account removal Underage or in the wrong age community (you must be 15 to be a listener & 13 to be a member) Red Flag Consequences: Immediate removal from 7 Cups community Protocol on Getting Support from a community leader: If you are having a problem, you may approach a community leader for support on how to manage that situation. However, please refrain from telling them specific details. As a general rule when communicating with community leaders: we should avoid using names and specific details about a person or a given situation. For example, if you are having a conflict with another listener. You could go to the community leader and say I am struggling with a difficult situation. Could you give me some tips on how to use conflict resolution? In this example, no specific details are mentioned, but you are still able to ask for help as you work through a difficult situation. Footnote: The protocols are similar to earlier ones and shared from the previous update with few changes. Updated the constructive feedback point in accordance with the new forum guideline [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/CommunityGuidelines_1374/KeepingForumsWelcomingandSupportiveForumGuidelinesUpdate_229098/1/#2446886] on Sep 23, 2020 - Hope Link here to Heather's clarification post on BPS https://www.7cups.com/forum/SiteUpdates_100/HsHangout_1970/SomeclarificationonLLReports_230570/ Guidelines with better view available in the Community Guidelines page, Click here [https://www.7cups.com/community-guidelines/7-Cups-Behavioral-Points-System-70ccca9adfef4babba74119da05a91d4] [edited by MistyMagic to remove scripts and add in H's post 30 Oct 2020]
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Apply for the Safety Patrol Team! (Now Open to Listeners and Members)
by Heather225
Last post
August 20th
...See more Are you passionate about our community? Are you always looking out for the safety of others? We are looking for dedicated community members to scan for inappropriate profiles and flag them so they can be removed quickly and efficiently from the site! We are very excited to announce that members can now join the team! Here’s what being on the Safety Patrol looks like:: - Scan the browse listeners page [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/] daily and flag any inappropriate profiles - Scan the general request queue daily for inappropriate profiles - Scan forums or group rooms for inappropriate profiles - Be proactive to help flag any profile you have seen anywhere that is inappropriate How do we know if it's inappropriate? - Sexual or graphic profile picture - Sexual or graphic username - Sexual or graphic bio text - Profile bio text sharing social media handles, email Id..etc. Prerequisites & Expectations: ✓ Listeners: You must be a Verified Listener [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/VerifiedListenersProject_1839/IWanttobeaVerifiedListener_46935/1/] ✓ Members: You must be a part of the community for at least one month (no longer have the Newbie badge) ✓ You must be active on 7 Cups a few times a week (roughly an hour minimum) ✓ You will be required to read a document on best practices [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1vBXLvo7gLMewIM1lhnZ2g8MXAnq4sMwxqXgxzTJCDos/edit] and pass a test to prove your knowledge. ✓ Once you have read the guide in full and understand the material, apply and take the test here. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeiPkuyjGZs7x2NY5b1tgkO5QoRRiXzFFobMpHiWthKUxgaKg/viewform] Primary Points of Contact Team Leader: Rebekah Thank you so much for your interest in keeping 7 Cups a safe and supportive place! [ Updated by Rebekah on 4th January 2023 to display newer guide. ] [ Updated by Rebekah on 25th February 2026 to amend the leaders list. ]
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Community Safety Awareness: Listener Conduct, Soliciting & Offsite
by Heather225
Last post
August 11th
...See more Hi everyone, Your safety, privacy, and trust are the most important things to us at 7 Cups. You come here for a safe, supportive space to be heard, and we are committed to protecting that. We want to post a critical reminder about the rules our volunteer Listeners must follow. This is to ensure every member knows what to expect and what is never acceptable. Listeners are volunteers. Support is always free. 7 Cups Listeners are volunteers. They are here to provide empathetic listening and support, and they are never paid for their time. * A Listener should NEVER ask you for money, donations, or payment of any kind. * Listeners are strictly prohibited from soliciting or promoting any personal, paid services (e.g., "I am a therapist, here is my link, my sessions cost $X"). To protect your privacy and safety, all conversations with Listeners should stay on the 7 Cups platform. * Listeners are not permitted to ask you to move the conversation to an off-site, personal platform (like  Tele*gram WhatsApp,, social media accounts, or personal email). * If a Listener sends you a personal link to chat elsewhere, do not click it. This is a serious violation of our guidelines. Listeners are trained to listen. They are not therapists or healthcare professionals.  * A Listener's role is to listen, not to give diagnoses, medical advice, or tell you what to do. * Offering their own paid therapy service (as mentioned in point #1) is a severe violation of this boundary and our community's trust. If a Listener ever does any of the following: * Asks you for money or payment. * Tries to sell you a personal, paid service (like therapy or coaching). * Sends you a link to chat on a personal, off-site platform  Please take these steps immediately: * Do not click any personal links, disclose any of your personally identifying information (including your social media), or send money. * Report the Listener: Use our Helpdesk HERE [https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/requests/new/]. Make sure to add screenshots when submitting your report so the team has evidence to corroborate the report and take appropriate action. It's also important to understand that these rules are fundamental community guidelines. As such, they apply to members too. Review the Community Guidelines for all users to abide by HERE. [https://www.7cups.com/community-guidelines/] ------------------------- Thank you for helping us uphold these core principles and safeguard the 7 Cups experience for everyone!
