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what are some good and healthy distractions from my anxiety when it gets really bad?

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Last Updated: 06/26/2020 at 12:10pm
what are some good and healthy distractions from my anxiety when it gets really bad?
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M13
May 9th, 2016 12:17am
I used to struggle with anxiety and panic attacks myself and found it extremely helpful to do some grounding exercises. For example, when you are feeling really anxious, instead of gearing yourself up further in your own mind, focus on external stimuli around you to "anchor" yourself in reality. Focus on the taste of your coffee, the smells of your newly washed t-shirt, the feeling of your smooth cellphone screen, the sounds of the people around you on the street or in the office, etc. Go through all 5 senses and really ground yourself in the present moment. Focus hard on details. It is both a distraction technique and a grounding technique! I also found it helpful to count backwards from 200 in 3s...or something really challenging for my brain. Deep, belly breaths are best, even if they feel forced or awkward initially because you are so tense from anxiety. Lastly, another odd one I still use time to time is "giving in" to the feeling of anxiety. It can be helpful sometimes to accept that you are feeling anxious, tell yourself that this is not the first time, and that it always passes! Always! Then feed into the feelings. Try to make yourself feel as anxious/nervous as possible. Really try to get more butterflies in your stomach, or tense your muscles. Then just let it all go at once. Sometimes, the more we "try" to mimic being anxious, the more it fades away! :)
JolineKarateGirl
December 10th, 2014 12:25am
Listening to music..going out for a walk..writing down your emotions in a diary. Watching a movie to distract your mind
BrazilianShoulder
September 28th, 2016 3:21pm
Dear friend, Feeling anxious is a very common thing, however there are those who experience it in a stronger level. Here at 7Cups we have some great mindfulness exercises, why don't you givem them a try? Here's the link: http://www.7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness111/ If you feel like it, let me know later. I would love to here from you again.
lee92
December 9th, 2014 7:57pm
When I find anxiety is starting to take over, I read, watch TV or talk to a good friend. Other ways of coping I find useful are breathing exercises. Breathe in through your nose for 7 seconds then out through your mouth for 11 seconds and repeat a few times and you might feel a little better.
Erynn
December 14th, 2014 3:00am
I advice googling Grounding Techniques, because there are far more than I can list here. But, what I do is: Breath deeply a few times; repeat a reassuring phrase or quote to myself; count up and down from 100-0-100 repetitively; look around the room and label what I see; listen quietly and notice everything I can hear as far away as i can hear too; touch something and really notice it's texture; go for a walk; journal about your anxiety and THEN fill at least one page with something positive... these are just my favorite options. Come up with a list of 3-5 things to try and keep it close for when you are anxious. Update the list as you find out what works and what doesnt.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2016 10:36pm
I think it depends on the type of person you are. For me, I was able to identify that I am an introvert. I gain energy from being alone. When I find I need a distraction from anxiety, while some people flock to friends or family, I find that I need to be alone. I take a long shower, or go on a long drive, or simply shut off my phone and sit alone. Once I know that I am safe, alone, and there are no expectations for me other than my own, I find I am better able to either work through what is making me anxious, or move on to something new.
OnlineFriend123
December 8th, 2015 4:49pm
Wouldn't it be great if we could just put our anxiety in a box to deal with it when it's too overwhelming? Unfortunately, emotions don't quite work that way. The only way to get through emotions is to face them. However, you can do things to calm your physiological (or your body's) response to anxiety. Deep breathing (breathe into a permeable paper bag if you are hyper ventilating), progressive muscle relaxation, yoga, or other contemplative practices can calm your body and let you deal with the anxiety. Don't forget: anxiety is like a 3 alarm fire so your judgment may be clouded with smoke when you are anxious, try to calm your body before making decisions.
