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How do I deal with the death of a family member?

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Last Updated: 05/05/2020 at 10:24pm
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bouncyCandy18
April 14th, 2015 4:09am
It is very difficult to get over something so large. I suggest letting yourself feel the way you want to feel for a few days, even weeks. But, slowly try to understand the situation and begin to cope with it. It takes different people a different amount of time to go back to "normal" but on average, it should be no more than 2-3 months.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2015 3:11am
Only you know how. There is only one way to deal with it, your way. Just make sure you accept the love and support of others along the way, and give yourself time to grieve, and time to heal.
SandAndStars
May 25th, 2015 9:46am
I believe the first step, after the tears and sadness, is accepting they're gone. Once you accept that someone you loved is now no longer with you, you can begin to move on and, though difficult, you will eventually know that the person you lost is in a happier place.
DipityEnigma
June 5th, 2015 1:02am
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about the loss of a family member. The first step to dealing with this is to mourn. Don't hold it all in, it will make things worse. Talk about the death of the family member to a counsellor if need be. If you feel you can do so, you could try speaking to another family member or friend. I hope this helps.
MotherWillow93
June 30th, 2015 5:32pm
It is a hard process that involves grieving and letting the pain in. Time heals all scars but you have to deal with the emotion and not bottle it up. Talk about with your family or support group. Then do things to make you feel better or distract yourself for a while.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2015 9:45am
When you lose someone, it's never easy to deal with the pain and emptiness they left behind.. But what we can do to help with the grieving Process.. Is to.. Talk about the person and the good they've brought into your life.. Tall about their positive presence in your life and try to remember that they wouldn't want you to be sad still but.. They'd want you to keep them in your heart and keep the memories of them alive by living through their values.. And ideals.. It's the best way to heal from such losses.
EmiliaRea6
July 27th, 2015 8:00pm
Grief is a very complicated "topic" so to speak. Everyone grieves differently, it comes automatically usually and you go with the flow. Others find it harder than other people. I have lost both my parents and an older sister and I didn't really "deal" with it so to speak. I just felt really numb. Feel free to message me.
Greatlistener87
June 21st, 2016 8:54am
Always remember that that family member is in a better place now with no more suffering and he or she would want you to live your life and be happy.
HopieRemi
- Expert in Grief
July 12th, 2016 8:25pm
First, death is never easy. Second, losing a family member is never easy. There's no one way to deal with death. All I can suggest is that you take the time, and you let yourself grieve.
Anonymous
April 28th, 2020 4:25am
Everyone deals with the loss of a loved one differently. The feelings people undergo and experience also vary person to person. Ways that I deal with grief include writing to them in a journal. This helps me feel more connected to them. I also make sure to check in on those also affected by the loss. Surrounding yourself with people experiencing the same thing can be a great sense of support. Loss is something that everyone experiences at some point in their lives, and there are no set rules as to how you should respond. I suggest finding a way to stay close to those lost but also find a way to branch out and move on realizing that they are in a better place.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2020 10:24pm
Death is very difficult to deal with. Allow yourself time to grieve and don't hold it in. Talk to your family about it and remember the good memories you have all had with the deceased, while they were still living. It takes time to heal, but eventually, it will get better. Sometimes it also helps to write down how you are feeling in either a diary or a letter. You can always write a letter to the deceased family member, telling them all the things you want to say to them. This is a good release technique that has worked for me after the passing of a loved one. Surround yourself with people you love and trust that little by little, it will get better.