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🤔Chatroom Rules - Teenified 🤔
by AnnaSilverberg
Last post
20 minutes ago
...See more ✨ Hay you wonderfuls! ✨ 💓🐑💓 Sometimes we need a refresher, a reminder of sorts of how important our rules are🤔  This post will hopefully help with that, tag your friends! 🥳  ‧₊˚ ⋅ ✦ ⊹₊˚‧︵‿₊୨ᰔ୧₊‿︵‧˚₊⊹  ✦  ‧₊˚ ⋅ 1. No caps yo! 🙂‍↔️ 2. Oy! No talking about triggering stuff.. eeek! 3. No bypassing the censor, unless you want to be bypassed from the room 🤨🤨 4. Remain supportive towards everyone, that's how we flourish and build 🌱 5. No sharing offsite info, nu uh! 🤨🤨 It is for your own safety! 6. Respect them mods, they deserve it ✨ 7. In crisis? We can't help, connect w/a hotline 😥 8. Nu uh! NO flirty stuff 😮‍💨 Including inappropriate lyrics/messages 🤨🫩 9. You ain't a spam, so don't spam yo!  10. Nooooo we do no advice giving, it's not safe dude! 🙂‍↔️ 11. Talking about someone not in the room? As if, nu uh buddy! 🙂‍↔️ 12. Do NOT make duplicate accounts, unless you want a duplicate ban 🤨🪦🤷🏻‍♀️ 13. Respect them boundaries 🙂‍↕️ & be respectful at all times ✨ 14. Oy! Some topics are a nu uh 🤨 politics, religion and hate are a no go!🤨 15. Don't talk about them personal issues on your listener account 😒 It's not allowed 🤨 16. No toxic positivity 🫩 It's never helpful and always harmful 😒 17. TCR/MCR is for light hearted chat only 🕯️ SR is the place for challenging topics 🙂‍↕️ 18. Behave! ✨  ‧₊˚ ⋅ ✦ ⊹₊˚‧︵‿₊୨ᰔ୧₊‿︵‧˚₊⊹  ✦  ‧₊˚ ⋅ Remember! Following the rules makes the room supportive for everyone🥹  💓🐑💓 Including you! 💓🐑💓 Ps. There might be rules added from the guideline list as needed
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🌟 Listener Safety Discussion: Sexual Topics 🌟
by TovaCares76
Last post
2 hours ago
...See more Hello, Listener Friends! 💙 Next Thursday, I will be hosting a discussion about something I know many listeners have questions about: taking chats that involve sexual topics.  I’ve noticed that some listeners aren’t always sure how to approach these chats. What is okay to engage with, where to set boundaries, when a conversation crosses a line, and what to do when you’re simply not comfortable continuing the chat. 📅 Thursday, September 17th ⏰ 2:00 PM EST 📍 Listener Discussion Room This discussion will be a chance for us to share experiences, talk through different situations, and discuss ways to protect our own boundaries while still providing a supportive experience for our members. We can also talk about recognizing situations that may require ending a chat or getting additional support. ⚠️ Please Note: This discussion will involve sensitive topics. Please take care of yourself and participate only if you feel comfortable doing so. The goal isn’t to tell anyone that there is one “right” way to handle every situation. Instead, it’s about learning from each other and becoming more confident in making safe, comfortable choices when these conversations come up  I hope to see you there! 🌸
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7 Cups Behavior Reporting Process & Tracking - Updated Version
by ASilentObserver
Last post
2 days ago
...See more All, The post below outlines an updated behavior reporting process! We had originally launched this in 2016 and we are now updating it and re-emphasizing it as we move forward. Our objective to streamline the process and keep you well informed. Not many people struggle with a number of behavior points, but for people that do, we want to ensure that you can take steps to improve your behavior and be part of the community. We are figuring out the best ways to manage unhelpful & un-supportive behaviors on 7 Cups. Once you have reviewed the entire post, please ask any questions or share your constructive thoughts. This process is designed to provide you an opportunity to improve. We do not have any intentions to punish anyone but we do need to keep people accountable for their behavior. It is your community and how you behave, impacts it as well. Our purpose is to provide a better help & support and compassionate environment to all. We all want to be part of a community that fosters high warmth and high expectations. It is the best way to lead a community because everyone deserves support and compassion. Growing a plant, for example, requires a lot of effort, care, and the right treatment. Not every plant growth is similar but the basic process is somewhat the same. Suitable environment, the right proportion of soil, water, sunlight. Knowing the right conditions is significant for a seed to grow into a beautiful plant. Similarly for a community: If you have high warmth but low expectations, then structure or its culture is low. If you have low warmth and high expectations, then it has a structure, but limited reliability and safety. If you have low warmth and low expectations, then neither has a structure nor culture. If you have high warmth and high expectations, it has structure and reliability and safety. So here we are focused on providing both so that the community can have increased trust, support, culture, safety, and compassion. A few points to keep in mind when reading the below: * We believe in second chances. We know and understand no one is perfect and can improve. But, we need to understand when you have an opportunity to improve, you strive to improve and show that you improved. Value the opportunities you have. * We believe in inclusivity. We welcome all constructive feedback. Because we are also not perfect and striving to improve. Feedback is a two-way process. Ensure to provide feedback in a compassionate, constructive, and respectful manner. * We believe in accountability. Everyone