generousUnicorns0224
October 2nd, 2016 4:52pm
I've suffered from anxiety for many years and I see a professional therapist who helps me through it. Some tips in the middle of an anxiety attack are to close your eyes, and find a single happy place. Singing works for me too. Breathing and counting in and out 8-10 times slowly, drawing, writing, or performing any mentally engaging and relaxing activity can help reduce your anxiety loads.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2015 6:43pm
When my anxiety gets bad I like to play puzzles, they help distract me because I start to focus on solving the puzzle
Anonymous
May 1st, 2015 2:03pm
What calmes me down when my anxiety becomes bad is reading books or listening to music. Books are our best friends. They can help us feel less alone and with a good book we can get into a whole new world where our anxiety becomes so small we can blow it away from our sholder. The music is also a good thing to stop anxiety and panic attacks especially if you like classical music like Mozart or Beethoven.
gigantIceCream37
May 1st, 2015 5:12pm
Mmm... a good and healthy distractions? I think listing what makes you feel anxious or by doing something about it. Like talking to here to 7 cups of tea or just by listening to the people who are feeling the same atleast in this you can compare your anxiety level to other people who are experiecing the same. But as practical can be reading a book or having a conversation to your closest relative or friends and if you don't have have talk to yourself. If it still makes you feel anxious ask why your feeling that way. Helping yourself is more important afterall you know yourself better than some strangers.
CaitlinRose
December 10th, 2014 7:52pm
Exercise, calling a friend or family member and asking them how they are doing, partaking in an artistic activity (writing, an art project, etc), listening to some calming music, watching television or a movie, reading a book.
jespinosarenee
September 26th, 2016 8:31pm
Distracting yourself can be a bad thing. Sometimes we need to acknowledge our emotions and listen to ourselves. Ask yourself, "Why am I upset?" Go into detail in your answer. Really listen and pay attention to what you are telling yourself. If you were someone else, listening to your story, what would your advice be? Always remember to be kind and gentle with yourself. Distracting yourself or avoiding your emotions are unhealthy. A lot of times, listening to yourself and feeling your emotions in an understanding and acknowledging way can be what you need to start the healing process. You wouldn't want to be ignored or be told, "That is no reason to be upset," or "That isn't a big deal" by someone, now would you? Don't do that to yourself. Treat yourself to something you love to do that is healthy. Make that a habit. You are important and you matter. Always remember that, and NEVER GIVE UP
bluecarrots66
September 26th, 2016 6:57pm
During the day my friends will tell me jokes, when I get bad I remember those jokes and that really helps me. You could try that.
solabee
June 30th, 2017 6:02am
Going for a walk, or any kind of gentle exercise (yoga, slow bike ride). Listening to soothing music. Making art with your hands (finger painting, sculpting, collaging). Reading a good book with a positive message. Looking at pictures of cute dogs. Watching videos of cute dogs. Honestly, anything involving dogs or animals in general could help. Or trying to focus only on your breathing, and not thinking about anything at all. Anything that helps relax your body and mind will help you when your anxiety gets bad.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2016 11:42pm
I have found afew distractions that really help me one as to carry a stress ball in my pocket and inhale whole squeezing stress ball and exhale while slowly letting go of the stress ball it help calm you down I have also found carrying a object around with me like a water bottle helped it works like a Comfort blanket
XConsolingAngelX
November 23rd, 2016 4:06am
Well whenever I had anxiety attacks right before I would have it I would have some sort of pressure on me so I would use it usually squeeze like a rubber ball or I actually would have like a pack of TicTac's and I will just pop one in my mouth and just leave it there and just focus on whatever I was doing .
AprylFools
April 26th, 2018 1:16pm
Take up a hobby! Sometimes when anxiety does get the best of you, the best thing to do is take several deep breaths and then find a hobby which you can enjoy to busy your mind.
SupportiveSockMonkey
April 17th, 2018 6:44pm
The counting system is one good method, if you try and find an item to use then whenever you find it then you count it (e.g. when I get anxious on a bus I count lamposts or green cars). Another is to listen to music that you can focus your mind on and relaxes you. In addition to this gradual body relaxation is another technique that I use where you start from the bottom of your body and tense each muscle for 5 seconds and release. This shows your body when you are tense and gradually you can use this to relax your body manually. Another tip I learned that is usually for grounding but works okay for this is using the sences. 5 things you can see 4 things you can hear 3 things you can feel 2 things you can smell 1 thing you can taste. This allows you to reaffirm the environment and bring you back to where you are. Hope this helps!
