I have triggers due to things I've experienced in my life. How do I stop myself from them and be able to live without having to always worry and be on guard?
Last Updated: 12/10/2019 at 5:29am
Alex DS Ellis, MA, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist
Feeling depressed or anxious can be so overwhelming. I want to help you feel better and be able to enjoy life. You are not alone and you deserve emotional support.
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The bad thing is that you always will remember them. The good thing is that you will learn to live with these feelings and feel like a completely normal person. But you have to understand that it all already happened and ended and will never happen again. This is your past.
It can be really difficult dealing with triggers after traumatic experiences, especially when you do not know when exactly you will come across a trigger. if it is getting in the way of your normal life, I would recommend seeking professional help to identify triggering areas. There are things you can do when you find yourself being triggered from grounding techniques and reminding yourself that you are currently physically safe to things like having a rubber band that you can snap as it's distracting and reminds you that you are here in the now and any sort of flashback is just your mind trying to process the trauma. At the end of the day it can be very difficult to "stop" triggers from happening but by having a plan to cope when they strike you may be able to minimise their impact :)
I have a rubber band around my wrist which I snap whenever I get a triggering thought, then immediately focus on describing the first object I see in the most detail possible (color, height, material, firmness, impression it gives me etc). If I don't have the rubber band, I just focus on the description process but the band really helps to truly "snap" out of it.
I think it is such an attribute to be able to recognize your triggers and know that there are situations that might be difficult. Having willingness to confront the issues that perplex us shows tremendous growth. Be confident in the progress you have made and know that you are moving forward. Triggers can sometimes show us there are unresolved feelings we need to address. Give yourself permission time to heal and know that you are doing the best you can. Keep making positive changes.
Everyone is different. There is no one answer fits all to this question. Only you can do what is best for you. Perhaps speaking with a professional counselor or therapist can help you to figure out some coping skills to deal with the triggers that you experience. Good Luck
you will find the answer inside you, you just need to discover, is good to be on guard, but not all time and to dont exagerate
I know what my family has done in my life and how it has made my life a more positive outlook. I know the effects.
I found when something starts to trigger me I will think about what it will cause and from there figure out what I need to do to avoid a situation.
Those triggers are caused by traumatic experiences so try to move on and try to use a way to remind yourself to be on guard for example wear a rubber band around your wrist and whenever you are off guard snap it to focus on the task you are doing, I used this one a lot and it would be a great help for you to snap out of it.
The best thing to do is to not ignore these triggers completely. Gradually expose yourself to it so that you develop a sort of immunity - you become comfortable around those triggers again. Seek professional help, and don't be afraid to express your emotions.
Know that not all triggers are end of the world scenarios. Yes, they may hurt, but they are more likely going to be learning experiences. It's not easy to focus on yourself and focus on others at the same time. Some days are harder than others and that will be okay. Identifying what those triggers are can help you set up a plan of action to deal with them when they arise. Sometimes they will come out of the blue and you will have to take them on the chin as they come. It isn't easy, but it is manageable.
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