is responsible and accountable for their actions. Because action has a reaction and impacts someone. We are in a community setup, so how you act impacts community activities. If you are supportive, the activities flow in a positive way. If you act unsupportive, the activity flow gets interrupted. * We believe transparency is helpful. As a community member, it is your right to know what is happening with the reports and how it gets processed. So, we want to provide better transparency in our actions in this system. However, there are also natural limitations too. We will not be able to share or disclose in detail with the community at large things that are happening on an individual basis. Because a wise person said, Praise in public, criticize in private. We want to give everyone a second chance to improve and feel encouraged to improve. The below behavior rating system has been specifically designed to meet the community's needs. We considered all inputs and tried to include all that was feasible to add. As you review this post, please remember this is a work in progress and always be updated as per the community's needs. Please share all constructive feedback, inputs, and ideas on what is missing or what does not make sense and what can be done. Introduction The aim of this guide is to provide information and to help you understand how the Behavioral Points System would work. What is the Behavioral Rating System? It is a process we would be used to assign points based on the infractions they did in the community at a point in time. Every time, they commit a violation, they will be getting points assigned and informed through email so they know what violations they did, and what points assigned to them for the violations. So they can have the opportunity to learn from the mistakes they made and improve. But if they do not improve and they cross the threshold, they will face consequences. This is modeled after other point systems like having a driving license in the US. If a person drives in a safe and smart manner (they are a good member), then they will receive no points. If they drive through stop signs, then they get a point. If they drive dangerously, then they get more points. If a person accrues enough points, then they are required to go to driving school. If they still do not improve then they can lose their license and no longer drive. It is a systematic process where all reports will be included for a user. How does it work? * The system will be applicable to both listeners and members. * Each behavior report or flagged forum thread will be evaluated using the below point criteria. Points are cumulative. * Each point expires 6 months after it was earned. * If no reports within three months from the date of action, an 80% reduction in the points. Note: One can be able to apply for a leadership role. This includes Mentor roles, teen star, group mod, peer support, and project agent roles. * If zero reports within a month from the date of action, 40% reduction in the behavior score. Applicability of the system: The process will be applicable moving forward. It won't consider past reports. Except for the reports which are severe. It will be up to the Community Management Teams' decision for those reports. How reports are filed? Reports filed via specific behavior reports: The incoming report will be reviewed by the concerned team. It will be reviewed for accuracy and if one of the below behaviors is identified the following actions will be taken: The authority sends a warning message to the reported user letting them know about the report. If the user would like to provide their side of the story, they will be invited to do that. Point(s) will be assigned if the user assumes responsibility for the action and agrees that it happened. The authority will let the user know the point has been assigned. If the user does not accept responsibility for the behavior and the evidence that the behavior did occur is clear, point(s) will be assigned. It is requested of all reporters that they submit relevant screenshots to prove their accusations for a user. All points will be tallied and tracked on the community management team's backend panel. Dates will be logged to monitor the timing. Please click here for more information on how to provide constructive feedback. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/CommunityGuidelines_1374/KeepingForumsWelcomingandSupportiveForumGuidelinesUpdate_229098/1/#2446886] You can learn more about triangulation here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenersOnlyForums_38/LaurasOffice_169/WhatisTriangulation3StepstoAvoidingStoppingitfromhappeninginthecommunity_35107/1/] Learn more about rumors spreading here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TeensOnlyClub_123/IarasStation_590/RumorsandGossipHowtoprotectourcommunityfromsuchbehaviorMemberSideedition_39670/]. Learn what open communication is here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/Guidesonhowtomanagesituationson7cups_1059/OpenCommunicationTipsTricks_26627/1/]. Important Notes: � All the behaviors identified above are common behavior identified in the specific areas. Though, if the same behavior is found in other parts of the community as well, the points and consequences will be applicable. Zero Points Behavior. They are applicable for the first instance only. If the behavior continues, the points will be assigned according to the severity of the reported behavior. Except for a few specific behaviors that are subjected only to listeners. All other behaviors are subject to both listeners and members of the community. Adult Teen