XenSoftly
April 7th, 2018 6:48pm
Some good distractions from anxiety include going for a walk outside, talking with a friend, or doing other activities that keep your mind and body busy.
Ebeyn
April 14th, 2018 7:46am
Talk to someone you know that will understand you. Cry as long as you want. Listen to musics, sleep or eat :)
TheWillowTreeAndI1
April 18th, 2018 10:24pm
I like to play games on my tablet, watch a comedy, talk to a friend or do some sewing. Work also helps me. Anything which moves the focus away from myself and my symptoms onto something which requires my intellect, thinking and action.
0bspeaks
October 30th, 2016 9:48pm
For me, things that stimulate me and require my full attention are the key. Watching TV or playing video games usually doesn't cut it because those thoughts can still creep in while I'm passively consuming what's on the screen - I need to be actively engaged. Things like writing, drawing, playing an instrument, or reading a thought-provoking book have always been useful to me. I suggest you try doing something along those lines and maybe it'll work for you too :)
compassionateHeart82
April 20th, 2018 8:51am
There are a heap of healthy distractions that people with Anxiety use to cope with their anxiety, especially when it all becomes too much. Distractions that will help you, are usually the ones that are things you like doing or even hobbies. Some of the ones i think are the most helpful include: Mindfulness; which includes breathing exercises like deep breathing, focusing on what is around us, focusing on good memories. Listening to music, especially calm relaxing Having a nice warm bath or shower to relax tension Colouring pictures or drawing Watching a favourite tv show or movie, I especially love funny humorous videos on YouTube - but it is different for each person. Cuddling pets, going for a walk Yoga, reading Blowing bubbles - i remember being told this by a therapist a while ago and it is so relaxing blowing bubbles and popping them! even doing some cooking could be a thing to try This is only a short list, feel free to contact me if you would like some more :)
Anonymous
November 5th, 2016 6:00pm
You could read a nice book if you like reading, to try and immerse yourself in another world. Or you could watch some videos on YouTube, maybe some challange or some "satisfying" videos.
hopefulWhisper21
April 23rd, 2018 4:54pm
When anxiety takes over, it is important to turn to healthy distractions instead of destructive ones. Some good methods for this include; writing out your feelings, music, going outside, singing, playing with animals, cleaning, having a hot shower, self pampering
Alyeska81
July 16th, 2017 7:19am
Try closing your eyes and breathing. Deep breaths in, deep breaths out. I usually channel my anxiety into art; I doodle or sketch or paint. You could try taking a walk. Another thing that really helps is keeping a journal of gratitude. Just take a moment out of your schedule everyday before going to bed and note down one thing you are thankful for. Reading this during a dip can really be a booster.
apositivepsych
May 31st, 2018 7:29am
You can indulge in any hobby that calms you down. For instance, painting/ going out for a stroll/ cooking / mindful meditation/ reading/ exercising etc. Hope this helps. Feel free to drop me a message and I will be more than happy to help you! :)
meteoritee
August 3rd, 2017 3:56am
Imagine a peaceful, relaxing scene like a beach, comeplete with sounds and extreme details. I always imagine myself walking down a gravel road in autumn while it rains, imagining a scene with extreme detail, making sure to imagine how it feels, what the mood is, etc.
melonMeloncholy
September 3rd, 2017 8:15am
Here is a list of healthy distractions and self-care techniques I am actively building: https://www.7cups.com/forum/GetSupport_28/ManagingEmotions_47/AnExtensiveListofHealthyDistractionsSelfLoveTechniques_53317/ -- Only you will know which techniques will work for you! Good luck in your research and let us know if you find something that helps you!