Listeners- In case of violations, the badge and access will be removed instantly. Below you will find the corresponding consequences of the above behaviors. Red Flag Offenses: � Forum Spam - If you are repeatedly spamming the forums with inappropriate content or advertisements you or your account may be removed Post inappropriate or graphic pictures, your account will be removed Sexting and/or repeatedly sexting (after a given warning not to) will result in account removal Underage or in the wrong age community (you must be 15 to be a listener & 13 to be a member) Red Flag Consequences: Immediate removal from 7 Cups community Protocol on Getting Support from a community leader: If you are having a problem, you may approach a community leader for support on how to manage that situation. However, please refrain from telling them specific details. As a general rule when communicating with community leaders: we should avoid using names and specific details about a person or a given situation. For example, if you are having a conflict with another listener. You could go to the community leader and say I am struggling with a difficult situation. Could you give me some tips on how to use conflict resolution? In this example, no specific details are mentioned, but you are still able to ask for help as you work through a difficult situation. Footnote: The protocols are similar to earlier ones and shared from the previous update with few changes. Updated the constructive feedback point in accordance with the new forum guideline [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/CommunityGuidelines_1374/KeepingForumsWelcomingandSupportiveForumGuidelinesUpdate_229098/1/#2446886] on Sep 23, 2020 - Hope Link here to Heather's clarification post on BPS https://www.7cups.com/forum/SiteUpdates_100/HsHangout_1970/SomeclarificationonLLReports_230570/ Guidelines with better view available in the Community Guidelines page, Click here [https://www.7cups.com/community-guidelines/7-Cups-Behavioral-Points-System-70ccca9adfef4babba74119da05a91d4] [edited by MistyMagic to remove scripts and add in H's post 30 Oct 2020]
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Discussion Writing -- We Need Your Help! 🦺
by Rebekah
Last post
Sunday
...See more Hello! Do you like writing? 📝 Hosting discussions? 🗣️ Being in the chat rooms/forums generally? 🗒️ Feel passionate about safety? 🦺 Want to combine all 4 of those things into 1? 💥 with us, you can! We need help with extending our Discussions branch of the Safety Team. What are the responsibilities? Good question! Here they are; * Hosting discussion content regularly, either in the forums or in the Safety Discussions room * Writing scripts, if necessary (to be done with Rebekah -- that's me!) * Being punctual (as in, turning up on time to host if in a room!) * Can dedicate at least 2 hours a month to the team (1 discussion per 2 weeks, for example) Don't want to join the team officially but want to help write the discussions? That's a-okay! Here are the topics we currently need help writing (will be updated with new topics/topics that have been completed will be removed): * Who Do I Contact? * Is This Profile Okay? * Why We Shouldn't Accept Donations * Safe Communication on 7 Cups * Issues With Downloading From the Internet * Most Chat Topics, for example; * Anxiety * Bipolar * Depression * Eating Disorders * OCD * Schizophrenia * Listening 101 * Forum Safety * Sextortion  * Opening Free Accounts * Handling Confrontation * Fake Profiles & Catfishing * Creating a Welcoming Room * Using the Same Username Across Different Websites * Oversharing Online * How to Handle Dependent Members * How to Handle Burnout * Identifying Inappropriate Users * How to Handle Inappropriate Questions * Safety Quiz All users who help with writing a discussion will receive +100 cheers! If you're interested, please comment which topic(s) you'd like to help with, and I will PM you with a Google Document for us to work on! 🌟💙 [ @Bookworm4 @carrotgoosoup @Rebekah @TovaCares76 @Bow64 @Coolvibes @izzyy528 @KindnessMatters2020 @LexListens2025 @MelodyoftheOcean @Oscarthecat3 @SafeEmbrace @tommy @TowardsTheR8Intent @AffyAvo @Always25 @amiablePeace77 @azuladragon34 @blissart @bobCatz @Carbonara134340 @cheerfulKiwi1776 @Cococaramel01 @comfortableVoice1124 @daydreammemories @Emleah77 @EmotionsListener @fruityHoliday63 @HealingAlien4444 @Hermionetps @incredibleRainbows2036 @Irise @Ivy229 @JammyWammie @Jenna @KatePersephone @kindheartedlily @KristenHR @Kristynsmama @LittleBirdie30 @Lou73 @lyricalStrawberry4547 @MeilleureAmie @MentalHealthMatters01 @MidnightRaven999 @MooshyMushroom @Orbix @positivePumpkin22 @sarakind @Sealiously @sereneMango2512 @SherifRiad @SkyeBanfeild @SomeoneWhoListen @SparkyGizmo @Sponge2 @StrawberryMusic1498 @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @Suryansh @sweetmikayla @usefulUnicorn @yellowflowersinthedark @yourvision ]
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Safety Outreach: Feedback
by Rebekah
Last post
Thursday
...See more Hi, everyone 🌟 Safety Team is having a productive start to 2026, it seems! 🦺 For a while now, we've been receiving feedback for Safety Outreach members after a successful (i.e. resolved) outreach message. I wanted to share with everyone the positive feedback that our lovely outreach members have received since August 2024 from December 2025. 🌞 ✨ izzyy528 ✨ "Izzy kindly explained what the concern with my bio was. It was an honest mistake and I think they realized that! Thanks Izzy!!" "Perfect! Very friendly and kind about the situation!" "They were super understanding and helped me fix it, I'm so grateful" "I am happy she noticed and was friendly but direct on the matter. Very polite and helpful. She helped me resolve an issue i had with looking for mentors and made me trust on 7cups to be actually active. Nice meeting her😊🩷" 🌱 TovaCares76 🌱 "She was polite and an explanation was offered. She is such a wonderful person" 🌊MelodyoftheOcean🌊 "They were nice and understanding" "Explanation was kind and understandable, and they kindly explained and answered my questions and ended chat amazingly too." "Their outreach was polite, professional and very friendly." "While writing the bio I actually didn't noticed that I might be sharing my too much personal information, the team member politely reached out to me, I'm really glad that safety team reached out to me" 😺 Kieran000 😺 "It was a very respectful and straight forward connection. Made it clear why there was a violation and asked if it can be dealt with." "I really appreciate the outreach and the care taken to ensure I followed the guidelines. The explanation was clear, and I now understand why having my university name in my bio was an issue. They were kind and informative, and I felt supported rather than just corrected. It’s great to see people looking out for the community in such a thoughtful way. Thank you!" 🐧 coolvibes 🐧 "Very straight-forward and kind." 🌞 Rebekah 🌞 "Rebekah had kindly explained about the concern regarding my bio which I entered initially while making a profile not knowing it would be visible publicly! She was really quick and helpful in letting me know what to do to amend it." "I thought Rebekah was very polite, professional and friendly! I am very satisfied with the way they handled the situation." "Rebekah was very informative and helpful, i was informed of my profile picture being in violation of 7 Cups Community guidelines, i was grateful for the message i got from Rebekah! i appreciate constructive criticism and the fact that this great community of 7 Cups has guidelines and standards to abide by, making for a healthy environment!" "Was kind" "Yes, they were very clear when they explained the issue that was occurring. I felt respected, and they were very kind to let me know what was going on. All of my questions were fully answered." "Rebekah was honest at well meaning and came across in a very collaborative way that for someone with autism was deeply impactful. This compassion is rare and she is one of your best. As someone typically stubborn, I would change my profile any time if everyone had the moment to explain like she did." "She was incredibly sweet & kind matured with her approach she was extremely passionate about safety & dedicated to ensuring that guidelines were being met. She explained things in an understandable way that didn't feel threatening or scary but served as a gentle reminder that was easy to comply with & she left me wanting to create more safety." "Yes, a valid explanation was offered while also being super nice about it." "She was really friendly and welcoming. She explained what needed to be changed and why, and overall she was very professional about it. I appreciated her approach and how easy she made it to understand what to fix." "I felt helped" ""Rebekah has been quite kind and understanding. She not only explained in a clear manner but also guided me. Thanking her for the support." "Very professional and easy message was delivered to me. Thank you." 🦅 Phoenixthepoised 🦅 "I was explained what certain violations found in my bio. It was conveyed in a very professional way. I had a good experience." "Phoenixthepoised messaged me to welcome me to 7cups and introduce themself, then said I should not offer to give advice to people in my bio. There was a explanation about why I should not have that in my profile and I understand. They reached out about the issue in a kind and polite way." 🥕 carrotgoosoup 🥕 "Yesh, it's good and they are very kind" "it was kind" "They were very polite and considered my opinion and also suggested a better way to solve the issue" "They were very clear and polite." "The outreach was appreciated as it offered an explanation for the issue, answered my questions, and provided resources for further understanding. 👍" "Yeah,they were very nice,explained everything thoroughly and they were always there to help." 🌿 KindnessMatters2020 🌿 "Great" "They were to the point and helpful!" "it was so helpful" 🌞 Thank you to our amazing Safety Outreach members, both past and present. As of January 3rd, 2026, the outreach branch member list is as follows: @Rebekah, @carrotgoosoup, @Coolvibes, @daydreammemories, @KindnessMatters2020, @izzyy528, @MelodyoftheOcean, and @tommy 💙🌟 As always, we are looking for users to join Safety Team as a project agent! We would also love it if current Safety Patrol users could get in touch about joining either the outreach or discussions branch of Safety Team 🦺 Once again, thank you to everyone 💙🌟🦺
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Safety and reporting
by RoxieFae18
Last post
September 10th
...See more Idk if this particular listener got blocked or reported cause I wasn't able to but his name is endearingWatermelon3705 he was being very inappropriate to me so if anyone could report him for me that would be appreciated
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Mods are Human
by carrotgoosoup
Last post
September 8th
...See more Hello wonderful friends! I hope you all are well as we're entering September 🌞🌻 It's time for another safety discussion and today's topic is: 💁Mods are Human🧕 Why talk about mods being human? We can forget that 7 Cups moderators are actual humans and not another bot on the internet 🤖. Moderators, or mods, are one of the essential roles in 7 Cups that support structure and safety. Knowing moderator roles and responsibilities and reviewing that they are people too, can help everyone know how to access support and treat moderators as fellow human beings 💗. A unique aspect of 7 Cups is that we are all humans (okay, except for Noni). All moderators and listeners are real people behind a screen. A human touch 🫶 on 7 Cups means that moderators bring in active listening skills, empathy, and consideration to both listeners and members. Alright, what do moderators do? These are some of the many things moderators do: * Monitor conversations in chatrooms to make sure they are respectful and safe 👀 * Addressing any harmful (e.g. offensive content, harassment) chats through warnings, muting, or deleting messages 🙅 * Encourage engaging conversations in support rooms 🗣 * De-escalate conflicts in group support chat 🤝 * Opening and closing special chatroom spaces 🚪 What kind of moderators are there? There are four types of moderators! All moderators: * Encourage safety and a positive environment in group rooms  * Open & close discussion pop-up rooms.  * Use moderator tools as needed to ensure safety in rooms 🦋Community-Centered Moderators: These moderators can moderate 1-2 chatrooms based on their subcommunity group. 👥Community Moderators: These moderators are paid and employed by 7 Cups to make sure there is coverage in support rooms at all times. They are identifiable through their username: they have the term mod in their name such as "CommunityModJennie", "CommunityModLucy", and "CommunityModIris."  🌏Global Moderators: These moderators can moderate every group room (excluding listener rooms). 👂Listener Chatroom Moderators: These moderators can moderate in listener specific rooms. They are identifiable in a chatroom when they have a “mod” label under their username and a mod badge in their profile. What are some things I can ask a moderator? Here are some example questions you can reach out to a moderator about: 1. "I'm hosting a game for listeners in the Listener Community Room in half an hour. Could you please open the room for me when you have time?" 🙂 2. "Help! There is an argument happening in (room). Could you please help de-escalate the situation?" 😱 3. "Oops. I accidentally pasted personal information into the group chat in (room). It was a complete mistake. Can you please remove that information?" 😥 What does this mean for me as a member or a listener? 1. Ask for help from a mod if you're encountering a situation in a room ✋ 2. Take time when talking with a mod, as if you're speaking to another person (because you are!) 🌟  3. Treat mods with respect and love (and thank them for their help!) 🥰 Helpful Links: Group Support Moderator role: https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/Archives_1890/GroupSupportModeratorRole_33260/ Community Mod Schedule: https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/CommunityModeratorsLounge_2143/CommunityModSchedule_318786/ Questions to Consider 🦺 1. How can I remind myself that mods are human too? 2. How has a mod helped me recently (without mentioning usernames)?
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Safety Patrol: Cheers and Top 5 Flaggers! ✨
by Rebekah
Last post
September 2nd
...See more Hello everyone! I hope you're doing well 🌞 This will be our main forum thread detailing when cheers have been awarded, and our Top 5 Flaggers! It will be updated on the 1st of every month. So, this space is quite important for Safety Patrol team members. Maybe 'subscribe' to this page and keep an eye on updates from Safety Patrol leaders! PPC (Primary Points of Contact); - Ambassador: Rebekah [https://www.7cups.com/@Rebekah] - Admin: B [https://www.7cups.com/@Bookworm4]ookworm4 [https://www.7cups.com/@Bookworm4] - Community Manager: Heather225 [https://www.7cups.com/@heather225]
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Your Feedback is welcomed!!! Online bullying Brainstorming Exercise
by Rain45
Last post
September 1st
...See more Technology and social media is all around us and can be used to great effect, however things can easily turn and you cant always press undo Believe it or not, kids are not the only victims of cyberbullying. Adults can just as easily become prey to bullying through these means. Just because words are online doesnt mean it doesnt have the power to hurt and to drive some to contemplate suicide. Im sure there are many of us on cups who have met our fair share of supporting members and listeners who have been bullied in some shape or form. But there is a lot of ignorance when it comes to online bullying, what is it, what constitutes it, is it that bad, is it that traumatic and so on. Wed like to overcome the ignorance that surrounds online bullying and would like to begin by asking members and listeners to begin brainstorming this simple task of how they perceive online bullying to be, and subsequently, the impact this has. It wont take much of your time up and so if you have a few moments we kindly ask to spare a little of this. We would like to ask the following: Why do people get bullied online? What does online bullying behaviour look like?. What sets bullying apart from other online behaviour? Eg A pattern of repeated aggression.(Bullying is rarely a one time thing Have you been a witness of online bullying? How did this feel for you (without giving identifying details) What ideas do you feel could be considered to tackle online bullying? We will come back to you after time enough time has been given for you all to provide information on this topic and we will are planning an anti-bullying event currently to take place on cups for anyone who would like to take part when it happens. More information will become available nearer the time. #traumasupport #bullying #7cups #breakingthesilence
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For All Victims of Bullying ❤
by 221Skye
Last post
September 1st
...See more Bullying is aggressive hurtful behaviour against someone, involving a complete imbalance of power. It is terrifying. It makes victims crumble, and cry and collapse. Its even debilitating. Its completely despicable, and no one deserves it. Not a single person. It kills nearly 13 million kids each year. It is serious. How to identify bullying? ✑ It is when someone or a group of people TARGET you and make you feel bad about yourself or hurt. ✑ It is NOT just physical. ✑ Other types of bullying: ◊ Verbal bullying such as name-calling and homophobic remarks ◊ Psychological/Covet bullying such as rumour spreading, social aggression and unkind mimicry ◊ Cyber bullying such as imitating someone online/deliberate mocking texts etc. ✑ ANYONE can bully, and ANYONE can be bullied. ✑ "The bully is bigger" is a myth. Physical size is inconsequential when it comes to bullying. ANYONE can bully, its highly psychological and the bully doesnt need to be physically intimidating/bigger 10 Things to Remember When Youre Being Bullied ➊ REGAIN CONTROL, by recognising that you ARE being bullied. ➋ BREAK THE SILENCE. Dont lock it all up, talk about it with someone, let people know youre being bullied. Bullies thrive off control~ take that away. ➌ DONT ISOLATE yourself, as much as you want to and even if its the natural response of most. Surround yourself with your friends, people you trust, people whove got your back. ➍ DONT REACT OR RETALIATE. This is important, bullies do their thang to get a reaction, to see you rise to the occasion, and thrive off the power. Dont show that they're affecting you. ➎ GET HELP. You dont have to do it alone, tell an adult~ Its not tattling. Its telling, its standing up for yourself. If not someone you know, then a helpline (hotline 1 [https://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/GetHelp/LifelineChat.aspx] / hotline 2 [https://www.121help.me/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=31&Itemid=104]) However strong you are as a person, you are not immune to mental health issues. Excessive stress and pent up anger from bullying can lead to depression etc. So, there is NOTHING wrong with seeking help. ➏ LET IT GO. Bottling up anger, frustration and guilt will come back to bite you in the long run. Scream out your lungs, Punch a pillow, throw your stuff around (err safely.) or tear up some paper. Whichever way works for you <3 ➐ Find some ZEN ~ write, draw, sing or talk to the birds (err, I mean walk into the forest and chill. But go right ahead if youre Snow White xD) ➑ DOCUMENT everything. Make a log of all bullying activity, where, when why… 5W1H it ;) It will come in handy later. ➒ Understand that allegations, accusations and insults do not reflect who you are. If anything, they reflect the bullys own misgivings and insecurities. YOU ARE NOT WHO THEY SAY YOU ARE. ➓ Remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE. It is a common, and widespread problem. Millions like you are suffering under it. You dont deserve this. No one does. If your friend/loved one is being bullied ☂ BREAK THE SILENCE ~ ask how theyre doing with the bullying, give them a space to talk. ☂ RESPECT THEIR SPACE. Understand that they might not want to talk about it sometimes. ☂ Accompany your friend as they travel, if you can. Stick with them, show them they are not alone. ☂ Remind them they do not deserve it and it is nothing to be ashamed of. ☂ TELL THEM THEY ARE AWESOME AND WORTH IT. Counter the bullys words with your own <3 If you have been bullied, share with us how you got through it ❤ If youre being bullied, how do you cope with it? ❤ If your friend is being bullied, how do you help? ❤ Remember, you are not alone, and we are always here for you. ❤ This week is Anti-Bullying Week, and 7cups has many coolio activities for it. Check em out here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SpecialEventson7Cups_120/November2015AntiBullyingWeek_657/]! :D Tagging humans (cos I can. and cos I want to hear what you guys have to say ^-^ ) ~ @Alicattt @MelAllyouneedislove @amazingrea @NewRomantic677 @YayyySphere @MidniteAngel Tag anyone else you think might be interested in le new sub-forum too! <3
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Sharing Photos of Ourselves Online
by Rebekah
Last post
August 29th
...See more Hi everyone! I hope you've all been well 🌟 it's already the end of August. We're almost in the last third of 2026?! It's time for another safety forum discussion -- our topic today is sharing photos of ourselves online 📸 ------------------------- Why might people like sharing photos of themselves online? We do this for various reasons, including: * Self-expression 🌈 * Seeking validation 💙 * Connecting with others 🗣️ * Opportunity for positive feedback ✅ * Showcase interests/hobbies 🎨 * Boost self-esteem 💹 Sharing personal images allows us to present our identity, share experiences, or capture moments we feel proud of. What impact does the constant sharing of photos have on our self-esteem and body image?Constantly sharing photos on social media can have both positive and negative effects on self-esteem and body image. On the negative side, it often leads to social comparison, where individuals feel inadequate compared to idealized images, and the pressure to conform to beauty standards can result in body dissatisfaction 💔 Fear of judgment and reliance on likes for validation can lower self-worth. However, on the positive side, sharing photos can also serve as a form of self-expression and empowerment, especially when receiving support and positive feedback. Overall, how photo-sharing impacts self-esteem depends on how one engages with and perceives social media 📱 What are some of the potential risks or drawbacks of sharing photos online? Unfortunately, there are many risks posed here. For example: * Privacy can be infringed upon 🔏 * Our identities may get stolen 🪪 * Our photos may be misinterpreted (and might damage our reputation) 📉 * Photos may get shared to 3rd parties we don’t consent to 👥 * We could experience trolling, negative comments, or harassment ❌💬 How can we use social media to promote positive body image and self-acceptance? We can focus on following and sharing content that celebrates diversity in body types, looks, and identities, showcasing real, unfiltered images that emphasize authenticity over perfection. Supporting body-positive influencers and movements, engaging with communities that focus on self-love and mental health, and sharing personal stories of self-acceptance can help shift the narrative away from unrealistic beauty standards. Additionally, being mindful of the content we consume and setting boundaries around social media use can reduce negative comparisons and foster a healthier relationship with our bodies ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤍🖤🤎 Useful Links 🦺 Do You Think Online Anonymity Is Important? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyAwareness_2705/WeeklyPrompt1Doyouthinkthatonlineanonymityisimportant_310998/] Privacy Settings [https://www.7cups.com/forum/safe7cups/SafetyDiscussions_2702/PrivacySettings_380373/] Questions To Consider… * How can we protect ourselves and our privacy when sharing photos online? * What are your tips for becoming mindful of sharing photos online?
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Apply for the Safety Patrol Team! (Now Open to Listeners and Members)
by Heather225
Last post
August 20th
...See more Are you passionate about our community? Are you always looking out for the safety of others? We are looking for dedicated community members to scan for inappropriate profiles and flag them so they can be removed quickly and efficiently from the site! We are very excited to announce that members can now join the team! Here’s what being on the Safety Patrol looks like:: - Scan the browse listeners page [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/] daily and flag any inappropriate profiles - Scan the general request queue daily for inappropriate profiles - Scan forums or group rooms for inappropriate profiles - Be proactive to help flag any profile you have seen anywhere that is inappropriate How do we know if it's inappropriate? - Sexual or graphic profile picture - Sexual or graphic username - Sexual or graphic bio text - Profile bio text sharing social media handles, email Id..etc. Prerequisites & Expectations: ✓ Listeners: You must be a Verified Listener [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/VerifiedListenersProject_1839/IWanttobeaVerifiedListener_46935/1/] ✓ Members: You must be a part of the community for at least one month (no longer have the Newbie badge) ✓ You must be active on 7 Cups a few times a week (roughly an hour minimum) ✓ You will be required to read a document on best practices [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1vBXLvo7gLMewIM1lhnZ2g8MXAnq4sMwxqXgxzTJCDos/edit] and pass a test to prove your knowledge. ✓ Once you have read the guide in full and understand the material, apply and take the test here. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeiPkuyjGZs7x2NY5b1tgkO5QoRRiXzFFobMpHiWthKUxgaKg/viewform] Primary Points of Contact Team Leader: Rebekah Thank you so much for your interest in keeping 7 Cups a safe and supportive place! [ Updated by Rebekah on 4th January 2023 to display newer guide. ] [ Updated by Rebekah on 25th February 2026 to amend the leaders list. ]

🌟 Welcome! 🌟

Here at the Safety & Knowledge sub-community, our focus is on creating a culture of awareness and support. Please join us to learn how to keep yourself safe online!

See below some key aspects of our community;

Community Guidelines Series
Part 1 ---> Profiles
Part 2 
---> Behaviour
Part 3 
---> Account Safety
Part 4 
---> Boundaries and Behaviour
Part 5 
---> General Safety for Everyone


Quizzes
All Safety Quiz Events
Safety Quiz - 2024


Safety Team Information
Safety Outreach & Discussions
Safety Patrol


Team Leaders
Ambassador ---> Rebekah
Admin Oversight ---> Bookworm4

Community Guidelines

🌟Welcome!🌟

As this is our Safety sub-community, these guidelines are extra extra important! 🌟 here they are below;

1. Please be kind to all users. Forum posts/comments that attack or otherwise offend another user will be removed.
2. No offsite contact sharing. This is strictly against site rules.
3. Please stay on topic to the best of your ability!
4. Please keep confidential information to yourself. This means no sharing of usernames, messages in a 1-1 or a group setting, or any details about a member chat. Take any and all issues that you'd like to discuss in more depth to Rebekah.
5. Please try to post threads within the relevant sub-forum! We understand that this might not be easy, but posting a thread such as "Hello, I'm new!" would clearly not be suited to Safety Awareness or Teen Safety 🌞

Community Leaders
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Community Resources

Find any and all safety resources for 7 Cups here!